This is insane. I do not want to deal with this. Why is it even a thing? Here we are yet again, my computer is locked and I have to track down the information. What a hassle
I've known my friend since high school and we stayed close into our mid 30s. When she first started dating the man who's now her husband, I remember telling her she could do better. He had no ambition, always saw himself as the victim, and constantly complained that everyone else had it easier than him. He hasn’t changed at all in the three years since then.
Months ago, I had been seeing some disturbing things he had been posting on social media. I reached out to ask her about it and she said she I should call him to discuss his views because she thought we would agree on some points. His posts included wanting an all white society, saying Jews should be exiled, the Jews deserved the Holocaust but also the Holocaust didn’t happen/wasn’t as bad as people say, and other antisemitic and white supremacist nonsense content daily. Then she tried to tell me she didn't think he actually believed what he was posting (it was 8-12 posts daily!)
I told her there was nothing to discuss. I couldn't be friends with someone who defended that kind of hate, so I blocked her and haven't spoken to her since.
There were other things as well like regularly leaving their infant with people they'd only known for a couple of weeks or at the daycare at churches they’ve never been to before. I realized she had become someone I didn't recognize anymore.
I still miss the friend I grew up with, but I don't miss the person she became. Has anyone else lost a longtime friend because they chose to stand by someone with extremist beliefs instead of walking away?
If I found a dead body on my ranch I would be calling 911, not moving it.
I work remotely as a nurse, and most of my patients are wonderful. However, I recently started working with a new patient who has been messaging me daily. I explained that our typical response time is within 48 hours, so I’m not always able to respond immediately.
In addition to the frequent messages, the patient often shares extensive details about personal drama and situations that are unrelated to their medical care. They have also asked me to help with legal issues, which falls outside my role and scope of practice.
Recently, they sent me photos of themselves with the comment, “So you know what I look like.” That made me uncomfortable and felt like it crossed professional boundaries.
Taken together, the frequent messaging, personal disclosures, requests for assistance outside of healthcare, and unsolicited photos have left me feeling that the professional boundaries of the relationship are becoming blurred.
I’m unsure how best to address the situation while maintaining appropriate boundaries and a therapeutic, professional relationship. What would you recommend?