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I lived in a sublet for one year. Now the main tenant is back and she’s telling me that she will keep some money from the deposit to settle some utilities (which I’m also dubious about) and then she added that she will keep some money as well because some plants died during my stay and she needs to buy new plants.

I took care of the plants obviously but some of them (small plants as well, the big ones are doing well) died. One of them specifically had pests already when she left the apartment to me.
In the contract we agreed that I would pay for possible damage to the property structure and furniture, plants are not mentioned anywhere.

Is this something I can argue?
She wants to keep the deposit money until she buys new plants even tho the term to give me back the deposit is pretty close now.
What shall I do?

I lived in a sublet for one year. Now the main tenant is back and she’s telling me that she will keep some money from the deposit to settle some utilities (which I’m ok with) and then she added that she will keep some money as well because some plants died during my stay and she needs to buy new plants.

I took care of the plants obviously but some of them (small plants as well, the big ones are doing well) died. One of them specifically had pests already when she left the apartment to me.
In the contract we agreed that I would pay for possible damage to the property structure and furniture, plants are not mentioned anywhere.

Is this something I can argue?
She wants to keep the deposit money until she buys new plants even tho the term to give me back the deposit is pretty close now.
What shall I do?

I lived in a sublet for one year. Now the main tenant is back and she’s telling me that she will keep some money from the deposit to settle some utilities (which I’m ok with) and then she added that she will keep some money as well because some plants died during my stay and she needs to buy new plants.

I took care of the plants obviously but some of them (small plants as well, the big ones are doing well) died. One of them specifically had pests already when she left the apartment to me.
In the contract we agreed that I would pay for possible damage to the property structure and furniture, plants are not mentioned anywhere.

Is this something I can argue?
She wants to keep the deposit money until she buys new plants even tho the term to give me back the deposit is pretty close now.
What shall I do?

I'm going through a brutal breakup after being cheated on, and it's done a number on my faith in relationships entirely. I'm not looking for therapy or advice. I've got that covered.

What I'm looking for is real stories from women who have been in a relationship, even one that ended, where the other person was actually a decent human being. Someone who showed up during hard times. Someone who didn't lie, manipulate, or bail when things got uncomfortable.

Not a Disney love story. Not "we never fought." I mean a relationship where both people were flawed and human, but one person (or both) handled it with some basic integrity and care.

I think the internet is saturated with horror stories about cheating, ghosting and narcissists because that's what drives people to post. And I get it. I'm one of those people right now. But I've lost sight of whether healthy relationships actually exist, and I’m honestly feeling existential dread when I think about love and relationships.

So if you've had one, or are in one, I'd love to hear it. Even if it ended. Especially if it ended with dignity.

What did it actually look like?

EDIT: just wanted to thank all of you for sharing your stories! It’s really heartwarming to see the time you’re taking to write about your experiences and to give me a little bit of hope. I wasn’t expecting all these answers, I’m really thankful 🙏🏼

Hi everyone,

I'm in a bit of a stressful situation and desperately need recommendations for an English-speaking tax advice. I

I recently relocated to Berlin and registered as a freelance Graphic Designer (Grafikdesignerin) through the ELSTER portal, opting for the Kleinunternehmerregelung.

My main client for now is a B2B company in the Netherlands. Because of this, my Dutch B2B income is non-taxable for VAT in Germany (under the Reverse Charge system). For this reason, I only declared a small amount in domestic German sales for the VAT limit (I am still trying to close some projects here, but they're really small). However, I declared my actual global income (which will be higher, thanks to the Dutch client) for income tax purposes on the registration form.

Now, the Finanzamt has sent me a letter requesting:
A copy of my university degree to qualify as a Freiberufler (I don't have a degree as I am self-taught, but I have a solid design portfolio of my past work ready as proof of my qualifications);

An explanation for the mismatch between the small estimated German VAT turnover and my higher global profit.

I need to reply to them within the next week, and I just want advice to make sure I can explain my situation to them without making any mistake. I reached out to a couple of accountants recommended by friends, but I think because it's peak tax season in Germany, I haven't received any reply and I am starting to panic.

Does anyone know an English-speaking professional with open capacity who can help me review and write this response? They don't even have to be located in Berlin, anywhere in Germany works if they can do Zoom/email.

I see there are people on Fiverr who could help, but to be honest they don't look very legit and I don't want to waste time and money.

Any leads, direct contacts, or words of advice from fellow freelancers who went through this would mean the world to me. I am also open to any remote consultation services if you know any reliable ones.

Thank you so much in advance for your help!