u/NusumuHebi

I'm sick of people saying that the whole "asexual spectrum" and "aromantic spectrum" is some progressive thing. It's not, it's just another way to avoid talking about us all because to the rest of the "community", we aren't asexual, greysexual/romantic or aromantic, we're just "the good" heterosexuals to them.

When will the "Asexual spectrum" community wake up and stop blindly listening to everything? Why does nobody question anything? In your entire time of just hearing, "Well you share some similarities with this other sexuality, so you're just a different version of them!", when this treatment isn't given to Lesbians, Gay Men and Bisexuals or Transgender, Non binary and Intersex? They get to be separate from each other but within a same section because they understand that while the core of their orientation is similar, they have different problems and views of their sexuality/gender... So why do you never question why this is only put upon US?

Asexual people, Greysexual/romantic people, Aromantic people, and people who align within multiple of those all exist, but we aren't the same. But simply because people can't accept that we are valid, that we are not just "glorified straight people", we are all obviously just the same. But hell, even that's not enough because guess what? Asexual People and Aromantic people CAN like sex/romance too! This way, they can be that AND gay!

Hooray! The Asexual Spectrum are oppressed now! Now we can integrate them into the community! We are absolutely doing this because of inclusivity and not because of our (internalized) aphobia. Asexuals are valid, but only if they can be gay and/or have sex!

Greysexual and romantic people too, aren't you going to question why you, who IS capable of feeling this attraction, but needs time or certain circumstances, is being considered the same as someone who will never feel it ever? Aren't you realizing that this is because they don't think you're valid either?

There is no "spectrum". Only leftovers, but this community will never realize that because they'll just keep licking the boots of those allonormative parasites who claim it's all in the name of inclusivity.

Sorry to make one of these posts, but I've identified as aroace for a long time because I simply never liked sex or romance. Sometimes it's fine in fiction but I never liked the actual romantic parts of it, if that makes any sense and whenever confronted with it in real life, even within just jokes I would always feel a little sick. I just couldn't understand any of it. I occasionally found women attractive (mostly those tall elegant ladies) but I always just brushed it off as aesthetic attraction

But honestly, with these years going by I've started to enjoy mom fantasies, if you know what I'm getting at and every time I'm done with the moment I always feel disgusted with myself. Or rather, I've subconsciously liked it and am only now getting disgusted. And it just so happens this aligned with realization that my mom emotionally and borderline sexually abused me, and my growing hatred of her. Even if I was a girl it felt like she saw me as more of a husband than my dad if that makes any sense

Andthen it all clicked and I felt horrible because I feel like everything is just a lie and that I'm not actually asexual (Say that again) but just a screwed up excuse of a human being who desires his mother and nothing else. It makes me sick because I've been living out my life thinking I was happy despite everything but in reality I was just giving into a delusion and I'm just as, if not even more disgusting as the people I deep down had contempt for.