Is it wrong or overstepping to ask my husband to get new underwear?
Let me preface with, my idea is I would buy him two new packs. So I don't just expect him to spend the money if it's my preference.
Essentially the title. We all have that older pair of underwear that has holes in it and the wait band is doing that funky wrinkly outstretched thing. But it's just honestly a turn off if we're getting into doing the deed and I see his really worn, older underwear. I believe they're boxer briefs and I can easily buy him two packs of the exact same brand and size he wears.
My only thing is even I have under wear that is older but I keep it for when I'm on my period. I feel like it's a common thing with girls (or at least me so if this doesn't apply to generally most girls, the following is what I do) that you do get new underwear every bit of time maybe once or twice a year. Then anything that has been stained, or has the whole bleach spot thing going on with the crotch, or has holes, etc., goes in the chopping block and gets used solely as period, or pre period underwear, or just for when you know no one's gonna see your underwear for sure one day and you still need to do laundry for the week. Like all of this I do so I'm also guilty of having old underwear for sure.
But he will wear his old holed underwear any day and it's just unpleasant if we're trying to get into the mood and get into our underwear for foreplay or something.
My other worry about this kinda situation is that I would definitely not want to be critical of his current underwear and NOT get him his replacement if it's my preference but at the same time I worry it will parentify me if not in his eyes in mine. I don't want to become his mom and buy him underwear. And I would kind of hope as an adult he'd realize he should buy new underwear.
But at the same time that's unlikely because he's the stereotypical guy that doesn't buy clothes for himself he doesn't go shopping for himself like that. And also he's the type to think that him not buying something new is him just being okay with less in life and not needing more in life kinda guy. But like this is underwear I don't think it should apply in this case. I feel like wearing normal Hanes and not like Calvin Klein underwear should be within this mind set. Not just wearing holed worn underwear vs new underwear.
I do give him some grace because we just moved in together and this is his first time living in his own but he really is almost entirely self sufficient. It's not like a manchild-can't-do-anything-on-his-own situation. (Otherwise I wouldn't be with him) I just think he's not use to buying clothes for himself and thinking about it.
All in all I just want to know how y'all think I should go about this?
Tldr: should I ask my husband to buy new underwear (or but him new underwear) because it turns me off or should I keep my mouth shut because we all have old-ER underwear?
Edit to add: also I do worry if he does get the new underwear (whether or not I get it or he gets it) that he won't throw out the old pairs)
Oh should I do it when I and also getting new underwear???