I have a male friend who used to like a female friend of mine during our college days. She rejected him and later got into a relationship with another guy, who eventually dumped her. My male friend, however, stopped talking to her after she rejected him even when she initiate the contact, and it has been many years since then. What does this tell us about him?
I’m a 31-year-old guy interested in a 28-year-old woman I met at work. We’re in different departments, so our opportunities to interact face-to-face are limited.
I made my intentions clear because I genuinely wanted to get to know her romantically. I invited her to watch a movie, we once spent our lunch break together and talked for an hour, and we’ve had conversations through Instagram and Office MS Teams. I eventually told her that I was genuinely interested in her and wasn’t looking for games or anything complicated.
She told me she appreciated my honesty, but she hadn’t had enough interaction with me to know what she felt or what to say. She suggested that we “take things naturally” because we still work together and she wanted to avoid unnecessary pressure.
Since then, I’ve tried to respect her pace. Sometimes she replies warmly and asks about me, but other times our conversations are brief or she takes hours to respond. Recently, she checked in on me while I was recovering from a fever, and we had another friendly conversation. These moments make me happy, but I know they don’t necessarily mean she’s developing romantic feelings.
Our office schedules may not overlap much in the coming months, so most of our communication will probably be online. I’m willing to keep getting to know her, but I don’t want to confuse patience with waiting indefinitely for someone who may never reciprocate my feelings.
My questions:
I’m not expecting her to owe me anything just because I’ve been patient or sincere. I understand that feelings can’t be forced, and I’m prepared to accept it if she eventually decides she doesn’t see me romantically.
I just want to know whether giving this connection time is reasonable or whether I’m setting myself up for disappointment.
I’d appreciate honest answers, especially from women who have been in a similar situation. Please be real with me, even if the truth isn’t what I want to hear.
Needed help about a girl 22F and me 25M I love her but she don't show commitment
So there's a girl 22 and I 25 met almost a year ago starting 3 months were too good like we are just about to get married so on propose day this year I planned to propose her I made card for her but what happened on 6 feb I mssg her from a place where we usually meet like where are you so she said why you are waiting for me go don't wait for me so I just got lost there like what happened, so I tell her like why shouldn't I wait for you than she said are you looking for a relationship? She told me that you are my best friend I see you as a very good friend and than I told her like I love you so she told me that I don't want any relationship and even don't won't to get married. So I decided that I'll finish everything on 7 feb than I met her and told her like if you want space or time have it I am not in hurry so there she didn't say anything and looked confused till that day we've been talking each day there lots of thing happened like rides,meetup, eating together but not a proper date yet as she is working and busy in her fix schedule. Sometimes she calls me mssg me and I got much happy and sometimes theres some text only but no commitment at all and I literally can't live without seeing her i am so confused.
There's this guy who, i once went into his class during high school and he developed a crush on me, it was very obvious. I started seeing him everywhere, he'd text me constantly and his friends would tease him by taking my name. Honestly he was lowk cute, i remember he'd start visibly shaking and get so nervous if he ever tried to talk to me. Around that time i didn't really have any interest in him and rejected him indirectly plenty of times in order not to hurt his feelings. After talking for a while he proposed me again and i rejected him this time we stopped talking
Things happened and he texted me again, at that time i was in a really toxic relationship he once saw me walking with my bf and got soo pissed that he sort of revenge dated someone? idk if that's the word. He told her that he's been in love with her forever blah blah idk the full story and after a while she found out that he liked me and started harassing me like she'd push me really hard in the hallways i once pushed her back and she abused me and stuff escalated and i complained cause why were these people including me in their relationship drama when i had blocked that guy long before. anyways everything ended (you'd think they'd have dated for long since she was so crazy about him but apparently they broke up soon after idk she cheated or smthg)
Today i found out that he texted one of my friend/ acquaintance asking about me (I have like thirty followers and never accept requests and am barely on my socials)
i just can't really form an opinion about him, like he was always nice to be if i think about it, but i wonder if this is one of those cases where a man chases you because they have this idealized version of you in their head and once you end up giving in they become the worst guy ever
Ok so I matched with this girl on hinge about over a week ago , the extent of the conversation was hi how are you , I said I was good she said she was tired bc she was working nights I asked what she does and got no response until a couple days after when she asked me when I was free and if I wanted to go on a date , I said yes she picked the cafe and day I confirmed and she gave me her Instagram .
I followed her she followed me back but there’s been no conversation at all besides this . For reference im also talking to a guy I matched with on hinge and have plans to meet up , we have been talking non stop and I feel like we match eachothers vibe because we’ve actually been speaking .
I was saying that maybe she’s just one do those people that prefer to talk in person instead of over text but she spams her main instagram stories with vids of herself and texts so I think she is quite a social online person .
What do I do? What do u guys think ??
