u/PickledRoofTop

I'm usually fine about just ignoring her. But this is our last semester of our 3 year program. I've dealt with her being like this toward only me for 2.5 years. I am a good student and a rule follower. I enjoy helping my cohort members and being known as a reliable friend/peer. She (and a couple others) don't like that. I try to send assignment reminders so people don't forget, and I always get a like or a message back thanking me. But this girl goes out of her way to say and do shitty things to me. It has been witnessed by peers, professors, and clinical instructors before. At this point, with us graduating this December, I'm closer and closer to confronting her. I want her to know that people in our cohort see what she does and that I hope she doesn't make anyone feel like this again in her career. How should I handle this without just continuing to ignore?

Edit to say it's completely fine if she doesn't like me. Not everyone will like you. What isn't fine is her being so comfortable being nasty toward me in front of our peers, professors, and clinical instructors. If she did this in an actual working nurse setting, she'd be fired for creating a hostile work environment.

Okay so, I don't want to give too many details because idk if he uses reddit. Basically, we were sharing a bed after a night of drinking. We started making out. He was grabbing me in all the right places. He whispered in my ear something like, "this was a long time coming", bc we've been friends for a few years now. It was hot.

We didn't want to go too far. But I wish it could have gone slightly further. Anyway, I keep replaying the night. The whole thing has left me wanting more.

Thing is, we definitely wouldn't date due to different life goals. So this isn't a romantic interest. But he's truly a great guy. He's smart, funny, and attractive.

I guess I'm just wondering if it'd be easier for me to try to push it out of my head and pretend it didn't happen. If I keep fantasizing about that night, I think I'll just continue to want more, you know?

My cousin's 23rd birthday is tomorrow. She chose a place that has "club" in the name, but when I googled that place plus "drink menu", it said "dive bar selection". So is it a club or a bar 😭? She has invited me, her bf, a guy friend, and a gal friend. I haven't met any of them yet. Also, she said "This is a relaxed night out I'm going for". WHAT DOES THAT MEAN? IT'S A CLUB/BAR! Like, I was gonna drink drink. But then I read "relaxed night out" and now I'm wondering what level of drunk I'm supposed to get 😭.

There is some seating, but not a lot. There will be live music. And from the pics I've seen of the place, it's mood-lighting but not strobes or anything. Google said this place, dress-wise, is casual. Like jeans & a t-shirt.

Also, her gal friend will be our DD, but doesn't drink at all anyway. Would it be weird of me to be drunk if her friend isn't? My cousin isn't even that big of a drinker (that I know of), and I definitely don't want to drink drink if that's not the vibe 💀.

Really frustrates me. I am a woman (born woman), but gen z. Non-binary and trans have always just made sense to me. It's not difficult to understand. But my step mom is was born 1982. She tries to use the correct pronouns while speaking about trans (my cousin) and non-binary (my other cousin) people, but I've learned that she believes they're "confused". It really frustrates me because there is no reason to not "believe" in trans and non-binary existence. Both are scientifically backed, and both have existed as long as humanity itself.

She's dem, but still small-minded in some ways, I guess. It's frustrating.

I love y'all, and I hate that people don't have enough brain cells to comprehend things like the gender spectrum.