u/Outrageous-Stage3417

As heavier set individuals I feel most of us have experienced situations at least once or twice where people are just hostile to you with the shaking suspicion it’s likely because of your weight. Especially when online and folks have veil of anonymity to hide themselves.

I’m curious to where yall think that energy comes from or have had similar experiences.

Im an average sized woman (5’6” 145lbs) and when I was younger, I always went after skinny or average guys. My new boyfriend is fat. Not like dad bod fat, but fat. I don’t know his exact weight but he’s 6’2 and probably a little over 250lbs. However he is pretty strong. I love his body so much. I can tell he’s self conscious about his size but since we’ve been together I think his confidence is improving.

The other day he asked me what I found sexy about him. The first thing I said was “I love how big you are” because it’s true! I could see that it hit him hard. I’ve always struggled with my self image and body dysmorphia issues, and now that I look back I realize that being with skinny guys made me even more self conscious. With him, I feel cute and feminine. Like yes, this is my big strong boyfriend. I love when he picks me up because he can do it so easily!

Another positive is that he’s always down to eat good food! He gets excited whenever I say I’m hungry. Plus we get appetizers and dessert too. My exes were all skinny and broke so it’s a welcome adjustment for me lol. He’s so warm and comfy, and nice to hold onto. I just love cuddling up against him. And as far as sex goes, we certainly don’t have any issues. Though there was a bit of a learning curve when it came to figuring out good positions for us. That hardly outweighs the benefits.

Anyways, I wanted to make this post because fat guys deserve some love, and I’m not afraid to be loud about it either.