u/Ok_Sorbet_7390

What do I do? I'm firmly between 4"-5" and thin. Yes it's workable but it's not about it being close to average or whatever. I don't feel masculine. I don't feel sexually desirable. Even when I have sex it doesn't look right and I always worry that she's secretly wanting more. I feel like I've done everything else I can in life: I work hard, I earn good money, I went to a good school and work at a great company. People say I'm funny and not ugly and I know I can attract people, but these don't really solve how i feel.

It makes me jealous when I hear girls hook up with a lot of guys. It must be so nice being desired as you are without worrying about your body or the need to get to know them or build a connection. I hate it. I feel like I'm relegated to just relationships. I've always wanted to sexually explore and also be good enough for hookups but instead I feel robbed from certain experiences in life because of how I was born.

Is it actually over? Not sure how to feel lmao. I know people want to be desired and I too have my own desires and fantasies and I actually don't think this one is uncommon for women, but deep down I believe if she really wanted to, she can have a line of men easily at the ready whereas it's the opposite for me. Kinda blackpilling tbh

L: small

G: thin

Feels like I'm capped at life no matter how hard I try to work or improve. I'm also sad at the fact that there are many things I'll never get to experience in this world. It's hard not to be bitter when I see others get to live the life I want. Being an ordinary man is so painful

Was getting legit lean worth it in your opinion? Were the benefits worth the cost? Been a fat fuck my whole life but I've been losing weight for the past few months and my cheeks are slowly starting to come in. I'm excited but also scared because I don't know really know what to expect beyond physical changes. I'm also starting to see how uneven my face is. FUCK.

Or do you regret your decision? I've been working in Ops for a while but it's very, very mind-numbing; every day is the same and I really am just pushing buttons and don't feel any pride or sense of ownership and fulfillment from my work. I'm also honestly scared I'm going to get pigeonholed here (I feel like I already am) because I'm not learning any skills nor am I compounding any knowledge.

To those who have been in my position, what did you do? Where can I go from here? Maybe there are more fulfilling BO roles out there that I haven't looked into.

Reading the thread made me sad. I have the opposite stats (barely 5 inches and thin) and I can't help but be envious of the ease and privilege that comes with being endowed. It must be nice to be sexually desired and sought after by many for an experience you can provide that others can't.

Call it porn brain, but I'm kinda bitter that my sex life seems limited to just relationship sex, the kind of sex that comes after someone gets to know your person, not the one where they desire and lust after you upfront. It's nice and all, but there's just something deeply affirming to me about being wanted for a trait that society deems sexually attractive.

I feel like I don't have the luxury of engaging in casual sex or honestly any raunchy, non-emotionally-binding sex. It must be fun being able to join sex parties or partake in threesomes or gangbangs or honestly, even simply just having the peace of mind meeting someone and when things get steamy, knowing you don't have anything be insecure about.

Hate to say it but one of my biggest insecurities is being the guy that's able to provide emotionally and materially, but my gf will fantasize or worse, ask for a bull because I might not be enough for her sexually. Seems to be a reality for some men. Bleak.

As a man with a small penis (4" in both length and girth), how am I not supposed to feel sad? Yes, it's workable enough for sex. Some people didn't seem to mind and even seem pleasured by it, but I think people don't understand that it's not always about the physical side of things. I's not always just about my partner's pleasure or orgasms; it's also about my self-image and identity as a man. How am I supposed to feel like a man when my size literally is not an adult's size? It doesn't scream vigor nor power.

I'm thankfully attractive enough to get interest but even when I have sex, it doesn't really feel good mentally. I always think it's not enough or the woman is just being nice. I know we have our hands and mouth and can even use toys, but it was important (and still is) to my identity as a man to have the ability to fuck adequately, to feel like a man, and it's hard to separate size from masculinity when the literal point of biology is dimorphism.

I really thought I'd have a vibrant and adventurous sex life growing up. I thought I'd be having a lot of hookups and the fantasy of meeting someone new at a bar or at the beach and things getting frisky always excited me, but I feel my body makes it unsafe to do so. Instead of being excited when I meet someone, I get very anxious instead, always worrying if they'd be disappointed once the pants drop.

I hate that the only way I can feel safe mentally and let go with sex is through an emotional connection or a relationship. It feels like a consolation, like I'm only desired because they got close and felt safe and comfortable with me, not because they actually found me sexy and irresistible, and when you have an undesirable trait like this, it's really hard to feel sexually secure and attractive. It's like I'm missing out on so many fun things in life. I feel so sexually undesirable and inhibited because of my body

Been overweight and an underachiever my whole life. I know much of it has to do with habits and lack of discipline/terrible attention span growing up, but I wonder if there's anything more to my laziness and executive dysfunction or I was just born to be regarded. I hear of miracles or life-changing stories (and the opposite) through regulated stimulant use and am curious if others here used it and have substantially improved their lives as well.

Length: iPhone mini

Girth: two fingers

Thankfully attractive enough to get interest but even when I have sex, it doesn't really feel good mentally. I always think it's not enough or the woman is just being nice. It's not even solely about sex and pleasure; it's more of a self-image and masculinity thing. I know we have our hands and mouth and can even use toys, but it was important (and still is) to my identity as a man to have the ability to fuck.

I really thought I'd have a vibrant and adventurous sex life growing up. I thought I'd be having a lot of hookups and the fantasy of meeting someone new at a bar or at the beach and things getting frisky always excited me, but I feel my body makes it unsafe to do so. I hate that the only way I can feel safe mentally and let go with sex is through an emotional connection or a relationship. It feels like a consolation. I feel like I'm missing out on so many things

Does this hurt more? Feels like a consolation when people find me attractive or sexy only because they started to feel safe and comfortable with me, not because they genuinely find me desirable and irresistible. It feels conditional and convenient tbh. I've always wondered what it feels like to be objectified and sad to say but I think I'd rather feel that than love. Sometimes I just wanna fuck too, and I think it would be nice to evoke that feeling in someone from the get-go rather than always trying to ensure some sort of connection

Yes, that kind of provider. I've always been curious. Part of me is worried of the addiction/enabling of laziness and complacency by not having to date, woo, get to know and be patient with someone and catering to what they like or don't like. The opposite seems to be selling point of the experience with providers: enlivening a total fantasy. Is this a dangerous path? Will this be the death of my human connection and empathy?

Just lost someone to a sugar daddy. Doesn't matter if you clear 6-figs; there's always someone better, someone richer. I couldn't afford to spend $8k a month to fund someone's lifestyle or easily afford a minimum of $500 on Cipriani and the likes on a nightly basis (on top of everything else.) It's just over.

L: 5 inches

G: 4.5 inches

It is just so fucking over. I thought I was gonna be hot with a crisp jawline. I look ugly AS FUCK

2.3 inches. I was told this combination was supposed to help in combating the ADHD brain and help me get lean. Why am I just vomiting and feeling dumber