I’m actually not the one taking trazedone, my partner is, but he becomes a completely different person once it starts kicking in. Starting fights and causing arguments at night when we are both trying to settle in and absolutely zero capacity to be an empathetic person. I’m curious about what everyone’s experience with it is and if it severely affected your mood or ability to regulate your own emotions. TIA 🥹
I’ve been wanting to play so badly! Any spots with reliable/mostly reliable machines?
AITAH for expressing my frustration with a very close friend?
I’ll try to make this as concise as possible… I was flying back to my home town for a music festival I was going to perform in. A week before I had been discussing with my friend about staying with her. She had been going through a lot and had said I could stay with her. I let her know I’m ok with it as long as you are. It’s the 10 year death anniversary of her dad the weekend I’d be in town and her mom was in and out of the hospital. So she def was going through alot and I was very supportive of her. When I first booked my flight she was sad the trip was so short so I changed my flight to a day later and spent the money to do so to take time to be there for her while she’s going through a difficult time. She had stated that things were up in the air with everything going on so she wasn’t sure if she’d be able to get me from the airport (understandable). Fast forward to the day of my flight, I check in with her to see how she’s doing and ask if she will be able to pick me up. She still doesn’t know, so I arrange a different ride to her place nbd. She also tells me she booked a full day meditation an hour away from my hometown, the day of my festival performance, I had no idea she had planned that so I was a little off put since I was making extra time for her by moving my flight. She also said that my room was ready for me so I didn’t have to worry about that. I finally land in my hometown and am about to get off the plane after our plane had been sitting on the runway for 30min waiting to dock(so I had phone service for a while). As I’m getting out of my seat I get a text that says she was about to come pick me up but her dog just diarrhead on the floor and she never washed the sheets (I’m allergic to one of her cats) and now has to go back to the hospital to check on her mom. At this point it’s close to 9pm, I have a full blown migraine (I get nauseous from them very badly) and the whole situation just felt very chaotic so I just decided to book a hotel even though I really did not want to spend any more money (my flight was expensive as hell). She asked me why I got a hotel, so I was moderately firm with her saying that all the last minute changes made me feel stranded and that I still loved her deeply, but being that I had a migraine and a performance to focus on last minute changes are frustrating. I then invited her to lunch the next day so we could still see each other and hang out.
She then decides to lash out at me Calling me manipulative and accusing me of wanting her to be there for me. Saying I’m selfish and what not. Ultimately saying I’ve done enough and to leave her alone.
Honestly I was incredibly hurt by that bc all I really needed from her was a yes or no if she could or couldn’t do something. I’ve always been pretty flexible, but given the circumstances I had no time to plan around her which I would have if she had just communicated clearly.
A big part of why I’m hurt is because she gave my husband and I less than a days notice that she wanted to get married a few months prior. My hubs got ordained that same day. I was out of town when I got the news but still made a plan to be there for her for her wedding. I got 3 hours of sleep that night bc I had to drive back to my hometown sooner than I anticipated. I booked their wedding photographer, rented nice lawn chairs, planned and arranged the decor, cleaned my house (the wedding was at my house), rearranged my work schedule bc the wedding was on a Monday. Which I did so I’d have time to run through the ceremony, do her hair and makeup , and then coordinate the day of. It was honestly a beautiful wedding. So yes I’m very hurt that someone I poured into so selflessly would accuse me of these things.
It’s been over a month since we last spoke and I considered her one of my best friends.
I’ll try to make this as concise as possible… I was flying back to my home town for a music festival I was going to perform in. A week before I had been discussing with my friend about staying with her. She had been going through a lot and had said I could stay with her. I let her know I’m ok with it as long as you are. It’s the 10 year death anniversary of her dad the weekend I’d be in town and her mom was in and out of the hospital. So she def was going through alot and I was very supportive of her. When I first booked my flight she was sad the trip was so short so I changed my flight to a day later and spent the money to do so to take time to be there for her while she’s going through a difficult time. She had stated that things were up in the air with everything going on so she wasn’t sure if she’d be able to get me from the airport (understandable). Fast forward to the day of my flight, I check in with her to see how she’s doing and ask if she will be able to pick me up. She still doesn’t know, so I arrange a different ride to her place nbd. She also tells me she booked a full day meditation an hour away from my hometown, the day of my festival performance, I had no idea she had planned that so I was a little off put since I was making extra time for her by moving my flight. She also said that my room was ready for me so I didn’t have to worry about that. I finally land in my hometown and am about to get off the plane after our plane had been sitting on the runway for 30min waiting to dock(so I had phone service for a while). As I’m getting out of my seat I get a text that says she was about to come pick me up but her dog just diarrhead on the floor and she never washed the sheets (I’m allergic to one of her cats) and now has to go back to the hospital to check on her mom. At this point it’s close to 9pm, I have a full blown migraine (I get nauseous from them very badly) and the whole situation just felt very chaotic so I just decided to book a hotel even though I really did not want to spend any more money (my flight was expensive as hell). She asked me why I got a hotel, so I was moderately firm with her saying that all the last minute changes made me feel stranded and that I still loved her deeply, but being that I had a migraine and a performance to focus on last minute changes are frustrating. I then invited her to lunch the next day so we could still see each other and hang out.
She then decides to lash out at me Calling me manipulative and accusing me of wanting her to be there for me. Saying I’m selfish and what not. Ultimately saying I’ve done enough and to leave her alone.
Honestly I was incredibly hurt by that bc all I really needed from her was a yes or no if she could or couldn’t do something. I’ve always been pretty flexible, but given the circumstances I had no time to plan around her which I would have if she had just communicated clearly.
A big part of why I’m hurt is because she gave my husband and I less than a days notice that she wanted to get married a few months prior. My hubs got ordained that same day. I was out of town when I got the news but still made a plan to be there for her for her wedding. I got 3 hours of sleep that night bc I had to drive back to my hometown sooner than I anticipated. I booked their wedding photographer, rented nice lawn chairs, planned and arranged the decor, cleaned my house (the wedding was at my house), rearranged my work schedule bc the wedding was on a Monday. Which I did so I’d have time to run through the ceremony, do her hair and makeup , and then coordinate the day of. It was honestly a beautiful wedding. So yes I’m very hurt that someone I poured into so selflessly would accuse me of these things.
It’s been over a month since we last spoke and I considered her one of my best friends.