u/Ok_Coconut_2249

Problem/goal:

Nagdesisyon kami ng mga kapatid ko na we don't want to be associated with some of our relatives anymore dahil sa walang katapusang pambabastos, panlalait, at pangmamaliit nila sa amin noon pa, specially yung isang pinsan namin using our educational background para pagmukhain kaming mga kawawa sa ibang tao at minamaliit. Ayaw na naming maging plastic sa kanila o magpanggap na okay lang ang lahat pagkatapos ng lahat. Palagi nila kaming minamaliit, pero dahil sa pagsisikap namin, naging matagumpay kami at palihim kaming nagmamay-ari ng ilang business establishments ngayon. Walang kaalam-alam itong mga kamag-anak namin na sa amin pala yung certain business na yun. Dahil sa walang tigil nilang paninira at pambabastos sa amin behind our backs, gusto namin silang i-restrict sa mga establishments namin. Ayaw naming tinatapakan nila ang mga pag-aari namin o nakikinabang sila sa pinaghirapan namin, at higit sa lahat, gusto naming protektahan ang kapayapaan ng negosyo namin and ourselves. When we were still building our business, we decided na itago talaga ito sa mga kamag anak na yun dahil some of them tried to sabotage us in the past, ngayon maayos at lumago na ang negosyo namin.

Legally speaking, do we have the absolute right na mag-refuse of service at mag-deny ng entry sa mga particular na kamag-anak na ito sa aming mga business establishments. Dahil hindi nga nila alam na kami ang may-ari, pwede ba naming ipamahagi lang ang mga litrato at pangalan nila sa aming mga security guards, managers, at frontliners na may mahigpit na utos na harangan sila sa pinto at tanggihan sila sa anumang transaksyon? May legal liability ba ang business namin kung gawin ito ng staff namin? Ano ang legal implications kung magpilit silang pumasok o gumawa sila ng eksena sa establishment kapag hinaharangan na sila ng security, at maaari ba namin silang ipaaresto agad sa pulis for Trespassing? Gusto lang namin ma-enforce ang boundary na ito nang malinis at legal para masiguradong hindi na sila makakatapak sa mga negosyo namin.

Salamat po sa mga sasagot.

Hi everyone. Asking for legal advice regarding my cousins. Ang lala na kasi ng pambabastos at paninira nila sa amin ng kapatid ko, and it's severely affecting our mental health and social circles.

Hindi kami nakapag-aral ng traditional path gaya ng regular elementary and high school nung bata kami dahil absent ang nanay namin, she was a gambling addict and spent our tuition money in casinos. We were innocent children, deeply traumatized, and victims of neglect. Walang iniambag ang mga kamag-anak na ito sa mga milestones namin. Despite this, my sibling and I worked hard, finished through ALS (Alternative Learning System), and graduated college. I hold an Associate's Degree, and he holds a Bachelor’s Degree.

I am now heavily considering filing a case against them because of the grave spoken defamation and public humiliation we are experiencing. My male cousin is spreading lies na hindi kami nag-aral. He directly mocked me to my face at their house asking if it's true I didn't study, and he even casually stated at a restaurant (public setting while we were hanging out) saying na my sibling is the only hope of our family, my husband was there nung sinabi yun ng pinsan ko, we both heard it. He is deliberately weaponizing our childhood struggles and trauma para pagmukhain kaming kawawa sa ibang tao. utilizing our past to pity us or look down on us. Taga-ibang city naman sila at hindi naman namin sila kasama lumaki, yet they talk as if they witnessed every single moment of our lives. Our story is not theirs to tell. This is genuinely the worst thing anyone has ever said about me and my family, and my husband was there as an eyewitness and heard everything when that cousin mentioned na yung isang kapatid ko nga lang daw ang hope ng family namin.

My male cousin moved to our city after I introduced him to my college schoolmate, who is now his live-in gf. He leaked our childhood trauma and ALS history to her and who knows pa kung kani kanino sila nag oopen up knowing na some of our circle are the same doon sa gf niya, also her family knows me. To make it worse, they are systematically gaslighting us. When I confronted the ex-friend, they denied everything and made it look like I am just being paranoid, even though the girlfriend literally went to the same college as me and knows I graduated pero ganun yung kinakalat ng bf niyang pinsan ko. On top of that, I recently talked to another cousin and I noticed Hyper-fixated din siya sa hindi namin pagdaan sa normal school path, and I strongly suspect she is also spreading it to other people to belittle us.

Gusto ko na silang kasuhan para tumigil na sila. I need your advice on what specific criminal or civil cases we can file against them. Do we strictly need to go through Barangay Conciliation first, or can we bypass it and go straight to the prosecutor? I also want to know if my husband as eyewitness testimony is enough to prove the restaurant incident in court despite their denials.

Salamat po sa mga sasagot.