u/Outrageous-Trip-7376

So currently I’m local. It’s pretty much the best local set up. I feel like I can get 15 minutes from my job. I start at 5 AM on usually done by 1 PM. The latest got a very good Balance life. I just bought my first home three months ago, so I live by myself, but I do have a girlfriend that’s kind of complicated so she do come live with me every now and then and then we’ll fight a lot of times and she’ll leave and we just keep trying to work on it but I found this Regional position has paying 1800 to 2500 gross and is staying in the tri-state area I’m in the Philadelphia area so this position is New Jersey Delaware and PA and the money is definitely way better so what I’m getting now I’m grossing 1500 a week and for a Regional position that’s probably my dream position where I’m not too far but I’m getting paid way better and I’m very comfortable running a tri-state area. I don’t wanna give up my house and pay a mortgage for nothing. I did have a friend I want to move in and pay me half my mortgage, but I haven’t got back to him and confirmed for him to move in because I’ve been off and on with my girlfriend and she’s been staying with me, but I don’t think it’s sustainable. She’s not trying to work. She’s very depressed and lazy and she’s just leaving a mess in the house and I’m always by myself cleaning up after her which is why we just had an argument yesterday and it caused me to just have so much resentment buildup that I kind of just snapped on her , and to add in there, I’m 35 years old. I don’t have any kids. I feel like she’s the last chance I have at starting a family and I keep messing it up with her because I feel like she’s using me and it seems like it’s a lot of stress because I’m taking on all the financial responsibilities and also it seems like I’m also taking care of all the house chores while she just sit back and smoke and drink.

So I have my 2013 Honda Accord sport 2.4 engine for about two years. I got it at 101,000 miles. It’s at 117,000 now , I don’t know the history of the transmission , the car only had two owners and no accidents. I’m the third owner , I don’t feel any jerking or weirdness from the transmission whatsoever , but I’m wondering, do I need to swap out the fluid drain and fill with some new fluid? I’m getting a lot of mix reviews. Some people saying leave it alone if I don’t know if it was ever been done

So I’m 35 years old had my CDL for three years and I just had two years of experience class A , are they Regional for six months 53 foot drive-in and for the past one year and a half I’ve been local doing reefer with a 48 foot trailer, i’m on salary for 80 K and I work 40 hours a week no overtime so I come home with 1150 every week. Take home , i’m really thinking if I just go to a local company near me that paying 30 an hour and this hourly and there’s overtime kind of the same work I’m doing now but dry van with a 53’ which I might have to get used to again , a 48’ is so smaller , but I really love my job. I love the non-micro Management. I love how I have the same truck since I started. I used the same trailer and it’s very very light touch. I do anywhere from 6 to 8 hours a day and it kind of got me spoiled where if I have a week over 40 hours I be like dammit lol but if I go over 40 hours it’s only maybe by 2-3 hours , but this week I’ll be under 40 , it’s Thursday and I’m at 30 hours now , and my route tomrrow is maybe 6 hours I’ll be done so I’ll be at like 36-38 hours this week and paid for 40 , so I don’t know what to do if I should stay at my job where I’m maybe to comfortable , or go to this hourly dry van position or get into this tanker local job doing dry bulk then switch to liquid , mind you I have all endorsements and Twic and clean record

So I’ve been very OCD with the way my passenger big mirror is set up. I’m always switching it between two ways. The main way will be it facing down where I can see my passenger side trailer tires but the only thing with that is it makes backing up a little bit crooked looking, but I also can track my tire when I’m making sharp right turn or going around curves the other way would be facing it more up, Rossy more of the body of the trailer and the top of the trailer, but I won’t see the tires so it feels kind of weird not seeing that trailer tire

I’ve had my new house my first home for about two months now, i’m 34 years old male and I lived with my grandparents, the majority of my life , I moved out for the first time about a year going to a studio apartment for three months with a girlfriend and then we broke up and I went back , it did feel good to have my own space. Well sharing it with her, but my own new space out of my grandmother house. I only had a bedroom. So the first week after I moved into my first home my new home , weirdly me and my ex-girlfriend got back together and then she kind of moved in and then living with me here for the whole time for the first three weeks. It was good after that the Bills started hitting me and I started to see how I wanted things to be a certain way and she just cannot keep a job whatsoever due to her attitude and she’s now giving me attitude about things and I’m paying for all the bills, she cooks and clean when she feel like it when she’s in a good mood, which is not all the time or consistently for me, but she does not contribute moneywise whatsoever and I feel like it’s not worth it. and when we were together in the house, we will go outside chill on the steps and porch and do things together now that I’m by myself I kind of lost that motivation and I don’t even like going outside. I guess I’m an introvert and I’m a little anxious so I don’t even go outside. I’m pretty much a prisoner in the house , but since she haven’t been here, I did find a big sense of peace, and I don’t know if I’d rather just be by myself and struggle alone and save the extra money I can then support a whole grown woman that keeps saying she’s gonna get a job. She’s gonna get a job and then get one. I don’t like it and they keep saying she’s gonna get one that she likes eventually to stick with it , it was been five days now since I kicked her out and I do miss her company around the house, but I don’t miss cleaning up after her. I’m trying to detach from her. She still text me every day asking me am I gonna bring her back and I also have a best friend, a male friend who I got into my job I knew him for a lot of years and he always living with people paying rent and he’s tired of living with multiple people so he said can you come live with me as I have a extra bedroom available and he’ll pay me half of my mortgage to me that sounds so good and I can get ahead and have some breathing room instead of having my girlfriend leach off of me, what do you guys think? Should I do?

My current job : 80k salary (No overtime)
- 48’ reefer trailer with a daycab (No slip seating) had this truck since I started 1 year and 3 months ago @35k miles , now had 85k miles … Touch freight , but very very light , 2-5 stops a day , 6-9 hours a day , average 38-42 hours a week … no inward cameras what so ever , no micromanaging , small company , I already built
My trust so I can do what I want basically , it’s 15 min from my house , I mastered my route so the job got so easy , i do 1-3 direct super makers deliveries , it’s palletized just drop off pallet and receiver scan in the product , then I’ll do 1-3 pick ups after empty , all within usually 80 mile radius of warehouse

Job offer from Jb Hunt local drop and hook : 85k salary (Paid my miles and performance type shit , but need to do 5 stops a days / 20 a week , I’ll be working way longer hours , 10-11 hours a day , it’s farther then my current job (Like 30 min away) , inward cameras , way more strict then my current job , only 5k more a year , but potential to make up to 100k they say , gotta go with a trainer for like a week , and driving a 53’ dry van …

What would
Yall do ?