u/PastorJT

So, it seems like that I have been in a constant struggle between me and my parents. A few days ago it came to a head:
I began to realize my driving was being monitored via an app on my phone. I would get a message from my mom or sister asking what was for lunch or some snide remark like how’s your diet going? One day this past week, after going to get lunch my wife, daughter, and self after church, I got a message from my mom asking what was for lunch. After telling what I had, she then said it wasn’t healthy, too many carbs, etc.
I was done. Nobody deserves to be spied on like that. I deleted the app and went silent for a few days. When she sent a message Friday it was full of sarcasm and yelling aka caps lock talking about me turning off the app and not talking. I decided to put my foot down and I crafted a very simple message saying that I didn’t appreciate the sarcasm, caps locked messages, and spying. She replied that my wife had been rude the last time we were down there, that I had lied to them and how dare I say anything about boundaries. And yet, when I mentioned a situation in the past that was mentioned in the message I was told that was off limits.
The next day I got a message from my sister who asked me what the \*\*\*\* my problem was, that my mom had gotten up at 3 am in tears over some “b.s.” and how dare I do that. Them added that I didn’t know half of the story from the past and yet it was off limits. My mom then said that she had talked to my dad and she said that I picked the worst time to address this issue since my sister was sick and she was sorry a felt that way about her. She ended it with she loved me but I had no idea how much I hurt her.

That was a little over a day. I have blocked both of them from calling or texting. I am doing this for my mental health. I refused to be treated like a nobody. I don’t deserve to be treated like I’m nobody. I’m holding on to hope for reconciliation, but I’m afraid it will never happen.

Question: what does low contact and no contact look like? I’m new to that part.

So, it seems like that I have been in a constant struggle between me and my parents. A few days ago it came to a head:
I began to realize my driving was being monitored via an app on my phone. I would get a message from my mom or sister asking what was for lunch or some snide remark like how’s your diet going? One day this past week, after going to get lunch my wife, daughter, and self after church, I got a message from my mom asking what was for lunch. After telling what I had, she then said it wasn’t healthy, too many carbs, etc.
I was done. Nobody deserves to be spied on like that. I deleted the app and went silent for a few days. When she sent a message Friday it was full of sarcasm and yelling aka caps lock talking about me turning off the app and not talking. I decided to put my foot down and I crafted a very simple message saying that I didn’t appreciate the sarcasm, caps locked messages, and spying. She replied that my wife had been rude the last time we were down there, that I had lied to them and how dare I say anything about boundaries. And yet, when I mentioned a situation in the past that was mentioned in the message I was told that was off limits.
The next day I got a message from my sister who asked me what the **** my problem was, that my mom had gotten up at 3 am in tears over some “b.s.” and how dare I do that. Them added that I didn’t know half of the story from the past and yet it was off limits. My mom then said that she had talked to my dad and she said that I picked the worst time to address this issue since my sister was sick and she was sorry a felt that way about her. She ended it with she loved me but I had no idea how much I hurt her.

That was a little over a day. I have blocked both of them from calling or texting. I am doing this for my mental health. I refused to be treated like a nobody. I don’t deserve to be treated like I’m nobody. I’m holding on to hope for reconciliation, but I’m afraid it will never happen.

So a few years ago, my Mom asked me, my wife and my daughter to link to their Life360 account. I figured they would see if we’re home when they would call or message and the same for us. However, things started to become an issue of privacy and trust that have reached a breaking point for me. Several reasons:

- When traveling to their home in another state, my Apple Map directions took me on a detour due to construction. My mom texted and asked why we went off the usual route. When I explained, she said “whatever”

- I decided a few weeks ago to go get some breakfast at Hardee’s. While I am in line I get a message from her asking if I had a breakfast sandwich maker at home. She said it would be healthier than “what I was getting there” (this is also after several occasions where my sister would see I was at a restaurant and ask how my diet was going)

-The breaking point for me was this week, when my mom told me she talked to my sister and she had told her we went to Olive Garden. Our daughter did, by herself.

I am so sick and tired of being spied on. I feel like she is trying to continue to manipulate my life by chastising me about how I drive and eat. I’m about ready to simply delete the app and be done with it. Nobody should have to go through life feeling like they’re being watched all the time. It doesn’t happen all the time but every once in awhile, without warning, I’ll get a message similar to those above.

So would I be the asshole for deleting the app on mine, my wife’s and daughter’s phones?