Im almost ready for my surgery but one big stressor has been me and my partner both needing to take time off work for the recovery. I work an office job and never really need to move that much but im still worried
The splits have been getting worse and worse as the years go on. He said things to me recently that have permanently altered the way I see him and our marriage. I don’t think I will ever be able to view him the same again. Whenever I think there’s a low he won’t go to, he will go lower. The best part? Now when he splits he won’t even tell me why because he doesn’t know either. I think he just gets enjoyment out of wearing me down and down. I wouldn’t even speak to someone I hate like this let alone my partner. I have become a nervous wreck 24/7 my anxiety is the worst it’s been in my whole life.
My partner came with me and my dad on an all expenses paid vacation for my birthday (thank you dad). My partner was extremely unstable the entire time the last time we went on vacation so I was already terrified this would be the same. First few days went great and I finally start to let my guard down. Well that was a mistake. My partner split on me and lied to my dad who is my only parent and family. He falsely accused me of abuse I told my partner my no contact mom did to me. he turned my own trauma into a lie about me. To make things worse I didn’t know he did this at first, and I endured hours of insults and threats to his life and our marriage to the point he damaged hotel property. He also refused to let me sleep on the couch. He threw out attacks at me, my family, his family, and pretty much everyone in his life. This was by far the worst split I’ve ever seen him have.
Thankfully, my dad didn’t believe the lie he told about me and immediately asked me for clarification and it honestly felt like I was stabbed directly in the heart. I cannot believe he would turn my own vulnerability against me and twist reality to attempt and isolate me from the only family I have.
And of course, the next day he is back to normal (no apology) and confused as to why I’m not acting like nothing happened.