AITA for wanting to distance myself from a friend who unintentionally makes me feel bad about myself?
I’ve got a great friend who has recently become really active with bouldering, going to the gym, and running. I’ve tried some of these things with him, but he’s much more motivated than I am and has had specific goals in mind, so he’s made a lot of progress. I ended up getting busy with other areas of my life, and even though we started doing some of these things together, he’s come a long way while I haven’t.
Now, whenever we meet, he often talks about all of this: what he’s been doing, how tired he is from it, and all the goals he’s been achieving. Maybe it’s because we started doing these things together, but I haven’t made much progress myself, so I end up feeling really bad about myself.
I’m not very active right now, and even when I try to be, I feel like I’m competing with him and constantly failing by comparison. I definitely feel like I’m being the asshole here, but part of me feels like I should distance myself from him until I feel a bit more confident about myself and where I am in life. Maybe then I won’t feel so bad about myself when I’m around him.