u/PeroxideTree

**Preface**

I know this post sounds insane, and I’m honestly ashamed to even be writing it, but I do not know what else to do.

I believe I may have been pulled into a romance scam, or at the very least, used in a deeply manipulative way. Her first name is Soh-Young, and she is a law student. I don't want to share further details to protect their identity. She goes by the English aliases Olivia and Julia. If you may know them, I would encourage you to read this post and contact me.

This post is not me trying to start a witch hunt. I am asking whether anyone has dealt with something similar with her and whether there is any realistic path forward or if anyone can provide answers.

From what I know about her and this situation, it's likely she's done this to multiple people.

**Situation**

A few years ago, I dated someone who abruptly vanished from my life. Before that happened, I found out she had been lying to me in serious ways and was involved with multiple other men at the same time. One day, she was simply gone. No honest conversation. No explanation. She sent me a text saying "We should go our separate ways. I wish you all the best" and then blocked me everywhere. Days prior, I had began asking her questions after realizing that her life stories had constant contradictions or different retellings.

Then, about a year ago, she came back into my life. Emotions got involved again, and she guilted me into send her money. Then, she immediately blocked me and a month later was vacationing in Mexico.

At this point, I contacted her parents, and from what I understand, she had also taken a significant amount of money from them and had ghosted them for nearly two years. The moment she found out I had spoken to them, she returned to them, and then the entire conversation shut down again.

That is the pattern that has stayed with me through all of this: silence, confusion, denial (lying), and everyone around her either backing away or protecting her.

At this point I am exhausted. The money matters, yes, but what has affected me even more is the feeling of being lied to, erased, and then made to feel crazy for trying to understand what happened to me.

Currently, I am preparing myself to walk away emotionally. But before I do, I wanted to make one final honest attempt at trying to get answers.

If you know anything or have answers, Please DM me.

**Context**

I tried going through the courts, and it's been a mess. She's been making this as painful as possible every step of the way.

**Preface**

I know this post sounds insane, and I’m honestly ashamed to even be writing it, but I do not know what else to do.

I believe I may have been pulled into a romance scam, or at the very least, used in a deeply manipulative way. Her first name is Soh-Young, and she is a law student. I don't want to share further details to protect their identity. She goes by the English aliases Olivia and Julia. If you may know them, I would encourage you to read this post and contact me.

This post is not me trying to start a witch hunt. I am asking whether anyone has dealt with something similar with her and whether there is any realistic path forward or if anyone can provide answers.

From what I know about her and this situation, it's likely she's done this to multiple people.

**Situation**

A few years ago, I dated someone who abruptly vanished from my life. Before that happened, I found out she had been lying to me in serious ways and was involved with multiple other men at the same time. One day, she was simply gone. No honest conversation. No explanation. She sent me a text saying "We should go our separate ways. I wish you all the best" and then blocked me everywhere. Days prior, I had began asking her questions after realizing that her life stories had constant contradictions or different retellings.

Then, about a year ago, she came back into my life. Emotions got involved again, and she guilted me into send her money. Then, she immediately blocked me and a month later was vacationing in Mexico.

At this point, I contacted her parents, and from what I understand, she had also taken a significant amount of money from them and had ghosted them for nearly two years. The moment she found out I had spoken to them, she returned to them, and then the entire conversation shut down again.

That is the pattern that has stayed with me through all of this: silence, confusion, denial (lying), and everyone around her either backing away or protecting her.

At this point I am exhausted. The money matters, yes, but what has affected me even more is the feeling of being lied to, erased, and then made to feel crazy for trying to understand what happened to me.

Currently, I am preparing myself to walk away emotionally. But before I do, I wanted to make one final honest attempt at trying to get answers.

If you know anything or have answers, Please DM me.

**Context**

I tried going through the courts, and it's been a mess. She's been making this as painful as possible every step of the way.

**Situation**

A few years ago, I dated someone who abruptly vanished from my life. Before that happened, I found out she had been lying to me in serious ways and was involved with multiple other men at the same time.

Then, about a year ago, she came back into my life. Emotions got involved again, and she guilted me into send her money. Then, she immediately blocked me and a month later was vacationing in Mexico.

Currently, I am preparing myself to walk away emotionally. But before I do, I wanted to make one final honest attempt at trying to get answers.

**Context & Request**

I have a fair amount of her PII (emails, phone, city, etc). from when we dated, but this likely need someone talented in OSINT or other options.

This person resides in Germany. I'm from the USA. Its my understanding that this person is traveling in canada and i've long suspected her of being a cam girl/sex worker/sugar baby.

My intentions are simply to know if anything was ever real or if I was always being used,

**Situation**

A few years ago, I dated someone who abruptly vanished from my life. Before that happened, I found out she had been lying to me in serious ways and was involved with multiple other men at the same time. One day, she was simply gone. No honest conversation. No explanation. She sent me a text saying "We should go our separate ways. I wish you all the best" and then blocked me everywhere. Days prior, I had began asking her questions after realizing that her life stories had constant contradictions or different retellings.

Then, about a year ago, she came back into my life. Emotions got involved again, and she guilted me into send her money. Then, she immediately blocked me and a month later was vacationing in Mexico.

I then contacted her parents, and from what I understand, she had also taken a significant amount of money from them and ghosted them for nearly two years. The moment she found out I had spoken to them, she returned to them, and then the entire conversation shut down again.

Currently, I am preparing myself to walk away emotionally. But before I do, I wanted to make one final honest attempt at trying to get answers.

**Context & Request**

I have a fair amount of her PII (emails, phone, city, etc). from when we dated, but this likely need someone talented in OSINT or other options.

This person resides in Germany. I'm from the USA. Its my understanding that this person is traveling in canada and i've long suspected her of being a cam girl/sex worker/sugar baby.

**Details**
We dated for a year and spent every weekend together. I only ever met her friends twice and that was a month before she vanished. During that time, she began to correct the stories she had once told me about her life.

She claimed to have a "handsome stalker" that kept walking her home but then I found out nobody even knew that I had existed and it all fell apart. I never had the chance to confront anything.