u/PineappleSimilar1608

Heyyy! I don’t really know where to post this, but I just need to vent somewhere.

I use multiple apps like Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, and the first thing I put in my bio is that I’m trans and if anyone has anything against it then it’s better to just scroll left, and some people completely miss it (I know not everyone is reading bios out there), and therefore I get messages like: “oh sorry didn’t see you’re trans”, “are you a transvestite?”, “I’m not gay sorry”, or sometimes just “die” or “I hate you” AFTER liking my profile. Sometimes I take it as a compliment that they didn’t clock me from seeing my photos, but after this happening many times it’s not that fun actually lol.

Then, of course, there are chasers who text all those compliments just to get in your pants, and it’s also exhausting because I’m under several of their kinks: I’m non-white and I’m trans, so those men feel free to be not only transphobic, but racist too.

But there are also some nice people who can have interesting and meaningful conversations, but they’re mostly looking for something casual, a hookup, and that’s not exactly what I’m looking for now. My friends (all cis) have been having the same experience talking to men on dating apps, and I know it’s pretty common out there, which doesn’t make it less upsetting.

And the bigger problem is that I can’t really meet people offline, because I live in a pretty small town, there aren’t any places to meet people naturally, therefore I’m stuck with those dating apps now…

P.S.: I’ve also tried Taimi, but it’s mostly chasers, and I deleted the app very quickly. I’ve read some people recommending Grindr, but I’m not really sure if it’s very different from Taimi.