u/One_Cat_9806
HELP YOUR GIRL OUT!!
26F 167cm 65kgs
I went from 110 kg to 65 kg over the course of ~2 years, and I’ve been maintaining 65 kg for over a year now without further loss. I don’t feel like I’ve hit a true plateau, but I also can’t seem to push past this point.
I’ve tried crash dieting, very low intake days, and more structured dieting around 1450 calories with ~70g protein. Currently I strength train ~60 mins, hit ~10k steps daily, and eat around 1200 calories with 1 scoop whey, vitamin D, and magnesium supplementation.
Despite being consistent with training, steps, and tracking calories, something still feels “off” or missing at a basic level that’s preventing further fat loss/body recomposition.
Can anyone help identify what I might be overlooking?
u/One_Cat_9806 — 3 days ago
▲ 123 r/DecidingToBeBetter
Whats meant for you will eventually find you<3
4 months into the breakup and life has finally started catching pace again. I turned all the love, pain, confusion and energy inward. And no, it wasn’t some overnight healing arc. I cried till my chest hurt, yelled into pillows, stopped eating for days, then binged at 3am because I thought I might collapse from the anxiety. I think I was trying to hold onto something that was never mine to hold onto in the first place.
I still remember our last conversation. I was crying uncontrollably, begging him not to leave. Telling him I’d miss us so much, that it was killing me. And he calmly said something along the lines of “you’re stronger than this.” I don’t even remember his exact words anymore. I just remember being on the floor of my room feeling completely helpless while the person I loved drifted away so effortlessly.
And then it hit me.
Had it been him, he would’ve fought for us too. He would’ve been scared to lose me too.
The moment that call ended, something inside me broke permanently. I washed my face, sat at my study desk, and started studying. That was the exact moment I promised myself I would never again let someone have the power to make me feel that small, that abandoned, that shattered.
I didn’t even try fixing the broken parts of me at first. It felt more like quietly picking up the pieces and walking away.
Ever since then, life has become work. Real work. I wake up at 4am. Study 12+ hours. Workout. Push myself. Rebuild my routines over and over whenever something stops working. Some days I eat clean, some days anxiety creeps in so badly I barely eat for a week. But one thing about me now — I refuse to stop until I make myself so proud that this version of me feels unrecognisable to the girl crying on that floor.
And somewhere in the middle of questioning everything about life and love, I randomly came across someone on Reddit. A guy working insanely hard on himself, fully focused, fully content. I asked him if he never felt the need for a companion while building all of this. And he said something so simple yet so powerful — that he’s becoming better every single day for the person he’ll eventually end up with, and until then, he’s okay waiting and working.
His conviction felt beautiful.
And for the first time in a long time, I realised maybe I’m finally on the right path too.
u/One_Cat_9806 — 9 days ago
▲ 8 r/heartbreak
I remember the last call i had w him and all i could tell him was , i feel someone is tearing my heart apart the pain feels unbearable.
Idk how can love make someone so weak.
u/One_Cat_9806 — 17 days ago
▲ 3 r/heartbreak
Loosing him broke me in more ways than i ever thought. But by the end i had no option at all but to let him go. Have been battling severe anxiety ever since he left. Lately i am loosing everything that wasnt good for me. Life feels so different, the void is weird. Its like hod preparing for something big ans huge. But i have also been so overwhelmed that i have not eaten in 3 days now.
He cheated on me in december but promised to be back, we kept talking on and off, until last week it was my birthday he came back cried that he feels v lonely and empty and wants to make it right. Told i ll try to fight everything bw us till the end. Next morning took a consultation w an astrologer ( his mom believed in astrology sm and kept convincing him that we aint the ideal couple). Came back to me after the call saying that the astrologer said that there was no way we could ever work it out. His mom called me saying that if we marry ill have a difficult time conceiving. And also my anger is a little hard for him to handle. Had no guts to tell her anything bad about him on that call. Ended up crying and saying pls take sm care of him. He has been so hurt lately.
But also ended up calling him out for no apologies on the cheating, no chances taken to build the trust up but only taking astro sessions. It got so messy by the end.
Had one last call last night. And i havent ever cried so much. I cried so so much that i had woken up w swollen eyes, terrible headache and choked nose and throat. Called him sm times when he slept mid way. Only too see him want to get out of this mess after a point. He did end up the call saying that he has an official call while i was crying like a baby.
I do not not who was right/ wrong. I also dont know who to blame. I told him last night i hope universe makes us cross paths someday yashi, and all he could say was , you ll be w your husband right?
He had been extremely one sided that there is absolutely nothing that could save the relationship.
He said he didnt want to save it anymore.
I remember there were days during our relationship where i would tell a friend that. I would give him my heart if he asked for it someday and laughed about it. I would always explode sm w love. Wanted to fight / also did fight any one and everyone, travel any miles just to see the tiniest smile on his face.
He did end up entertaining chics via meets ans chats a few times but i would catch him and we ended up being together after sm fights and tears. We were the happiest together. For the entire 2 years we never went to bed fighting. He would get me coffee everyday for 3/4 months in my lib. And i would protect him like a baby, even if that meant fighting people in our lives.
I dont think i would ever have hatred for him. I dont. I wish him luck. To acheive all the dreams we saw together. But one of our dreams also had cherry tomatoes in it. ( he reffered to me as a tomato and also said our babies would look like cherry tomatoes) thats broken time infinite.
I remember his mom telling me on the last call that beta successful bano , successful logon ko koi mana nahi karta,
And all i wanted to tell her was if i get there in 2 years aap wapas apna beta dedoge mujhe jo aaj aap chheen rahe mujhse ?
I did talk to my therapist today who said
First of all he had a choice but didnt choose you maybe that was your closure
Also if you love having sm hope, know whats meant for you circles its way to you. So if he is the right person for you, you guys will be together again
And if not theres something better god might have written in your destiny for you💗
u/One_Cat_9806 — 17 days ago
▲ 1 r/heartbreak
Told my exes mom today that her son cheated thrice on me and all she could say was,
Beta shayad destiny nahi chahti tumhara saath rehna, career pe dhyaan do ye sab toh hota rehta hai.
While i was just crying about how he cheated and how i had no apology for sm months.
Not once did she say that her son was wrong.
I so want them to see me grow exponentially in 3 years now. See you in 3 years aunty. ❤️
u/One_Cat_9806 — 20 days ago