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Hi everyone, I’m 23 and about 50 days ago I started talking to a girl online from another country. For the first month, we talked almost every day and really enjoyed our conversations. Early on, she told me that when life gets difficult, she tends to disappear for a while, focus on herself, and come back once things improve, although she couldn’t say how long that usually is. Two weeks ago she stopped replying for three days, then explained she was going through a hard time, wanted to focus on work and improving her situation, and said she’d come back when things got better. Since then, I only hear from her when I check in, but she’s always warm, thanks me for supporting her, asks about my exams, jokes with me, and says she hopes we’ll talk again soon. She doesn’t seem uninterested, just unavailable. Would you wait, ask for clarity, or move on? What would you do in my position?

Hi everyone, I’m 23 and about 50 days ago I started talking to a girl online from another country. For the first month, we talked almost every day and really enjoyed our conversations. Early on, she told me that when life gets difficult, she tends to disappear for a while, focus on herself, and come back once things improve, although she couldn’t say how long that usually is. Two weeks ago she stopped replying for three days, then explained she was going through a hard time, wanted to focus on work and improving her situation, and said she’d come back when things got better. Since then, I only hear from her when I check in, but she’s always warm, thanks me for supporting her, asks about my exams, jokes with me, and says she hopes we’ll talk again soon. She doesn’t seem uninterested, just unavailable. Would you wait, ask for clarity, or move on? What would you do in my position?

Hi everyone,
I’m a 23-year-old guy, and about 50 days ago I started talking to a girl online. We live in different countries, so everything has been long-distance.

For the first month, we talked almost every day. The conversations were natural, long, and enjoyable. We talked about our cultures, families, work, studies, movies, and everyday life. There were no arguments or drama, and we both seemed to genuinely enjoy talking to each other.

One thing she told me early on was that whenever she goes through a difficult period in life, she tends to disappear for a while, focus on herself, and come back once things get better. She described it as a “short period,” but when I asked what she meant by “short,” she couldn’t really give me a timeframe.

About two weeks ago, she suddenly stopped replying to my messages for three days. Naturally, I became worried because this had never happened before.

After those three days, she replied and told me she was okay, that she was going through a difficult time, and that she wanted to focus on work and improving her current situation. She also said she hoped everything would get better soon and that she’d come back once things were okay again.

Since then, we haven’t gone back to talking the way we used to.
Since then, the communication has mostly happened because I check in on her from time to time. Whenever I do, she replies warmly. She has reassured me that she’s okay, thanked me for encouraging her during a difficult time, said my words made her feel a little better, wished me luck with my exams, said she’d pray for me, joked with me, and said she hopes everything gets better soon and that we’ll talk again.

So when we do talk, she doesn’t seem cold or uninterested. The issue is simply that the regular communication hasn’t returned.

I’m trying to be understanding because she did warn me this could happen, but I’m also struggling with the uncertainty because I have no idea whether “a short period” means two weeks, one month, or several months.
I don’t want to put my life on hold waiting, but I also don’t want to start building something meaningful with someone else if there’s a good chance she’ll return and things will go back to how they were.

So I’d really appreciate honest opinions.
How would you interpret this situation?
Would you keep waiting?
At what point would you ask for clarity?
If you were in my position, what would you do?

I’m genuinely looking for honest opinions, even if they aren’t what I want to hear.

Hi everyone,
I’m a 23-year-old guy, and about 50 days ago I started talking to a girl online. We live in different countries, so everything has been long-distance.

For the first month, we talked almost every day. The conversations were natural, long, and enjoyable. We talked about our cultures, families, work, studies, movies, and everyday life. There were no arguments or drama, and we both seemed to genuinely enjoy talking to each other.

One thing she told me early on was that whenever she goes through a difficult period in life, she tends to disappear for a while, focus on herself, and come back once things get better. She described it as a “short period,” but when I asked what she meant by “short,” she couldn’t really give me a timeframe.

About two weeks ago, she suddenly stopped replying to my messages for three days. Naturally, I became worried because this had never happened before.

After those three days, she replied and told me she was okay, that she was going through a difficult time, and that she wanted to focus on work and improving her current situation. She also said she hoped everything would get better soon and that she’d come back once things were okay again.

Since then, we haven’t gone back to talking the way we used to.
Since then, the communication has mostly happened because I check in on her from time to time. Whenever I do, she replies warmly. She has reassured me that she’s okay, thanked me for encouraging her during a difficult time, said my words made her feel a little better, wished me luck with my exams, said she’d pray for me, joked with me, and said she hopes everything gets better soon and that we’ll talk again.

So when we do talk, she doesn’t seem cold or uninterested. The issue is simply that the regular communication hasn’t returned.

I’m trying to be understanding because she did warn me this could happen, but I’m also struggling with the uncertainty because I have no idea whether “a short period” means two weeks, one month, or several months.
I don’t want to put my life on hold waiting, but I also don’t want to start building something meaningful with someone else if there’s a good chance she’ll return and things will go back to how they were.

So I’d really appreciate honest opinions.
How would you interpret this situation?
Would you keep waiting?
At what point would you ask for clarity?
If you were in my position, what would you do?

I’m genuinely looking for honest opinions, even if they aren’t what I want to hear.