u/Ok_Confection_6613

I have literally no family at all. I grew up Mormon and lost my entire mom's side of the family by leaving the Mormon church. They disowned me but it's actually happier that way. And my father died as a child and his non Mormon family was not supported by my community so I never met them.

I'm getting married and it is exciting. I'm trying to focus on it being about us. But it does suck so bad seeing my fiance have all her family coming while I have a couple of friends that are also her friends at this point. Feels like there are people going for her and for us. Sucks feeling like I don't have anyone there for me. But that's something I feel a lot in life, it just sucks to not have a family support system period. I'm so happy she gets to have a father daughter dance and her parents walk her down the aisle. Kinda sucky to not get to have any family traditions to do. Idk it's not that big of a deal I've just been a little sad about how sidelined it makes me feel sometimes.

Anyways I'm just venting. Overall I'm very excited and happy

I really love my partner. I know statistically this has such a small chance of happening. I would absolutely stay with my parents if they ever become disabled, a burn victim, you know pretty much anything tragic. I was talking to my partner a bit ago and it became clear to me they didn't feel this way. I'm glad they were honest but it made me pretty sad. And low key I know it's a low low chance but like now the what if is stuck in my head. And I just know if something sad ever happened to me they would be there for me but not as a romantic partner anymore. And that makes me really sad. I don't like that I would sacrifice for them if something tragic happened and not feeling like they would do the same. I know it's a silly thing to worry about but it's actually eating at me a little. Am I being silly or is this a genuine concern?

I'm a Gen z who never struggled to make friends. I've also never struggled to date. I'm genuinely curious what you believe is keeping you lonely?

Nsfw and trigger warning. My mother drove my father to suicide. I grew up extremely devout Mormon. I served a mission in Brazil. And attended Brigham Young University. Deconstructing a life long belief in a cult has led me to be very open minded so I'm pretty well educated on a lot of things. And I pretty much believe close to 0 of what I believed as a teenager. I lost my faith while on my mission and got stuck going to BYU because it took me much longer to deconstruct the belief that my mom loved me. AMA

My (23m) girlfriend (22f) and I had to go long distance for a bit because I had to move temporarily. She's in our home turf still. Our aniversary is approaching and I want to do something very special to make being apart a little better. Because it sucks really bad.

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My bestie is gonna help me set stuff up. I'm writing a letter to send my bestie to give to her with flowers on our anniversary and a gift. I'm either gonna door dash her favorite meal or have him drop it off to her. Idk if I want to have everything dropped off to her at once, or if I want to keep surprising her through the day. I'm also planning an "open this when you miss me" letter for my friend to give her. I'm also thinking maybe I plan a scavenger hunt of important/memorable places in our relationship? I also taught my homie how to kiss just like me so he can deliver a kiss for me. Ok that last one is a joke. But on a serious note what are some good ideas I could put into action on our anniversary day?

I'm an actuary but I have been working a data scientist position for 3 years. So basically I was highered on as an Actuary and I take exams and study hours etc. Basically they just asked when I was highered if I rather consult or doing data and math heavy modeling with the data science team. I figured it would really open up my future to have 1 or 2 clients at a time on the Actuarial side and pass exams. But I also work as a data scientist so I could keep that possible door open too. I've passed 5 exams. And I have some very strong data science skills too now. For a while I did 10 hours Actuarial work a week 30 data science and 10-20 exam study and it worked great. But I kinda want to specialize in one now. So if you have experience with both I would love to chat.