Me 32 female him 29 male. Just looking to see is this normal. Talking about a month and have had 4 dates. At the start we were sending big essays to each other and responding quick. Dates have gone well one had to be rescheduled due to work (he works in a high performance job). On the last date he asked me to meet again and this is planned however since that date there have been 5-7 hour delays sometimes without messages and dramatic length decrease. He has a very busy period in work and a lot of hobbies outside of work. Date 5 is still planned and I have asked is all ok and he has said yes just busy. Is this normal or am I being slow faded? Messages I receive aren’t very flirty but checking in on me updating me on things his side.
Hey guys
So i would like to share something.
Since past 2 -3 weeks I found a girl from (social media)/(something like that but it isn't ).
We have been interacting and sending msgs on apps and chatting without any care for the time/work.
And slowly I asked for her number.she gave it and we texted on WhatsApp and then we mostly msgd .
She used to speak in 1 words in the starting stage slowly she changed she became interested and all and started showing care and started asking about myself what I do and other cared things.
Things started to look good and we even agreed to going for a movie together,
But
one fin9 day i casually texted nd and after 30 mins she saw the msg and didn't replied and i casually dropped a funny msgs like why are you replying,even though you have seen the message and something like this.
She got hyper.and she replied with-
Is there a demand that I need to answer every fckng msg of yours.
Like she said who tf r u! (Something like this)
And also she said I was mentally torturing her (I mean I never even speaked her in a singular name I only called her meru/andi/aap )
She was saying why do you msg me everytime something like this and also advising me to concentrate on your job and focus on your future.
I mean wtf ,by the way she got fired from her job pretty recently.
She changed all of a sudden.wht hond to her since then i said sorry I won't disturb you. And gave her a pretty good reply.
She only replied with (👍 Done ).
Should I msg her or delete her number and disconnect with her .
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I(41f) met a guy (33m) while out with friends. We had amazing conversations via text and a few FaceTime calls which he initiated. We hung out a few time at his house and had a seeming great time. I didn't "give it up", we've only known each other for 2.5 weeks and I dont sleep around. He has a part time security gig which he worked on Fri night. We had plans to see each other the next day, sat. He text me a few times while he was working Fri night... then disappeared. Sat around 2pm he said he had to get his screen fixed and that something crazy happened and he was gonna call me later and tell me about it. He never called and I haven't heard from him since. We were texting all day everyday since the day we met and really seemed to hit it off well. Even after the times we hung out he still communicated and called me..... im just so confused
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Right. So. I like this guy. I'm really into him. We've known eachother for abt a month.
So he started giving me major hints and signs he's into me. And I also gave him a pretty big hints back because well. Im into him too.
Anyways after that, he invited me to hang out with his friends in a restaurant later on. Wasn't much said except for tht.
And problem is. I kinda got my period so was in no mood to go after tht.
And i called him to let him know I'm dipping and just said I had a headache and as far as ik I was pretty chill abt it. And I even said we shd totally hang out next week n everything.
So apparently him and his friends were already there. And honestly I felt kind of hurt because wtf. He invited me then doesnt text or catch up or fuckin wait??
But i was like alr cool. And just let him know I'm not coming. He was like alrr on call. But then like 2 mins later, he responded to my message sent 5 mins ago very dryly.
Idk like. From my pov, he invited me, didn't bother to text/call/wait and just fucking went. And then gave me the driest reply ever. And im pissed. Because isn't it basically courtesy let it he for anyone, let alone a girl you like to like keep with them them once u make plans?!?! Ugh. Like call/text/inform/wait anything????
But maybe from his pov, his friends just dragged him and maybe even when he was there he was waiting for me to come and not fully in the convo and I DID cancel last moment, although it was for a valid reason. And maybe he felt hurt and hence gave me a dry reply?....
Idk
Idk if I'm wrong or he's wrong or we both are wrong. And now we're not really talking and there's tension bw us. Shd I just go up to him and bring up the topic?
Will tht be too weird and desperate??
Idk. PLZ HELP. I just need a 3rd person pov here.
Been seeing this guy since the very beginning of May. We normally talk everyday, even if its just brief. We would normally see each other once maybe twice a week. We are both college students and with school going its slowed down to once every two or three weeks, and texting has been more limited. Sometimes he'll go a week at a time without saying anything, which isnt a big deal, I understand that we are both busy. Especially here lately, hes been very lovey when I do see him, and his texts are all about "I miss you, I want to see you." He even suggested that he wants to start partying together and doing a couples halloween costume. Its currently Friday, I saw him last Thursday and havent heard a word from him since. I texted him Saturday night, with no response. I just thought he was busy. Texted him last night (so Thursday night, since it had been a week) and havent heard anything since. Am I being ghosted? (side note, im sorry this is written so badly im basically just trying to brain dump here)