u/Odd_Throat905

I definitely would have asked for real help sooner but I thought I was managing ok til last week when my husband worked over 70 hrs. The being alone with my LO starts to get to me a bit with talking to myself all day long. And don’t get me wrong I’ve taken the try to get out advice and it works for a little bit but still gets overwhelming.

Last weekend ended up just being fights with my husband because he doesn’t understand the toll of being alone is taking and like others will just say get out and it’ll help. And don’t get me wrong he’s a great father and husband, going above to try and give me what I want, but also he works so much and gets tired while being home quickly so i always feel like im left doing everything. I should say he does clean things up once he wakes up and im asleep but it’s the lonely feeling still.

Anyway after work this week he fell asleep on the couch and I thought I would help him out by plugging in his phone and setting an alarm since he had to be up at 3 am. While doing that I see messages coming in from a girl so kinda naturally check, our phone passwords are the same and we regularly use each others phones. And see on his phone he has several girls I don’t know and they are posting half naked photos and he’s liking them! After knowing everything I’m struggling with mentally and with the weight gain after losing over 150 lbs before the baby. And he decided to basically soft cheat on me in my opinion. Now I’m completely heartbroken and confused on what to do now. Do I think he actually cheated? No but I don’t wanna sound naïve either. Do I think he had the intention to cheat and be with them? Honestly idk and can only assume so even if he says he didn’t

Today I finally reached out for professional help, tho it seems like it is gonna take forever for someone to get back to me then actually get seen.

Kinda just coming here to vent a bit because I know at least one person will understand.

So me and my family (husband, daughter, 3 dogs and a couple other smaller animals) are planning on moving to Tennessee within the next year.
Any recommendations on places to live for low income families or any tips to give for a long move ? We’d be moving from NY

Edit: we’d be moving with my husbands job he does hvac and with his company can work in surrounding states as well if needed. We’re not currently on any assistance programs and don’t qualify for Medicaid here either, I’m only on it currently because I had a child this year and needed something asap before he started. And we’re looking for more outside the city like an hour or so his job would be based in Nashville or Knoxville

I’m a FTM and have been struggling lately, my husband works anywhere between 10-16 hrs most days so when he gets home he usually tries to relax and ends up falling asleep quickly after getting home, which I get if I worked what he did I probably would’ve been doing the same thing but that was also before we had a child.

And we just moved recently to a place where everyone I know is either 1/2 hrs away or over 6 hrs. And my husband is truly incredible with helping with the mental load of the house but I just feel so incredibly lonely. He just doesn’t seem to understand the toll this is taking on my mental health rn because as much as I love our baby it’s so hard being alone with her 90% of the time and how I also don’t get time for myself which i knew would happen but i dont feel like my own person a lot if the time just a mother.

So I guess any tips on how to feel more like myself and get out of this funk?