u/OkTataByeBye12

Update 1 - so that was on saturday when my HOD shouted at me about something related to my husband (who is HOD of another department).

On monday, while I was still processing whatever happened on Saturday, I was trying to maintain a distance from my HOD. He asked my Line Manager to call me, while I went, he was standing with around 20 people and seeing me walking towards him from afar started shoutingly asking - why this task hasn't been done, why that task hasn't been done. Those very tasks which I have been telling my Line Manager about being due because other team members haven't been doing their parts. Line Manager despite being aware where the issue was, kept mum and the HOD kept shouting at me. I heard for a while and then RETALIATED because he kept getting louder. I told him it wasn't done because what all tasks I used to do years back are now the responsibility of newer team members and there was a gap in delivery from their side. Still he kept shouting why you didn't do it, despite me telling that none of my counterparts does it and newer team members are supposed to do and I had escalated to the line manager. He called the juniors right away and started scolding them. When I stood firm that the gaps were there and Line manager was well aware, he snapped and shouted me to leave asking my Line manager to never give me that work.

What happened on Saturday, i tried to think as one odd incident and thought of confronting him sometime later, but now he doesn't seem to stop and is hell bent on getting my husband's frustration on me.

I am thinking of a lot of things to do, pls suggest. All inputs will be appreciated.

Husband and I work at the same MNC, different departments (inherently anti functions). He is the department lead and often has conflicts with my department head (by the nature of work). Of late, my head has been making comments/statements to me related to him, Oh he can't do this, he doesn't do this, why can't he work this way, why can't he do things that way. Yesterday he tried calling my husband but couldn't reach out, so shoutingly told me PASS ON MY MESSAGE HE WILL HAVE TO PAY FOR DOING THINGS THIS WAY, I WILL TELL THE MANAGEMENT AND HE WILL HAVE TO SUFFER IF HE CAN'T REALISE THE GRAVITY OF THE SITUATION. HE IS GOING TO GET SCREWED IN INTEGRITY ISSUES. (The topic of discussion wasn't even that serious, just routine functional conflicts, finance and operations kinda)

I was so stunned at what just happened and couldn't react at that moment, but now that I have come to terms of it and discussed with my husband, I AM MAD MAD. So mad I could slap him. What do I do?

What is up with Isk*on? I mean pls pardon for my ignorance but what is this surge on social media and hype bw younger people? My cousin who recently got a job is giving 70% of his salary to Iskcon, whereas his family is lower middle class and barely making ends meet.

He is also into some routine and lifestyle, eating at fixed hours, fasting, waking too early, tilak, mala, dhoti, telling something about works and going to temples god knows where.

We tried discussing but he loses calm everytime, he says once my sister is married, i will start giving 90% salary to Iskcon and will never marry. As per him Krishna is the only God and others aren't.

I have a family friend who was once my classmate. Made it to IITM, got a handsome package but after some months into job, he cut ties with family and serves Iskcon and gives 99% of his salary there.

Beyond our understanding. Seeking anwers and/or opinions here.

I 30F haven't been someone who has loved to travel all these years. I mean (touchwood) - I can afford, so can my husband. We together can afford 4 5 nice trips in India and 1 trip once/twice a year. But we barely went ever.

BUT, when I used to look around and see people who kept on craving for and planning for trip & travels I used to wonder WHAT IS UP WITH THEM. What is this thrill that they are chasing?

And I on the other side would feel like after all the hard work I do at work for weeks and months, If I am taking leaves - I should bd resting at home, sleeping, netflixing and chilling with my husband lol, to rest and reset my body, considering both our jobs are physically and mentally consuming & draining.

This time my husband pushed a lot and we went to a 15 days trip to 2 countries, and something in me has changed. I keep looking the photos, I keep thinking of the places we went and the thi gs we did. I miss doing it all. Haven't ever had this feeling regarding travels earlier.

Back to work, I feel my mind has a different perspective altogether. I feel mentally relaxed, idk what that means. And I feel like going to another trip already. I FEEL GOOD.

I (31F) am the site manager of 100+ team members (all age groups).

I have this extremely well behaved and well mannered (to me) team member (35ish age). I usually don't add people from work in my socials but I added him as he is well mannered and all.

Now, this insta algo thing, I have been getting reels in my explore that he likes/comments. And not to mention, the comments are downright vulgar/disrespectful/mysoginistic. Very very problematic to say the least.

And Idk why but it has kinda put me in a spot, he has been extremely respectful to me and to others (including female coworkers) and I had a high opinion of him which doesn't seem to match to what I have been witnessing in insta and it has been bothering me as he reports to me and we are in constant touch throughout the day.

What do I do of it?

I (30F) have been married for an year, and while initially I did do it, but now it is getting a lot for me to do. With a job that is mentally and emotionally consuming and physically draining, I don't have it in me to make a call MANDATORILY to her every single day, only to listen of her daughters, sons in laws, brothers, sisters, sisters in law, neighbours, ate what in the morning, ate how much in the night kind. He bought watch, she bought fridge, they bought car kinda lame conversations.

She is ok with my husband not calling her everyday. But to me, she would start the call with "Oh! I AM SO MAD (sad) AT YOU, WHY DIDN'T YOU CALL YESTERDAY".

Also, once she starts calling, she doesn't stop. The other day I was in a heated year end department performance review 9 AM to 2 PM. And she called me 11 times (I counted, yes) as it was our engagement anniversary and she HAD TO TALK. In the middle of me getting grilled, my phone kept buzzing only to distract me more.

How do I handle her, I mean I have realised that I can't talk to her everyday, and whenever I skip a day or don't return her call, she makes sure to make me feel guilty of making her sad/mad.

I (30F) have been married for an year, and while initially I did do it, but now it is getting a lot for me to do. With a job that is mentally and emotionally consuming and physically draining, I don't have it in me to make a call MANDATORILY to her every single day, only to listen of her daughters, sons in laws, brothers, sisters, sisters in law, neighbours, ate what in the morning, ate how much in the night kind. He bought watch, she bought fridge, they bought car kinda lame conversations.

She is ok with my husband not calling her everyday. But to me, she would start the call with "Oh! I AM SO MAD (sad) AT YOU, WHY DIDN'T YOU CALL YESTERDAY".

Also, once she starts calling, she doesn't stop. The other day I was in a heated year end department performance review 9 AM to 2 PM. And she called me 11 times (I counted, yes) as it was our engagement anniversary and she HAD TO TALK. In the middle of me getting grilled, my phone kept buzzing only to distract me more.

How do I handle her, I mean I have realised that I can't talk to her everyday, and whenever I skip a day or don't return her call, she makes sure to make me feel guilty of making her sad/mad.