u/OutsourcingMyPeace

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I have two sisters, one older and one younger.

A while ago, my younger sister called me crying. She said my elder sister had treated her badly. Hearing her cry, I got emotional and confronted my elder sister. I know I shouldn't have shouted, and I take responsibility for how I handled it.

Later, my younger sister and elder sister made up. They became close again, but I was left looking like the villain. As far as I know, my younger sister never told my elder sister that she had been the one who called me crying and got me involved. I ended up carrying all the blame.

I recently called my elder sister to apologize because I genuinely wanted to make things right. She didn't even speak to me. She handed the phone to my mother and asked her to tell me she didn't want to talk to me.

Another thing happened yesterday that made me feel even worse.

My younger sister had failed 9th standard twice and was terrified that our mother and brother wouldn't let her continue studying. She came to me crying, so I told her not to worry and that I'd help her get admission into NIOS. I completed her admission in May, and it was confirmed in June.

Yesterday, her teacher called my mother and asked where the admission had been done. My mother said that I had handled it. The teacher then said that their school also does NIOS admissions, they had apparently told my younger sister about it before, and that it could have been done faster and at a discounted price. She then called me "mindless."

The problem is that I never knew any of this. My younger sister never told me the school had offered to do the admission or that there was a discounted option. If I had known, I would have happily used it.

Instead, I ended up looking like the fool again while everyone assumed I had made a bad decision.

The part that hurts me the most is my relationship with my niece. She used to call me "Achhi Mosi." After the fallout, my elder sister told her not to call me that anymore. Now she calls me "Gandi Mosi" instead. I know she's just a child repeating what she's has been taught, but it broke my heart.

I genuinely feel like whenever I try to help someone in my family, I somehow end up becoming the bad person. I've apologized for my own mistakes, but I also feel like I'm constantly blamed for things that aren't entirely my fault.

Am I overreacting? Has anyone else felt like they're always the family member who gets blamed, even when they were trying to help?

TL;DR: My younger sister came to me crying twice in different situations, I stepped in to help both times, and both times I ended up looking like the bad person while she stayed silent. My elder sister now refuses to speak to me, my niece was told to call me "Gandi Mosi" instead of "Achhi Mosi," and after helping with my younger sister's NIOS admission, I was called "mindless" for not using an option I didn't even know existed. I feel like I'm always the family scapegoat despite trying to help.

Feeling like I should die at this point.

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I'm 25

I'm struggling with everything, not able to find job after resigning my last one. My wieght past 2 years has increased significantly at this point it's like everyone is bullying me because of my wieght, my mother doesn't allow me to eat saying eat a lot. For everything I get blamed. Is this life even worth living

Guys 👋🏼 in need of karma.

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