u/Perrytheplatypus03

I'm loosing 0,4-0,5 kgs a week so far (3 weeks, minus initial first week). I eat around 2250 calories daily on avarage. I'm 32F. (Edit: current weight is 75,5 kg, 170 cm)

I'm not that active. I've been active for the last 12+ years rock climbing, weight training, biking etc. But like, only 2-ish times a week for climbing and weights. Biking is commute, ranging from 10 to 50 km a week. Daily small walks of 2-4 kms.

Can my habitual level of activity really have that much of an impact on my muscle mass, so I can eat this many calories?

I am HUNGRY if I avarage on 1800-2000 a day.

I can't help to wonder if I measure incorrectly? I've tried measuring every small thing, but can eyeball a lot of my food pretty accurately (tried to weigh it afterwards)

I've done CICO 5 years ago and lost the weight I wanted. But due to illness I gained everything back in 6 months and recently started CICO again.

I have my fair share of tattoos now.

Recently I have been to a lovely artist for 4 whole day sessions on my stomach. They have made an awesome piece, but a part of the piece is not started yet, the hips, misunderstood and thought it all would be done by now.

For the autumn I'm going back for 5 or more whole sessions. I thought the autumn would be the back.

The hips is both front and back, making it cohesive.

I don't want to be seen as rude, but I would really like an estimate on how many sessions each part of the tattoo will be. I might only be able to afford the 5 booked sessions. So I was thinking about asking for a mock stencil sorta thing, so I have a feeling on how much we are able to achieve in those 5 sessions, and so I'm able to change something that I might have to walk around with on my body for half a year or more (so far the artist have done great work I can totally wear what I got so far).

It's heavy black work, so it takes time, I fully understand now. I didn't at the beginning. So I was disappointed with "how little" was done at first.

How do I ask the artist in the best possible and polite way? So it doesn't seem like I want to rush them. I want the tattoo to be great. And if more sessions is needed, that's how it is. I just need our expectations to align.

Thank you.

Im bi and nonbinary. But my partner is accidentally cis het. I feel so invalidated in queer spaces when the topic is partners and I mention my lovely partner of many years. I never open the topic myself. It sucks.. I'm finally out. But I don't feel like I can be myself 100% anywhere. My partner doesn't understand fully, because they are not queer (well, only in the sense that they are with me). I have only one queer friend who is "traditional" lesbian and recently changed pronouns to they/them. But they have accidently said something bifobic before. One friend might is demi, but she can't really understand what the fuss is about for me. My other friends are cis het and don't understand at all, but accept me.

Does some of you feel the same? How do you navigate this?

AFAB here. I think I'm non binary. I'm in my thirties. I've never felt like a "real" woman. When people adress me as she/her/woman/girl/etc. in my native language I cringe inside. It feels wrong. I got misgendered as a man a while ago. It felt okay - but not right.

The thing is.. I don't want others to make an extra effort to use they/them pronouns? It's a bit more confusing in my native language. And I'm married to a cis-het man. He knows I'm bi. And that I changed my name to a neutral one a year ago. I dress very androgenous. So it shouldn't be a surprise. But coming out to him, in-laws and my family and friends is out of my comfort zone (currently also on autistic burnout). And in medical and official places? Impossible.

When new people ask for pronouns I say they/she.

Is it "necessary" to actively come out?

Whatd the best way forward?

Should I actively use they/them pronounce? Should I come out?

I also feel like an imposter? I have a very feminine shaped body. Sometimes i like my waistline. Mostly when im with my husband, because he appreciates my feminine looking body. Other times I HATE it. If I could chose I would have a much more neutral looking body.

To the people who really needs their alone time and are living with their partner:

Do you have your own personal room?

Did you have to trade/give something up, for it to happen?

We live in a 2 room apartment. Not 2 bedrooms. 2 rooms. A living room and a bedroom. We are looking into options for 3 rooms in total or 4, so we can both have a room. But having 4 rooms would mean moving away from the city we live in. For me it would mean no immediate access to friends (who I value a lot) and a lot longer travel for my main hobby.

3 rooms would mean staying close by and living like I'm used to and in known surroundings.

I’ve been thinking about this non-stop for multiple days.

Hi!

I've been doing good - the good habits are set. I'm eating healthy, fokusing on protein, fiber and veggies. Doing some form of exercise daily I enjoy - from vigorous training to chill yoga.

4 years ago I weighed 10 kgs less than now and I felt confident and strong - 63 kgs as a 170 cm woman in her thirties.

Now I'm a little overweight at 73 kgs and have a realistic goal of 65 kgs.

But. I'm losing too slow. Like 0,5 kg every other or third week. Its been stalling.. I think I might be eating at my maintenance or very close to it.

For those of you who successfully lost weight while maintaining a healthy lifestyle, how did you make the shift? Did you simply eat smaller portions of the same foods?

I'm eating 2000~ a day. That is sustainable to me long term.

For weightloss I should maybe do 16-1800? But it would be a significant change in mindset.

How did you adjust mentally from "eating for health" to "eating for weight loss"?

How did you manage the hunger in the beginning?

I'd love to hear what worked for you!

Tomorrow is my first session out of four whole days (not in a row) to get my stomach and both hips done. The first day will go with outlining the tattoo.

But that means no clothes from the waist down.. or what?! How can I dress smart for this?

I'm planning on wearing a thong, loose pants and a cropped loose tshirt. I'm bringing a skirt in case that's smarter.

I'm super psyched, but also nervous about the clothing situation 😅 it's my first where I cant just hike my pants up. Being butt naked is freaking me out

If you've removed multiple piercings, when and why did you do it? How did it affect your sense of identity?

I'm asking because changes in my everyday life has made it less practical to have multiple piercings. I've taken some out, still having a few in ears and nose. But seriously considering removing all or almost all. Both for comfort and practical reasons. But for almost 20 years I've been "visible" pierced with multiple face, ear and body piercings. It feels like a loss of my younger and more radical identity.

I'm not sure what flair to use. Relationships? Health? Discussion?

I'm sorry for the longer and badly composed post.

I'm physically active and have been for more than 10 years. But I'm also carrying some extra fat. Result is I look fit-ish, muscly but a bit squishy. I'm 170 cm and 71 kgs.

In principle I can do everything I want, hike, rock climb, muaythai, bike, eat healthy, eat icecream and shop "normal" size clothes. I should be content and happy. Right?

A few years ago I lost weight to 62-65 kgs, feeling really good. I felt beautiful and strong. Looking great besides my husband.. But staying under 65 kgs is hard for me. I'm just too hungry.

My husband is 175 cm and 68 kgs.. I think one of the reasons I really want to lose a little weight again (to 65 kgs) are so I can be lighter than him. I think he is gorgeous and just the way he is supposed to be.

When we met I was 75~ kgs and he 65~ kgs. I felt extremely self conscious and masculine? But we fell in love and have been together for almost 10 years.

How (TF!) do I get over this? How do I get over that my husband is naturally lighter than me? We're adults in our mid 30's. It shouldn't be such a big deal for me...