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TRIGGER WARNING: mention of SA

I don’t think I’ve ever posted here, always just been a silent participant. But I really need some support and listening ears because I am beside myself. My in laws have always been difficult, but this takes the cake. My husband’s father was abusive and an alcoholic throughout his childhood, and my husband has been in therapy for years healing from that trauma. About five years ago, he chose to go no contact with his father after years of incidents. His parents have a very toxic, on and off relationship. A couple of years ago, his mother accused his father of r*pe, which eventually led to a two year protective order being put in place for my husband, myself, and our children. My husband has always had one very clear boundary with his mother: DO NOT give his father updates about us or our children. Do not discuss us. Do not send pictures. Nothing. Well, I am not even SIX DAYS postpartum, and today his father showed up at our door asking to talk to my husband. My husband was furious. And then we found out why he was there. His mother had been sending PICTURES OF OUR CHILDREN TO HIM. Including my newborn baby. I feel so violated. I am absolutely furious and heartbroken. This isn’t just some petty family drama. There is a serious history here, and my husband made a very intentional decision to protect himself and our children by cutting contact. And now his own mother has completely disregarded that boundary behind his back. I’m six days postpartum, exhausted and trying to recover and enjoy my newborn, and instead I’m dealing with this. I honestly just need to know that I’m not overreacting. 😭

Honestly, just looking for prayers or anything else. We found out today our protection order renewal was denied, for not having an ample enough time before it expires. This will cause my father to regain contact with my family and I. He was abusive growing up, manipulative, weaponizes my past, and an evil man. He was abusive towards my mother as well. They split up over 10 years ago, but he remained close contact with her because he enjoys controlling her, etc. 4 years ago it came out that he r*ped her. It was reported, but he was never convicted. In fact, he always seems to escape any justice and has always gotten away with everything. He now has a new family and wife, who just adore him, and they moved 10 minutes down the road. In fact we have even seen him out in public after he moved closer to us. I know he did it on purpose. I of course am the black sheep of my family, and they have framed me as the toxic one for no longer wanting contact with them or contributing into their toxic family dynamic. I know the day this protection order expires he will be contacting me again, starting his manipulation and threats. Like threatening to take me to court for visitation rights of our children. As my therapist describes it, it’s like reliving all my PTSD over again. I guess I’m just looking for a place to vent. If you made it this far, thank you for taking the time to read this.

Honestly, just looking for prayers or anything else. We found out today our protection order renewal was denied, for not having an ample enough time before it expires. This will cause my father to regain contact with my family and I. He was abusive growing up, manipulative, weaponizes my past, and an evil man. He was abusive towards my mother as well. They split up over 10 years ago, but he remained close contact with her because he enjoys controlling her, etc. 4 years ago it came out that he r*ped her. It was reported, but he was never convicted. In fact, he always seems to escape any justice and has always gotten away with everything. He now has a new family and wife, who just adore him, and they moved 10 minutes down the road. In fact we have even seen him out in public after he moved closer to us. I know he did it on purpose. I of course am the black sheep of my family, and they have framed me as the toxic one for no longer wanting contact with them or contributing into their toxic family dynamic. I know the day this protection order expires he will be contacting me again, starting his manipulation and threats. Like threatening to take me to court for visitation rights of our children. As my therapist describes it, it’s like reliving all my PTSD over again. I guess I’m just looking for a place to vent. If you made it this far, thank you for taking the time to read this.

Honestly, just looking for prayers or anything else. We found out today our protection order renewal was denied, for not having an ample enough time before it expires. This will cause my father to regain contact with my family and I. He was abusive growing up, manipulative, weaponizes my past, and an evil man. He was abusive towards my mother as well. They split up over 10 years ago, but he remained close contact with her because he enjoys controlling her, etc. 4 years ago it came out that he r*ped her. It was reported, but he was never convicted. In fact, he always seems to escape any justice and has always gotten away with everything. He now has a new family and wife, who just adore him, and they moved 10 minutes down the road. In fact we have even seen him out in public after he moved closer to us. I know he did it on purpose. I of course am the black sheep of my family, and they have framed me as the toxic one for no longer wanting contact with them or contributing into their toxic family dynamic. I know the day this protection order expires he will be contacting me again, starting his manipulation and threats. Like threatening to take me to court for visitation rights of our children. As my therapist describes it, it’s like reliving all my PTSD over again. I guess I’m just looking for a place to vent. If you made it this far, thank you for taking the time to read this.