AIO for being upset that my bf walked out on a expensive dinner I planned for his promotion?
I have been dating my boyfriend for a while now.
He is deaf, and honestly we’ve always had amazing communication and a great relationship.
Recently he got a huge promotion at work that he’s been stressing about for months. I was so proud of him and wanted to celebrate BIG.
I saved up and booked a reservation at a fancy restaurant in our city. It’s known for having incredible food but also it’s quite dimly lit
When we got there and were seated I could tell he was getting tense cause of the very dim lighting, he was struggling to read my lips clearly and couldn't see my facial expressions well, which made it hard for us to carry on our usual conversation.
I noticed this so I pulled out my phone and started typing out messages in a notepad app to communicate with him so he wouldn’t feel left out.
He got deeply offended. He typed back that the atmosphere was making him feel incredibly isolated and anxious and that I should have known better than to pick a dark restaurant where he can't communicate properly.
He said I cared more about the aesthetic of a fancy place than his comfort.
I whispered that I literally spent weeks trying to get this reservation just to surprise him, and that using the phone was a perfectly fine temporary solution for one night.
He just shook his head, stood up, and walked out of the restaurant. I had to pay for the drinks we ordered, cancel the dinner, and leave by myself.
I feel like walking out on me and wasting that effort was a huge overreaction.
AIO for being angry and deeply hurt by his behavior? Or was I actually in the wrong here?
EDIT: Just to clear a few things up since the comments are getting wild. Yes, I know dimly lit places make communication hard I just didn't think this specific restaurant would be that dark inside based on the pics i saw. Also my bad for using the word "whispered” we use a mix of sign and lip reading and I meant I was trying to sign/talk quietly so the whole room wouldn't stare at us, not that I expected him to magically hear a whisper.
we live together so we already talked about it at home and it's fine now. I wasn't trying to force him to stay or look at the menu to eat there I just wanted to see if we could transfer the reservation deposit to another night or just grab a quick drink before heading out since I saved up my own money to pay for this whole night.
He did tell me he wanted to leave, but he just walked out before we could even figure out anything. I’m not trying to be the victim here it was just a frustrating misunderstanding.