u/OCD1998

It was thursday night around 6PM I was taken off tills and shift leader said I had to do bins/litter picking duties so got my gloves and trash grabber and off I went

As im in front of the store I see a customer get angry and shout "IT NEVER FUCKING WORKS!" and proceeds to repeatedly punch the cash machine.

He then see the rubbish bin tells it to "Fuck Off" and then knocks it over

Two people leave their car to walk past him (a father and son) and pick the bin back up

The Angry guy starts having a go at them from the car and then drives out

Me at this point has just stood there and watched the whole thing unravel

He then drives and stops next to where I am rolls the window down and says "im going to leave here do a U-turn come back and kick your fucking head in"

I respond "okay mate, see you in abit"

He never came back after that lol

It was Wednesday around 14:00 before school rush. I work at a Tesco express and predominantly do till work hardly any stock filling. Anyway a male around 5ft10 stocky build looks early 20s with a messy beard comes in. Conversation as follows:

Customer: "alright mate 20 sterling please".

Me: "yeah no worries mate do you have any ID on you?".

Customer: blows out air in shock looks confused, looks around and then looks me up and down then says "mate.....I have a beard?".

Me: "yeah i can see that mate....so do i".

Customer: "yeah and how old are you then?".

Me: "22".

Customer: "oh im 24".

Me: "okay cool....so do you have ID on you then or....".

Customer: "oh yeah here you go" hands me ID.

Me: checks it, looks all good, I put cigs through, he pays then leaves.

Me: "FML why are people so difficult".

Hello everyone. Im in a tough spot atm and I dont know what to do.

Im currently seeing a girl and we are exclusive however she is extremely private around her phone to the point it looks and feels extremely suspicious.

There's things she does for example:

keeps her phone faced down to not get distracted but then will sit next next to me and go on it

she majority of the time takes her phone everywhere with her instead of leaving it on the side/table.

when I forgot my card to pay for a drink at a petrol/gas station i asked if I could use hers and as it was on her phone she got out her car walked into the station payed for it and then got back in

I asked to go on her phone to check something out of worry and she tensed up she said why and i said i didnt want to say because could give her the chance to delete some stuff and she wouldn't let me unless i said. I told her I still wanted to make sure that the dating apps we had were deleted and her face froze to which I said you still have them dont you and she said no but then did show me and they weren't there.

Recently we were in bed and her phone kept going off and she kept going on it which hurt because theres been times ive messaged and shes not responded because she wants to be "pressent" with people so to me this felt like a slap in the face. I asked who it was and she said it was her brother. I said could I see and she said no as it was private and its between her and him. I then said because she told me it was on SC could I go on her SC menu to see then as he would be at the top of the screen and I wouldn't go onto her private messages and she just said no. I told her this was on my mind and I wouldn't be able to sleep and she stormed out and left.

She has in the past reasured me with some things ie I ask her to swear on her family's lives that this or that hasnt happened, ive asked her to film where she is or people shes said shes with to know shes telling the truth (im not proud of that and I am going to find ways to adress that as I dont like it either).

There had been a few different things prior to all this where she had done or said things that felt off but I buried it down which lasted maybe a few days to a week but remained. It then made me have my guard up around her and think the worst. Eventually I exploded and told her what I was worried about and asked to see her phone which she did but only if she held her phone and went through it in front of me and she knew what I was going to ask to see before hand.

Im stuck right now as in terms of her phone she acts suspicious to me and I think other people would agree too who dont have OCD. I tried to suppress the thoughts feelings and emotions doing Exposure therapy but it didnt work and made me more bitter and hesitant towards her.

My main worry is I see stories of people who got cheated on and their partner was cautious of their phone and would take to the bathroom and do similar stuff in seeing and then eventually found out they had been being cheated on and they "wished" they had gone on their partners phone to not only find the truth but to end years of commitment to them while they had been getting cheated on.

Her Ex apparently knew her code and used to go on her phone when she was asleep, thats why apparently she is so protective of it. She never knew his code. One night he left his phone unlocked a notification popped up, she went on it and found out he was cheating on her.

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Im intrested in asking people who are in a relationship with OCD how you cope question for both the person checking and the person being checked in relationships where there partner has OCD or you both may have OCD.

Say for the person chrcking: you get that crippling/dread/pit in stomach feeling that you think your partner who you love and care about deeply is either cheating on you in whatever way you imagine or being unfaithful. What goes through your head? Do you sneakly check or ask straight up? If you get told no what do you do? Do you sprial if being told no?, How many times do you continue to check afterwards? Do you try to stop it or suppress it, if so how?

For the person being checked on: when your partner asks you to see your phone what's your first thought and emotion? If you say yes and you hand them the phone what do you then think? Are you worried? If you say no what do you think then? If your partner does their checks and are happy and then want to check again how do you feel/what do you think then?

Im intrested in asking people who are in a relationship with OCD how you cope question for both the person checking and the person being checked in relationships where there partner has OCD or you both may have OCD.

Say for the person chrcking: you get that crippling/dread/pit in stomach feeling that you think your partner who you love and care about deeply is either cheating on you in whatever way you imagine or being unfaithful. What goes through your head? Do you sneakly check or ask straight up? If you get told no what do you do? Do you sprial if being told no?, How many times do you continue to check afterwards? Do you try to stop it or suppress it, if so how?

For the person being checked on: when your partner asks you to see your phone what's your first thought and emotion? If you say yes and you hand them the phone what do you then think? Are you worried? If you say no what do you think then? If your partner does their checks and are happy and then want to check again how do you feel/what do you think then?