u/Opposite_Quail_2838

So first I would like to preface by saying I understand I’m and teenager, but this is genuinely my last resort and I need any advice. I am losing my mind. So I am 16(f) and my boyfriend 18(m) and he is light skinned (this will make since later) and we have been together for almost a year. So my mom Has always been a lot and any inconvenience that has ever happened in between her and my dad or her and my older brother, she has always taken it out on me and my little sister like she just come home always pissed off or yelling nonsense. And she has always been pretty strict, but she has never been like this before and wasn’t even like this at the very beginning of my relationship. so it all started back when there was a very bad storm in January and everyone was snowed in and my boyfriend had to get snowed in over here. And one night when we didn’t have power, she went off yelling calling me a bitch and telling me how I better not get pregnant and she hopes I start bleeding if I have sex while my boyfriend was sitting there next to me, just listening to all of it, watching me cry. By the way, she was screaming us across the house. We were not in the same room as she was yelling this. There is a lot of other times when she would get mad like very mad screaming how it’s not fair to her that I get to be cuddled up with my boyfriend watching movies when she can’t even do that with her man because he lives in a different house and my dad is not that affectionate. They’re always arguing. And when there was a situation at my boyfriend’s house and he ended up getting kicked out for almost a month and so my mom let him stay at my house and he did sleep on the couch that was her rule and he followed it. During that time, he went to work with her and respected her. And he ended up feeling like he was over staying his welcome and found another place to stay but still showering over here cause there’s nowhere else to shower and we told him he was welcome to do that about a week after he was staying somewhere else I had gotten a text from somebody trying to Break me and him up starting rumors saying that he was using me all of this and I of course got upset. But I wanted to know the truth before I went and told everybody and turns out it was a lie. So that blew over and since then she started acting really off and that is understandable. She does want to protect me. But as time went on, things started to go back to normal and we would all be able to hang out in my dad‘s shop and throw darts, make jokes and just laugh. and we would go on the boat and just have fun but every time my boyfriend will be hanging out with me at my house and her not be home. She come home and just always be in a pissed off mood cause it’s always something about my dad and my brother. Never something that me and my sister have personally done. so out of the entire time that me and my boyfriend have been together he has left my house twice because she has came home yelling we’re upset and so of course he didn’t wanna be in the middle of it and be uncomfortable. No one would be in that situation. so she took it as us trying to be sneaky and just her thinking we’re doing weird shit and I see how that looks to her but this is happened twice. And the second time he left, when she came home upset she started screaming in the driveway when he was pulling out “don’t ever fucking come back to my house.” Never once did she think about us sitting down and talking about it. She just started screaming and when he left, she turned and started yelling at me on how weird I was and how weird he is and I told her that the only two times that he actually just left was because of how she is acting right now. So then she had called my brother because he was already on the way to our house and told her that my boyfriend was never allowed back. And my boyfriend and my brother passed each other while he was leaving, and my brother tried to run him off the road without even knowing what just happened. And when my brother got to my house, my mom and him both were just yelling at me about stuff that didn’t even make sense. then my brother got in my face yelling how they’re acting this way because they care about me and he’s been through the same shit with his girlfriend. He’s trying to get me to understand. him and his girlfriend have been together for two years. His girlfriend has gone to our house maybe 10 times and now he lives in her basement at her parents house because basically the same thing my mom is yelling at me for. And where my breaking point was was when she started saying that the only reason he cares for me and listens to me is because I fuck him. And word for word said “you just love sucking ni**er dick” and by all means I am not racist and my parents have black friends, then she’s gonna try to act like everything‘s okay not even three days later. so maybe a week after our last conversation. I barely talked to her because every conversation with her turned into an argument. I finally did and told her that she was being a very unreasonable and took it away over the top and she told me he is only allowed to come over if she is there, and I am never allowed to go back over to his house. I don’t understand why she she’s doing this. my boyfriend has never done anything to hurt me or done anything for my mom to hate him. I’m starting to think she’s a little racist, but she was never like this at the very beginning of our relationship. Even seven months into our relationship she still loved him. I really need some advice because I am losing my ever loving mind and I need someone else’s point of you on this because I have no one else to talk to.