u/Pipesforwater

Hello, and peace be upon you all. I want to share a guide I have made to being a convert from experience, I am a male and have to hide it in an Atheist family, so I can only speak from experience there, but if you're in a different situation you can still learn some valuable tips from this. Please note this is primarily targeted towards teenagers and young adults who still live under their parents roof and already know how to pray, what to recite, and have said their Shahada and already know the basics and pillars of Islam. