hey, so theres a guy who i keep matching with on multiple sites but he doesnt reply on any of them. i dknt know why, maybe because all i wrote was "hi, how are you" but i really dont know how else i should dtaft a conversation. i reslly like him but i dont want t come off as desperate or texting him something weird. what should i do?
hi, i need some advice. all my conversations die off after the initial "hello how are you" phase and i keep getting ghosted, even though i try asking questions and keep the conversation going.. how do i not let it die off? what am i doing wrong?
hello, im panicking a bit right now.. i want to make local friends so i thought it would be a good idea to try to find people on tinder. however, i have a long distance boyfriend whom i met on a dating site as well. i didnt intend to get into a relationship with anybody else, but now i feel like i just cheated on my boyfriend.. i feel like a horrible person right now
hey, ive been thinking about pursuing architecture. however, it wouldnt be possible for me to go abroad rn and the application deadline has already passed in my country.
are there any bachelor degree programmes i could look into? i only know of Boston Architectural College but it requires previous studies. also, what is your opinion on online degrees?
i just got diagnosed with bipolar and realised that so far everything i have been interested in have been only due to me being in a manic state.. it was all i ciuld think or talk about and after a month or so, it would suddenly go away. i have been hyperfixated on careers, hobbies, basically everything regarding my identity. and now that im not in a manic state, i feel like i dont even have a personality. it just all seems so fake.. i dont know who i am and what my purspose is anymore
hello, i want to build my resume and portfolio. what are the mbest online courses regarding graphic deskgn or ux/ui design? looking for shorter courses (1 year max), and also affordable ones.
i struggle with social anxiety, but i recently decided that i want to break free from it. so ive been deliberately putting myself into situations that make me anxious, like going out more often, and also ignoring the anxiety when texting people etc.
however, i feel like my fears are actually real about messing up social situations because after the event, i realize that i did end up saying and doing weird things that even i cant put anywhere..
and at this point, its not overthinking, because others do actually feel weirded out about me..
how am i supposed to expose myself and fight my anxiety if its the thing that actually help me not embarass myself??
whenever i talk with someone, either irl or online, i have this urge to run away, because i fear that im going to say or do something that will ruin the conversation, and thus the entire relationship with the person. however, this actually signals the wrong message and people usually think i dont want to be around them, but its the exact opposite..
i know that everyone makes mistakes and embarass themselves sometimes but my mind keeps telling me that theres something inherently wrong with me and i have to "prove" that im actually capable of having a normal conversation. and the worst thing is that over the years because of this, i barely made any friends, never been in a relationship, sometimes having anxiey even when it comes to talking with my family.
how do i get over this?? so many people have complained about it already and i dont want to be like this anymore..
whenever i talk with someone, either irl or online, i have this urge to run away, because i fear that im going to say or do something that will ruin the conversation, and thus the entire relationship with the person. however, this actually signals the wrong message and people usually think i dont want to be around them, but its the exact opposite..
i know that everyone makes mistakes and embarass themselves sometimes but my mind keeps telling me that theres something inherently wrong with me and i have to "prove" that im actually capable of having a normal conversation. and the worst thing is that over the years because of this, i barely made any friends, never been in a relationship, sometimes having anxiey even when it comes to talking with my family.
how do i get over this?? so many people have complained about it already and i dont want to be like this anymore..
Sziasztok, nem tudom mennyire illik a subra a kérdés, úgyhogy elnézést, ha nem..
Idén érettségiztem és a két szak között hezitálok, bár tudom, hogy eléggé távol állnak egymástól.
Leginkább azok a területek érdekelnek, ahol találkozik a matek és a művészet, ezért is tetszett meg a terméktervezés. Emellett érdekel a videójáték- és app-fejlesztés is, a grafikai programozás, animáció stb.
Legszívesebben minden ilyesmivel foglalkoznék, ahelyett, hogy csak egyetlen területet válasszak..
Melyik szakot ajánlanátok inkább? Hallottam jót is, rosszat is mindkét terület elhelyezkedési lehetőségeiről..
Sziasztok, idén érettségiztem és a két szak között hezitálok, bár tudom, hogy eléggé távol állnak egymástól.
Leginkább azok a területek érdekelnek, ahol találkozik a matek és a művészet, ezért is tetszett meg a terméktervezés. Emellett érdekel a videójáték- és app-fejlesztés is, a grafikai programozás, animáció stb.
Legszívesebben minden ilyesmivel foglalkoznék, ahelyett, hogy csak egyetlen területet válasszak..
Melyik szakot ajánlanátok inkább? Hallottam jót is, rosszat is mindkét terület elhelyezkedési lehetőségeiről..
ive been struggling with depression and anxiety for like 7 years now. im 19 but i feel like i already lived a thousand years. im so exhausted and i feel like im going nowhere.
because of my mental health issues, i spent my years just trying to get through life. somehow i managed to finish high school but now im here, lost, still havent decided what i want to study, even though ive been trying to make a decision since the beginning of high school. and now i ended up hesitating so much that ive missed all the deadlines so im basically forced to take a gap year.. i barely have friends because i isolated myself, i have no skills because all my energy was spent on just getting through each day.
i do want to get my life together but at the same time, i dont really see the point. i dont feel anything, i dont enjoy anything, theres nothing im good at. i dont have any drive in this life to achieve anything. im just sort of existing and i doubt that anyone would miss me if i was gone..
at this point i dread every single event, because before any of them, even casual ones like going to a cafe with friends, suddenly i get flooded with anxiety, and i feel the urge to get everything perfect before i leave.
for example there were multiple times where i felt like i have to take a shower, wash my hair, shave, etc. even if it was in the middle of winter and nobody would care anyways. or that i need to have my clothes washed and cant wear "dirty ones".
and there were also multiple occassions where i didnt go somewhere because of the tiniest reason, for example i forgot to charge my phone..
i guess what i fear that if i dont do these, i will worry about them entire event and also that in the case of hygine stuff, i will be judged for being dirty and smelly. (even if i know that im not acrually dirty and nobody else took a shower or have done these emergency things)..
what exactly is this? social anxiety? ocd? does anyone struggle with something similar?
hey, ive been struggling with anorexia on and off for about 6 years now but i reached a point where im tired of being controlled by this illness and i genuienly want to get better.
ive already had a couple of attempts to recover but the problem was always the fact that over the years, ive completely lost my appetite and my hunger, and i also got pretty sensitive to bloating and disgestion issues. my brain always ended up convincing me to eat the smaller portion etc so i wouldnt get bloated..
but i dont want to stay like this forever, i just want to be able to eat like a normal person and not deal with this illness anymore.
for those who recovered successfully on their own, how did you do it? unfortunately i cannot afford therapy..
is it a viable path to make a meal plan for myself to follow, even if im not hungry? how long does it take to get your hunger back? the thing im afraid of is that i will have to keep having to force myself to eat despite feeling sick, and having to do it forever or for an endlessly long time..
hey, ive been struggling with anorexia on and off for about 6 years now but i reached a point where im tired of being controlled by this illness and i genuienly want to get better.
ive already had a couple of attempts to recover but the problem was always the fact that over the years, ive completely lost my appetite and my hunger, and i also got pretty sensitive to bloating and disgestion issues. my brain always ended up convincing me to eat the smaller portion etc so i wouldnt get bloated..
but i dont want to stay like this forever, i just want to be able to eat like a normal person and not deal with this illness anymore.
for those who recovered successfully on their own, how did you do it? unfortunately i cannot afford therapy..
is it a viable path to make a meal plan for myself to follow, even if im not hungry? how long does it take to get your hunger back? the thing im afraid of is that i will have to keep having to force myself to eat despite feeling sick, and having to do it forever or for an endlessly long time..
hey, ive been struggling with anorexia on and off for about 6 years now but i reached a point where im tired of being controlled by this illness and i genuienly want to get better.
ive already had a couple of attempts to recover but the problem was always the fact that over the years, ive completely lost my appetite and my hunger, and i also got pretty sensitive to bloating and disgestion issues. my brain always ended up convincing me to eat the smaller portion etc so i wouldnt get bloated..
but i dont want to stay like this forever, i just want to be able to eat like a normal person and not deal with this illness anymore.
for those who recovered successfully on their own, how did you do it? unfortunately i cannot afford therapy..
is it a viable path to make a meal plan for myself to follow, even if im not hungry? how long does it take to get your hunger back? the thing im afraid of is that i will have to keep having to force myself to eat despite feeling sick, and having to do it forever or for an endlessly long time..
i feel like playing video games and looking at my phone is the only thing i enjoy or the only thing that doesnt bore me. other than that, i dont think i genuienly enjoy anything and i dont know what my purpose in life is..
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i thought that, because i like video games and apps, i should become a developer or a programmer but i feel like its a terrible idea because i probably only like the dopamine of these things and not the actual process behind it.
i also thought about architecture because im inspired and amazed by those very fancy buildings but its not what an architects day to day life actually involves and its a lot more boring and stressful and monotone than what i probably imagine it to be..
i also thought about pursuing art, like graphic design, industrial design engineering, animation, concept art, etc but im not even creative.. whenever i have to come up with an idea i just end up either copying something or overthinking and ending up doing a pathetically simple design instead of being able to "think outside the box"..
im probably overthinking and should just pick something that i can tolerate but i fear that i will have a miserable life if im not interested in my job. i want to have an exciting career and something that is truly "me" and gives me purpose, but i have no idea what that purpose is for me. maybe i have depression or something but others seem to have already figured everything out and im the only one that is completely lost in life..
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both fields interest me and i dont know which one to pursue.
i like architecture because im fascinated by unique environments and i always looked up to famous architects.
as for computer science, im interested in game and applkcation development, but im not sure if i want to become a "hardcore" programmer..
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additionally, after reading many posts and news, i know that both of these fields are in a pretty bad place right now..
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what would you suggest?
Sziasztok, tanácsra lenne szükségem. Mindkét szakot bejelöltem (BME), de nem tudom, melyiket válasszam, mert kb. ugyanannyira érdekel mindkettő. Jelenleg az építészmérnöki van előrébb, mert valószínűleg ahhoz kell több pont, de valamikor döntenem kell majd, nem halogathatom örökké.
Mindkét szakról azt mondják, nehéz elhekyezkedni utána, de a ti belátásotok szerint melyik piacképesebb/összességében melyik érné meg jobban?
im diagnosed with gad and depression, and my days are spent feeling this weird anxious/sad feeling that wont go away no matter what i do. i feel dread when i think about all the tasks i have to do and when i try to relax at the end of the day i just feel empty and guilty. at this point i just kind of got used to it and i dont know anymore if its actually normal to feel this way or not.
what do "healthy" people feel throughout their days? do others actually feel happy?