u/Ok_Interaction1267

I need an advise from people with more experience.

My husband and I had some threesomes in the past and are open to dating the same gender solo.

We have found a lovely couple where both are bisexual.
It will be a group Dynamic Like everyone with everyone, not the purely Swap Side by Side.

Our last FFM was in december and she started making it a competiton by saying things like „I bet I am so much thighter than her“ to my husband as he started to fuck her.

Now the thing is my husband will be away for Four weeks 2 days after our planed Date with the couple.

This Information is new, we did not know, when we planed with them.

I know it is a different setting, but I have a little fear, that things could go wrong again with another female involved and that just having 1,5 days after to reconnect could be to little.

I don’t want to cancel either, because everything is planed and everyone has anticipation.

I will visit my husband 5 days later for the weekend. He is 3 Hours Away, I could Drive that in worst case at any day to see him. Our relationship involves a lot of physical touch through the day.

Would You personally cancel or go to the date?

Ich bin weiblich und suche online auf einer Plattform nach Frauen für Sex.
Das steht in meinem Profil unter „interessiert an: Frauen“.
In meinem Profiltext steht es nochmal und bei „was ich nicht mag“ steht mittlerweile, dass ich keine Männer mag, die mich anschreiben.
Und trotzdem bekomme ich täglich mehrere Nachrichten von Männern.
Was ist die Mission? Ich verstehe es nicht. Erspar uns doch beide diese Zeitverschwendung. Ich verstehe es einfach nicht

English is not my first language.
Wanted to Share because I don’t have Friends to Talk about that:
My husband and I have been having some threesomes since since begining of last year. We had three so far and one next week planend.
I am bi, so that was my wish of FFM but we decided to try out everything.
We started with a MFM but I ended it mid way because neither of us enjoyed it. After that we hired a sex worker, she made some underlying mean coments and my husband didn’t notice so that caused later some issues but I loved seeing him get with a woman but she was a Lot less bi than she said she was.
It was than that my husband told me, that he was bi curious. He had his struggles with that, because where I live being gay is used as a insult or that you are Not a real man.
We talked a lot about that and he came to the end that it matters what he and I think and Not others.
So we had a MMF and we both loved it!
So next week there is another mmf planed, where he wants to go further, since he and the other guy only did hands and oral the last time.
I am so happy to be there.
But I noticed that I don’t want to have to pay to be with a woman. Especially if she will make mean comments.
So even ethical finding a third is really hard. I don’t want to meet a couple where I have to fuck her partner to have Fun with her and my husband don’t want to fuck her to be with her partner.
So I talked to my husband on sunday that I am a bit sad, that finding a guy for a mmf is so easy and I would love to be with a woman and told him, what I said here.
I did not ask him directly if I could meet a woman alone but how he would feel if I would meet alone since he even suggested only being in the Room but not being involved while I would have something with a woman, if this would make it easier to find someone. Like where would be the difference for him.
We talked, he Said, he thinks, he would not like that, since its always our sex.
I was absolutly fine with that.
Yesterday while I took a shower and him always being with me in the Room to talk, he told me, that he thought about it again and that he would find it a hot and even thought about meeting a man alone. We talked long and agreed on opening up for solo Adventures with the same sex. I am not interested in other man besides being a supportive wife in a mmf and Visa versa, so there is no interest in opening for more than Same sex.
We still want to enjoy threesomes as a team event. But I am so happy that I can be with a woman again.
But I am even more happy, that we had the talk and it was just that: a talk, no fight, No Big feelings and even if his no would still be a no, I would happy married to him and enjoy our threesomes or even go back to monogamy, it is nothing I need in my life, just more like a nice add one, the Cherry on top of the best ice cream I could Imagine.