u/Ok-Construction106

I still miss someone who emotionally abused me, and I don’t know how to move on.

Our situationship/relationship ended in February 2025, so it’s been over a year now. During that time, he left me probably 10 times. He would constantly block me on every platform after even minor arguments or inconveniences. He always threatened to leave me, and he kept saying he didn’t know if he wanted to be my boyfriend, yet we were still having sex and being emotionally intimate.

It felt like a cycle: he would pull me close, act sweet and affectionate, then suddenly discard me like I meant nothing. After every small issue, he would block me everywhere and disappear. Then I would beg him to come back. I even went to his apartment once crying and begging him to open the door, and he never did.

I spent so much time feeling rejected, broken, abandoned, and disposable. He never hit me physically, but emotionally it hurt so deeply. One moment he could be incredibly loving and affectionate, and the next moment he could completely cut me off without remorse.

What confuses me is that I still miss him so much. I miss the love-bombing phase. I miss the chemistry we had. Even now, I have other people interested in me, but I don’t feel the same connection or intensity with anyone else. Nothing compares.

Meanwhile, he blocked me everywhere and moved on with his life like I never existed. Maybe he found someone else already — I don’t know.

I hate that after everything, I still cry over him sometimes. I still miss the version of him that could be so sweet and caring, even though he also caused me so much pain.

How do you get over this kind of attachment? How do you stop comparing everyone else to them? How do you move on from the chemistry when the relationship itself was unhealthy?

I still miss someone who emotionally abused me, and I don’t know how to move on.

Our situationship/relationship ended in February 2025, so it’s been over a year now. During that time, he left me probably 10 times. He would constantly block me on every platform after even minor arguments or inconveniences. He always threatened to leave me, and he kept saying he didn’t know if he wanted to be my boyfriend, yet we were still having sex and being emotionally intimate.

It felt like a cycle: he would pull me close, act sweet and affectionate, then suddenly discard me like I meant nothing. After every small issue, he would block me everywhere and disappear. Then I would beg him to come back. I even went to his apartment once crying and begging him to open the door, and he never did.

I spent so much time feeling rejected, broken, abandoned, and disposable. He never hit me physically, but emotionally it hurt so deeply. One moment he could be incredibly loving and affectionate, and the next moment he could completely cut me off without remorse.

What confuses me is that I still miss him so much. I miss the love-bombing phase. I miss the chemistry we had. Even now, I have other people interested in me, but I don’t feel the same connection or intensity with anyone else. Nothing compares.

Meanwhile, he blocked me everywhere and moved on with his life like I never existed. Maybe he found someone else already — I don’t know.

I hate that after everything, I still cry over him sometimes. I still miss the version of him that could be so sweet and caring, even though he also caused me so much pain.

How do you get over this kind of attachment? How do you stop comparing everyone else to them? How do you move on from the chemistry when the relationship itself was unhealthy?

Sveiki, jei rasai prašymą išeiti iš darbo savo noru po metų laiko, kiek reikia atidirbt, 20 dienų? Išeinu nes radau kitą darbą, dabartiniam labai daug streso, nebuvo jokių apmokymų, buvo pasakyta eik ir dirbk nors patirties toj srity turėjau lygiai 0. Tiesiog nebuvo kam apmokyt. 😂 Tai po metų laiko pašlijo sveikata nuo streso, aišku daug išmokau. Kiek laiko reikia atidirbti, kad išeiti? Taip pat ar normalu, kad tave tiesiog įmeta ir mazdaug sukis, kai turi 0 patirties? Aciu uz atsakymus.

I begged him to stay. He was such a nice guy when he wanted to be, very sweet, but then he could switch up and say like leave me alone, I’m blocking you, etc etc. But at times he was incredibly sweet and the chemistry was out of this world. I feel like I’m not sexually attracted to anyone anymore after him. I loved his smell, i loved being intimate with him and with others i don’t feel any bond whatsover. Everyone feels dull and boring. Did you guys experience it?

After him, there is no chemistry with others whatsover. Sometimes I really miss the lovebombing because it was out of this world. Like he was obsessed with me in the beginning. After him, there is literally no chemistry with anyone.. does anyone experienced this??

Sveiki, daug čia rašo, kad negali susirasti merginos, bet aš paklausiu kitaip, kas yra susidūrę su narcizais ir kaip sekes isgyti? Turėjau patirties su žmogum, turinčiu nas bruožų, permalė per ciklą lovebombing - devalue - discard. Nuo to laiko praėjo metai, ir su psichologu pagalba ir vaistais šiaip ne taip atsistojau ant kojų. Bet yra baimė naujiem santykiams, ir kartu narco idealizavimas (lovebombing fazėj jis buvo tobulas vyras), kaip sekęs isgyt po tokiu dalyku? Visi kiti vyrai atrodo ne tokie įdomūs, ne tokie žavūs kaip mano buvęs narcas, nors po jo discard 3 mėnesius gulėjau lovoj su didžiausia depresija gyvenime. Kaip sekęs gyti po tokiu dalyku ir kurti naujus santykius? Aciu ❤️

I used to humiliate myself so much in order for this relationship to work. I would go to his house, he constantly blocked me, I would beg him to talk to me. It was clear he didn’t need me. He lovebombed me for like 2 months, than it ended. It’s not normal. You deserve so much more than this treatment. ❤️ No one deserves being constantly rejected. ❤️❤️❤️ it was clear he was enjoying how much of a doormat I was.