How can I stay consistent when my friends don’t care? Help? (Context below)
Hey everyone, I (M 31) hope this is the right place to post, (not too familair with reddit) .I’ve lived in the US for +7 years. This country has given me opportunities, work, and a life, and even helped me wife and I cover a delicate dental surgery she needed through a gofund me) I have nothing but gratitude. I’ve also seen firsthand how obesity hits hard here, and how medical bills crush people when health falls apart. Cancer runs in my family. That was my wake-up call: I’d rather focus on eating better and moving now than pay for it with surgeries and prescriptions later.
Here’s my personal situation: I’m 60+ lbs overweight. I’ve known it for years. I’ve “started Monday” a hundred times. This time is different because it’s personal. My wife has been training herself for 15 years. Her sister is a physiotherapist. This year they finally decided to start a small club together - just for women at first. In 8 years together I’ve never seen my wife this motivated about something that’s truly hers. It makes her happy. And it works - they’ve already had a few women get real results, not just weight loss but actual habit changes. 4 days ago I asked my guy friends to join me in a group chat like hers to hold each other accountable and change habits. I figured if we did it together as a group, we’d stick to it. Spoiler: they didn’t take it seriously. Jokes, skipping days, zero follow-through. That stung and honestly I don't want to be one of those times that I'm commited and I give up days later. It has happened multiple times.
So I’m doing it anyways. It's just sad they did not take it seriously and it is a Me group with people ignoring messages. I feel powerless because nor my body nor my idea with my friends can seem to help her goal. This country has given me a lot. Feels right to give something back. This isn’t about selling anything, I just want to support her stuff and also change my health for the good. I'd appreciate some help. Also if my case is similar to yours in terms of health you are welcome to join. It’s just a small group for guys who need a push to take the first step. Post your meals, move a bit, check in daily. NO PICTURES of yourself if you dont feel like it. That’s it. My wife and her sister share tips because they know the stuff, but you don’t owe them anything. Use them, use another coach, or just use the group for 30 days and leave. We’re on Day 4, but you can still jump in. Or we restart from today if a few of us want to. I just need 2-3 guys who are tired of going solo.