Bestie forgot my birthday but expects me to remember hers

I’ve had this really close friend for 14 years now, though I'm not sure if I'd still call us "best friends."

For the last two years, she has completely forgotten my birthday. Last year, she forgot but called me on my birthday to borrow $200 for an "emergency" which turned out to be for her new guy's birthday two days after mine. I gave it to her anyway because I thought she genuinely needed it, and she never paid me back.

This year, a few days before my birthday, she texted me to help her pick out clothes for a vacation with a new guy again. She later invited me to join, but when I asked for the dates, she said my birth date, clearly not realizing what day it was. I declined and just said I had plans.

So, yesterday was her birthday, and I honestly just didn't feel like wishing her. This morning, I got a call and texts from her asking, "Did you forget something?" I texted, "I don't think so," and she was like "Are you sure? Because I think you forgot something"

Now, I really don't have the energy to talk or argue about this right now. I also don't want to come across as petty or like I'm playing a "tit-for-tat" game, especially since I never brought up the fact that she forgot my birthdays. I’m the kind of person who has gone out of my way to surprise her in a different city, and every birthday I send her flowers, cake, and gifts. Meanwhile, I don't even have a single thing that she ever gifted me, even casually. I never used to mind because gifting is just my love language, but now I'm drained.

How do I avoid this conversation entirely? Or bring this maturely, now that we are in our early 20s not kids anymore.

Edit: like you people suggested I tried to match her energy and said that you didn't wish me either, I thought birthdays are not our thing anymore. She said she never missed any birthdays of mine and was making up stories like she clearly remembers that she wished me and also asked me if I needed any present. And when I replied ( no you didn't) she started cursing and blocked me. She didn't accept a thing and blamed me that I was doing this to her. Anyway, thanks for your suggestions and support,❤️ this was supposed to happen someway or other way and I also got to see this other side of hers which I never saw.

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u/Odd_Cupcake_8992 — 3 months ago

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u/Odd_Cupcake_8992 — 5 months ago

Received interview mail, need advice

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u/Odd_Cupcake_8992 — 5 months ago

Received interview mail, need advice

So, I applied for a digital marketing role at Accenture 6 months back and after a week I got a rejection mail but out of nowhere this afternoon I received a call letter email for the same role asking for a face to face interview and the interview is "tomorrow". I'm kind of in a panic mode right now because I was not expecting this and I'm not prepared at all I got less than 24 hrs, Is this normal process? What's the interview procedure like? And how do I prepare for this role?

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