He keeps coming to my areas/I’m scared!! What do I do?!
We dated for two months and I’m not going to get into the whole story because it’ll be long but when he dramatically discarded me over something so small I clocked that he was a narc, tied in to all of the initial love bombing and controlling behaviour. It’s been two months since now and I’m still blocked on everything/ vice verca, however he keeps going into the bar my friend works in.
He knows my friend works there and he keeps going in specifically on Tuesday nights (he knows he works that day) and he’s going in with his new girl. This has happened three times now and each time he’s tried to go up to my friend to shake his hand and be matey. My friend has given him the cold shoulder or asked someone else to serve him.
He’s doing this KNOWING it’ll be reported back to me. He never went to this place until I took him with my friends on st Patrick’s day.
The second time it happened two weeks ago I sent him a message on my dads number warning him not to pull shit like that because it’s nasty, and to basically fuck off. I then blocked the number so he couldn’t respond and I’m scared that it’s just got him rilled up. He’s also been hanging outside my other friends bar which she works in knowing she can see him and kissing his new gf when my friend walks out to go home.
I’m back at my parents house so I’m not afraid of bumping into him but soon I’ll be going back to the city and I go out in that area a lot with my friends. I don’t wanna fucking see him ever gain. I’m really freaked out and disturbed. I’ve been in a relationship with a sociopath before and this whole thing has been highly triggering and distressing. I’m tired of having my cortisol spiked every time a friend tells me that he’s come back. I’m in the midst of doing my assignments for my final year of university and a dissertation due in two days. I’ve been in my family home for two months in a freeze response. I’m so fucking done I just want him to be sent to another country or something. He’s trying to get into my soul like a worm. I need some reassurance or an action plan bc I don’t know if he might pull something else