Been a lesbian my whole adult life and just caught feelings for a man
For a bit of context, I’ve only ever hooked up with women/ only ever had two long term relationships with women in my life. After my fiance broke up with me I was devastated and swore off dating of any kind for the foreseeable future while I heal and process. It’s been almost four months since the break up and in the last two months I’ve developed feelings for a male friend who I’ve been hooking up with. Sleeping with him, especially at first, was a bit disorienting and scary (in an existential way, physically and emotionally he makes me feel incredibly safe and comfortable).
It’s been an identity crisis for me, as I’ve always identified as a lesbian, and I know the labels don’t matter but I’m struggling with my queer identity, and I’m also struggling with the semantics of straight sex, I worry I don’t know how to please a man the same way I do with women. I don’t know how to communicate with him sometimes. I know there shouldn’t be a difference necessarily, every individual is different, but for the first time in my life I feel a little bashful and unpracticed and it makes me very self conscious. Have any other lesbians been in a similar situation? @those who sleep with someone with a penis do you have any advice or tips on sex with them 😅 he seems to really like what we do, it’s just such uncharted territory for me and I feel weird feeling new to it at my age.