u/Normalgirl867

One thing that I'll never understand is how hijabi contradict themselves. So first of all, if you ask a hijabi about it she'll say it's mandatory, because God said so, and that we need to not let men lust over us, sometimes they say it's to let people see our personality and not beauty. OK so these are the same women that style their hijab, wear makeup, wears dresses. If the hijab is to not make men lust over you then why are you styling it and trying it to make it beautiful??? They're like "hijab needs to cover beauty" but then they say "Oh mashAllah you're gorgeous with hijab" the concept of hijab isn't to make you gorgeous but to not let people see your beauty.

Sorry if it's confusing but I wanted to say something that I had in mind for a long time, maybe I'm wrong or what I just said doesn't make any sense, I'm just so angry as someone wearing it by force.

Do you girls also feel like hijab changes a lot your face? I feel like it makes my head is so big, but maybe it's just because hair aren't showing. When I'm not wearing it I feel like my face is so illuminated , I look like a normal person, and then with it on my face seems...dull.

What about you?

Today my dad gave us money to get ice cream, but I know he said that so I could've gone out more, but my sister, who would drive us there, told me to go in and take ice cream for everyone and to pay.

And I quickly said no, because I know that, that one ice cream shop is really crowded, and I quickly started to make excuses.

And I hated when my sister told me that I just had to talk and pay, but for me is much more, I hate when they feel like I'm so shy and I don't know to do basic things.

But also I feel like I'm so behind, I'm almost 17 and I don't to do these basic things.

But when I start reflecting, I think that if she shop was empty,or just 2 people sitting out, I would do it maybe.

I always say I'll try to do these type of things but I never.

I feel like no one in my family understands me, I never say why I don't want to do that bc they'll think I'm crazy, and say that I'll always find myself in situations where I'll have to talk, and that's right, but they don't try to understand my anxiety or to reassure me.

Is someone in a similar situation?

I usually don't go out, but this time when my mom asked me to walk with her, I said yes.

She was telling me to hurry up and I told her to wait for me so could put the hijab, she said to just throw it on anyway it's night and none will see us.

As we stepped out i said if I could put the hood of the hoodie on top and take off the hijab and she said yes.

I had half of my hair showing but it was tied, but it still felt so beautiful.

I felt from the first time myself , I was so happy.

Of course I kept making the hood slip, so I would feel more the wind on my hair.

For anyone who hasn't done that, do it!!!

I loved it

I just finished seeing more than 1000 photos of the 90s of my mom, family ect.

And what I noticed is that she was wearing skirts,shorts, pants,dressed however she wanted.

When I showed my mom one of her pictures she said "we dressed like that only for photos, not to go out" I actually think she's maybe lying.

I know she hide these photos from dad so she might have said that to hide it.

Literally no one was wearing hijab, and seeing them I just wanted to cry, because, why I didn't get the chance? Why I had to wear the hijab? This is so sad.

It's also sad that when they get married they wear hijab and stop dressing how they want.

What happened after the 90s?everyone so conservative.

I hate that

After corona virus, I started going out less, and I think that's normal bc of the lock down, but then, after some months, I had to wear hijab, I got bullied in middle school.

And I think that I started to not go out because I feared meeting my bullies, but at the same time, I think that now(I still have this problem) I don't want to go out because of hijab.

Like every girl I want to dress and feel beautiful if I want to spend some time with friends ect.

But when I wear hijab I feel like when people meet me they see my hijab, and they think I'm super religious, oppressed.

And I hate that, I hate the stares, I want my religion to be private, I just want people to know me like i am. I just want to dress with short sleeves, let my hair free,i want to feel beautiful.

And this happens every summer, my parents start telling me to go out, stay with friends.

But I can't because 1st it's so fucking annoying the hijab in summer 2nd I feel so embarrassed when I'm wearing modest chlotes, I feel like an old lady trapped in a teenage girl.

Anyone in my same situation?

It's summer and wearing hijab is getting hard, I HATE to feel the fabric on my neck and having to wear those fucking shirts.

I said to myself that I was going to take it off after finishing hight school(I have two years left) but now I'm thinking maybe to take it off at the start of the 5th y of high school, because my sister in that year she will go to middle school and 100% my parents will start saying she has to year hijab, so I will stand for her and maybe even say why they shouldn't force her and how that has ruined my life.

I can't have a conversation abt it now, I hate talking about religion with my family, so I just thought that would be the perfect moment.

But the other problem (a really small one) is how people react, I have a hijabi friend I know she will say something, and I don't care, but going in a class where everyone has seen me without it makes it weird, especially when they will ask questions.

Can you sisters pray for my cousin, she's sick, she's been in the hospital for days, they still don't know what is it.

I know from what my aunt told me that she's better than yesterday but she still can't stand.

Just please pray for her that is not something bad.

❤️

In this week I wore baggy jeans and a simple zip up hoodie, like I always do, I feel comfortable, but when I was going back home, it's was HOT, and now it's the time I should start wearing shirts, I fucking hate them with the hijab, I look old, I would wear them without a hijab and style it buy it's just so ugly, and now I always feel the heat with the hijab on,I always wait for when I get home and the first thing I do it's taking it off. And it's also the time where everyone will be asking how do you deal with the hijab in summer. The other day I went to the garage to take something, it was around 7pm, I was wearing just a t-shirt and loose pants, and feeling the wind through my hair was amazing, I feel more beautiful, It just felt like I was living, and btw I live in a small apartment and there is a canal water (I don't know if it's the right word, sorry for the English) and on other side there's a park with a football pitch, so the canal it's between the house and the park, and I was seeing people, I just wanted to be so much in their place and to be there just like I was, with my hair free.

Are you girls struggling with the heat and the hijab?