u/Ordinary_Cattle

We've been out of internet through spectrum since Friday, I'm just done with spectrum at this point.

Does anyone have Starlink in the area? How is it, what's the start up cost, etc.? We're paying $100/mo for high speed with spectrum just to constantly have outages. We haven't gotten any answers about when we'll be back online and customer service has been so unhelpful.

My 10 week old is in 6mo/6-9mo clothing for the most part, but is obviously still in newborn stages. He's around 25 inches and 15 pounds (as of almost a week ago, he's probably bigger now). He's outgrown his bath chair and most of the comfortable ones for a baby that can't sit seem to cap out at 6mos/15 pounds or so, since usually they're sitting by this size.

Anyone know of a good, long reclining bath chair for a newborn aged baby? He LOVES baths but for the last couple weeks I've been having to cut back on them because the bath chair doesn't feel safe and he's not very comfortable in it anymore anyway, which is a bummer since baths used to really relax him.

Same issue with his bouncer chair, he still fits in it but he's quickly outgrowing it, the weight limit is 20 pounds which I'm sure he'll reach soon enough with how fast he's growing. He's almost too long for it. Any good, inexpensive bouncer recommendations for a large baby?

My husband has been unemployed for 14 months. I'm on maternity leave. Every day for the last 14 months, he'd sleep in until well past noon. He'd sleep in until 3/4pm if I didn't wake him up earlier.

Every time I wake him up, he accuses me of screaming at him and "being a bitch" about it.

I've started recording every time I wake him up to prove him wrong. The most I do is raise my voice so he can hear me over the white noise maker, after saying his name quieter a couple times and he doesn't hear or respond.

He's been a monster to be since I woke him up today, came out yelling and swearing at me in front of our kids. He insists i yelled, won't listen to the recording to see that I didn't, and even knocked the phone out of my hand when I tried to play it for him.

When I woke him up, I said "Hey. (His name). (His name a little louder)." That's when he woke up and started snapping at me. I told him the time and asked him to get up, saying I need to use the bedroom for our 2mo since our 6yo is home and keeps waking him up from his naps. I did get a little snappy towards the end because he was being a jerk, but I'm just sick of it.

At this point I feel like I'm going crazy because he says I deserve for him to treat me this way because this is how I wake him up, well into the afternoon, most days. I go out of my way to not sound "bitchy" because I'm sick of him ruining everyone's day because I apparently wake him up so rudely, but it doesn't matter how I say it. He says I yell at him to get up. Some days he swears and yells at me, some days he tells me he hates the sound of my voice first thing when he wakes up.

*(Removed recording to keep in line with the sub rules)*

** Edit to add some more info, I did NOT expect this to get so much attention and kind of planned to delete it after a couple of responses but forgot I posted it **

-When he first lost his job, we agreed to him being home for spring and summer break. I had started a new career right before he lost his job, i was meant to be part time but it turned into full time and I was working a lot of doubles. Having him home helped with childcare until school started again.

-Why did I have another kid with him? I've been asking myself this since I found out I was pregnant lol. The baby was absolutely not planned, I've been telling him for years that after he was so unhelpful with our first son, I won't be having more kids with him. The pregnancy was upsetting, I cried for weeks and was in total denial. It went me in a spiral and I had to be put on antidepressants during the pregnancy. I scheduled an abortion 3 times but just couldn't go through with it. I had 2 when I was younger, so I'm not anti-choice. I just couldn't do it again. I'm getting my tubes tied, just signed the paperwork for it 2 weeks ago.

-When things started to get worse, I started saving to leave. I told him I was leaving but I don't think he believes me. But when I went on maternity leave, the savings depleted.

-Fun fact, I asked him to get the extra bedroom ready for our 6yo before the baby came (he was sharing the room with me beforehand) during the entire pregnancy while I was working. He didn't even start it. I had to do the entire thing by myself, moving a bunch of furniture and all our sons stuff up by myself. My 6yo helped a lot when he was home from school. This pregnancy was a nightmare for me, by the end I could barely walk and I was in so much pain. This was the final nail in the coffin for me. Him sleeping while I did all this physical labor while pregnant.

-Why do I have sex with him still? He's a lot nicer to me when I have regular sex with him, so I do it to make things calm at home. Recently things have gone more to shit because I've all but stopped having sex with him. I just can't anymore.

-Also, it's not bad ALL the time. It's probably only "bad" a small fraction of the time. I ignore how unhelpful he is, I don't bring it up when our kids are awake, and I don't show my frustration with him in front of our kids as much as I can help. We're cordial 99% of the time. He seems to be indifferent to me the antidepressants help me to enjoy what good we have. For our kids, I mean. I know everyone is worried about how it's affecting them, and I agree. That's my number one reason for being done and having been planning on leaving. Like I said, the main reason I posted this is because I wanted people to listen to the recording, but that's because I thought maybe I **am** being unreasonable. I plan to use all of my recordings in family court, which won't be helpful if I've actually been a bitch and considered as abusive as he says I am. I'm terrified of losing in family court. I want full custody.