u/Oh_Kerms

Im never going to a DGR event again so dont flame me for that BUT if anyone is down for a ride or knows of some, I'm hella down.

While I whole heartedly support the mission of raising awareness for mens mental and physical health, the men during the event made it VERY difficult to want to be there. I was questioned whether my bike was mine even though I was sitting on it because "you people are normally passengers". I had photos taken of me without permission (which is fine) but was apologized to because he didnt want to upset my boyfriend or husband. And TWICE, I had someone tell me I had a round ass. And another guy look at my ass, like literally stopped so I would walk ahead, stared at it then said "I like your outfit". I tried stopping a truck from cutting off the group and he got his arm ready to backhand me. And not a single other biker helped or flagged down the police escorts.

Im frankly disappointed that these younger and older guys exhibited these behaviors. I get women are more likely than not, a passenger. But why talk to me like that? Why not apologize to me about the lack of consent, why aim it at a hypothetical man who you assume im there with? And yes, I have a round ass but omg can you just hide it from me that you noticed? I dont fault people for looking but I dont want to know about it. Out of 400 men, sure only 10 were bad but 10 times in a day is A LOT for a woman to feel like an object or accessory.

I know thankfully from someone here that DGR rides aren't all like this and even the women I went with didnt share this experience. But this bummed me out a ton.

While I whole heartedly support the mission of raising awareness for mens mental and physical health, the men during the event made it VERY difficult to want to be there. I was questioned whether my bike was mine even though I was sitting on it because "you people are normally passengers". I had photos taken of me without permission (which is fine) but was apologized to because he didnt want to upset my boyfriend or husband. And TWICE, I had someone tell me I had a round ass. And another guy look at my ass, like literally stopped so I would walk ahead, stared at it then said "I like your outfit". I tried stopping a truck from cutting off the group and he got his arm ready to backhand me. And not a single other biker helped or flagged down the police escorts.

Im frankly disappointed that these younger and older guys exhibited these behaviors. I get women are more likely than not, a passenger. But why talk to me like that? Why not apologize to me about the lack of consent, why aim it at a hypothetical man who you assume im there with? And yes, I have a round ass but omg can you just hide it from me that you noticed? I dont fault people for looking but I dont want to know about it. Out of 400 men, sure only 10 were bad but 10 times in a day is A LOT for a woman to feel like an object or accessory.

I say oops because I didnt read that not only should we be dapper, but the bike should be "vintage" too. I still had hella compliments on it.

Whats cooler than two girls on a bike? Two girls on their own bike <3

I love cooking so I don't mind the extra work to make sure everything is gluten free for her.