Hello everyone. I’m new to this sub as I don’t suffer from this but my significant other does. I really wanna help her get through this the best way I can. For her it manifests as intrusive thoughts which cause her to feel guilty/sad/anxious. Is there anything I can do to ease her pain? I try to reassure her but I don’t know if that works as well as I’d like it to.
Thank you
Hello, for context me (19f) and my boyfriend (19m) have been together 9 months. We are each others first long term “adult” relationship but I am literally consumed by my retroactive jealousy. It might have something to do with the fact that he’s dated more people than I have in the past (I really only had talking stages and a few one/two month relationships if you can call them that). I don’t understand why I feel like this cause the relationship is great/healthy/genuine.
It just makes me sick whenever I think he has dated somebody else (might also have something to do with the fact he wasn’t great to these girls, which he now feels awful about but hey we have all been 17). We both have rocd traits (so say our therapists) and his kinda manifested for a while as a need to tell me every little thing he’s ever done that he feels morally bad about/ every intrusive thought he has or has had that made him feel guilty. I feel like this made the situation worse and we have agreed that the best way to proceed is if he gets over this stuff on his own with his therapist, without needing me.
I genuinely am looking for any advice or something that helped you through it. He’s the man I wanna be with and I trust him fully (despite having deeply rooted trust issues that I was finally able to address and almost fully recover from in therapy Yooo!!).
I want us to work out more than anything but I feel like this isn’t going away. It makes me feel immature and it’s not the way he deserves me to be.
Any help would be appreciated, sorry for venting.
Hello, for context me (19f) and my boyfriend (19m) have been together 9 months. We are each others first long term “adult” relationship but I am literally consumed by my retroactive jealousy. It might have something to do with the fact that he’s dated more people than I have in the past (I really only had talking stages and a few one/two month relationships if you can call them that). I don’t understand why I feel like this cause the relationship is great/healthy/genuine.
It just makes me sick whenever I think he has dated somebody else (might also have something to do with the fact he wasn’t great to these girls, which he now feels awful about but hey we have all been 17). We both have rocd traits (so say our therapists) and his kinda manifested for a while as a need to tell me every little thing he’s ever done that he feels morally bad about/ every intrusive thought he has or has had that made him feel guilty. I feel like this made the situation worse and we have agreed that the best way to proceed is if he gets over this stuff on his own with his therapist, without needing me.
I genuinely am looking for any advice or something that helped you through it. He’s the man I wanna be with and I trust him fully (despite having deeply rooted trust issues that I was finally able to address and almost fully recover from in therapy Yooo!!).
I want us to work out more than anything but I feel like this isn’t going away. It makes me feel immature and it’s not the way he deserves me to be.
Any help would be appreciated, sorry for venting.