u/OtherwiseAd3154

We’ve been together 11 years- since I was 16. I’m a stay at home mother to two toddlers. I’m a relatively talented artist, I am athletic, I do some modeling, and cook fantastic meals. I have a huge garden, and I take care of the 3 acres we live on- along with the chickens goats and dogs. I am an affectionate and passionate partner… ;) I read, I’m in therapy. Overall focused on bettering myself.

He works long hours and I appreciate he handles the bills.

However, I constantly tell him I miss working. I am a social, go getter.

Staying home has been an abrupt adjustment. I fell into a depression at first- because I love being productive and having a “purpose”. I don’t find significant personal value/gratification in house chores. They’re grueling.

However, I have been the only one in charge of all of ALL domestic chores since we moved in together. Even while I was working before kids. When I tell you this man doesn’t lift a finger and has never had to- I mean it. I’m not sure he knows how to clean a toilet.

I keep the house clean, my children are intelligent and well behaved.

Overall, I’d say I’m a badass- my peers agree & often praise me for my production.

Last night we woke up at 4am and he said “man I have to go to work soon. And you get to stay home and do nothing” I told him not to disrespect me like that- and he backtracked. However, I can’t help but feel that was a MAJOR Freudian slip. I feel so fed up and unseen. His political values are often airing on the side of sexism & we can no longer discuss world issues because of our disagreements. I feel like i accidentally fell into a tradwife role.