Husband searching up girl we saw at a party 3 months later
I’ve been married for about 8 months and have several issues with my husbands internet content. For context it’s all explicit content on IG and Facebook for the most part. We have discussed this at length and I’ve told him I think he has an addiction and needs to work on it. He says his algorithm is like that and this stuff gets fed to him what is she supposed to do. It’s been a real pain point for me. He’s started changing his passwords and I’ve stopped looking at his phone but I can still tell he’s doing it by the way he changes the page when I walk in and how he will suspiciously go to the bathroom way more than before.
I’m hurt, I want to make my marriage work. Recently I saw his password and looked at his Instagram search ( he doesn’t know) he searched up a girl we saw at a party three months ago. And another girl. I’m not sure what to think. The OF and IG models hurt but this feels different…
He also went to pick up something from a medical clinic and wore his scrubs to do so when he didn’t have work… when I asked why he said he was dropping off his resume ( what kind of healthcare provider drops off printed resumes anymore?) I can’t help but think this is to show the person he’s picking up things from that he’s also a doctor to try and impress her or something.
Not sure how to approach this would love some advice. I’m heartbroken and lost. Talking to him ends up with him angry and deflective. Not sure if it’s how I’m approaching or talking. Anyone delt with anything similar? Other than divorce what are my options? He’s not open to therapy.