u/Ok-Worldliness5481

She is not the one. She is not for me. She never get over with her addiction. She broke my heart so deeply that I am still suffering. She is gone now. Girlfiend of a 1 year sober guy. She is on social media, time to time I check. She posts slutry pictures. Still inviting other men’s attention to her. That makes me want her and desire her. Im totally fine with her having a relationship but this social media posts gives me signs that she is open to other men too. It sometimes feels like just a sexual desire. I dont know if this part of the Al-anon or a personal problem but I would not text or contact with her. I am over. I am more peaceful. These feelings are temporary..

After living with an alcoholic, you get triggered constantly. Your inner self, call it the "ego" or "false self" built its existence around that person. Getting triggered proves the ego has been alive and working for a long, long time.

Once that source is gone, the ego falls into crisis: "What do I do now to stay alive? To stay in work?" Nothing. It's asking, "What am I worth without him or her?"

This is the real source of the withdrawal we all go through.

You don't need them. It was never a healthy connection. Fixing someone is never your responsibility.

Hi, I am with Shopify since March. So far, about $35-$40k is being processed by credit card, my payouts are set to be shortest but still it takes at least a week. Will this get better?

Dont try to stop them.

Dont try to explain them.

Let them be, let them drink as much as they can until they can not drink anymore.

This is the best thing you can do. LEAVE THEM ALONE and Let them drink as much as they can so decide to stop one day! Who knows when but its not your job.

Hi folks!

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I dont know where to start, i met with her 6 years ago. We had numerous break ups because she wasn’t the one. Truly. She is an alcoholic, bipolar, not well educated so not open to learning. Whereas me totally opposite, not drinking, healty mindset( I thought so far) educated, so deep in to learning etc.

After our last break up she needed help I gave her my car, after she crashed it. It finished it totally.
Then due to some legal issues, i had to call her back. Once i got back to her, she was defeated by alcohol. Lost the job, got a dui, bills are not paid. She was lost lost. Signed up to escort sites.

What I did? Took her to AA, put her on the medicaid. She went to detox. She got better every day. Meanwhile thinking that she is alright, i managed my own life. Oh what? She started chatting with another guy. One night, the biggest mistake ever, i got her phone. It was bad. Pictures, texts selling her pictures.. wow. Still cant get over with it. I let her go again. Then she came back, I started again to take care of her. She said, she wasn’t in a good mind etcz when someone says forgive me, I do. Later on, She got in to better position, found a job etc. she finally moved in with her mom. I knew she wasn’t the one. I knew we were not going to be anything but one day, she said “ i will move on by my own” she found a date immediately. ( guys, girls can do that) i was all alone and lonely. She didn’t even say it in real not even a hug. She left. Now I am desperate sad and depressed. I asked her to talk, for a last time. She said “she is genuinely happy with her relationship and see no point”. Wow. I never thought i would feel defeated lost and this bad. I feel like a kid who’s lost its favorite toy. Crying crying crying. The toy was broken tires were falling apart but, explain it to the kid.

This shall pass. I’m not going to contact with her not going to text her. She is still an alcoholic, she is still bipolar( which is ok), bankrupt, sex worker, selling pictures, still not taking a shower bc she is so depressed.

Now the only difference is she is not my problem anymore.

Let her date think, “ i hope she didn’t drink today, i hope she wont get fired, i hope she got her medicine, i hope who texted her wasn’t a sugar daddy, i hope we will find a way to get her out from bankruptcy, i hope she eats better, i hope she starts taking care her body”

Anyway thank you reading.