u/PassionChemical2220

The problem is a lot of the pro single life girlies on social media are posting (expensive?) solo holidays and adventures. That's great, no shade and it really shows how holidays are so free and enjoyable when you are not carrying a useless husband who wont even plan outings or wrangling kids at a beach he won't help with. However holidays abroad isn't always feasible for many who have to work all week and maybe get 3 weeks a year of leave and have mortgages to pay.

My peaceful day is sitting on the floor of my room playing violin and then decorating my house. Then I'll take a walk in my sundress and take some whimsical pictures and spend 2 hours editing the colors on my phone. Then I'll take a long bath its amazing. I'm thinking of painting my ceiling next with patterns I found online too!

Male friend, dating, sometimes trauma dumping coworkers. And it nearly always goes unappreciated. They are so extractive by nature no wonder women glow down in marriage.

I'm not even going to elaborate. This is a universal law.

Also let's just all agree that dating in 2026 is pretty much like looking both ways before crossing a road and getting hit by a fucking A380 plane

I miss your witty healing comments, and my English is getting worse by the day without it.

When you hold them accountable or explain why they hurt you is such a canon event it seems.

As time goes on post pwBPD hell I experienced. I noticed I am so much better at predicting people's underlying intentions, their projections and inner fears. This has led me to have many quite contenious conversations with people but essentially:

- In more cases than not, someone who is hell bent on misunderstanding you (weaponized misunderstanding I like to call it), or putting words in your mouth is accusing you of doing what they do. And/or they are vampiric in nature and want to start chaos to validate that they matter and exist on Earth (low sense of self).

- Pointing out their underlying projections as being from their own fears holds up the perfect mirror against insecure people. Many insecure people avoid this mirror. They either spiral, go more mad in nonsense rebuttals (making it obvious to others they are crazy) or completely flee and ghost. This makes it easier to weed out people who are bullshitting their way through life to avoid accountability vs those who are genuinely on a path to reflection and improving themselves.

Make sure you always hold up a mirror to people who are trying to manipulate or gaslight you. It can work in your favor.

I admit, it has made some people boring and predictable and obvious... I wish I didn't know it sometimes.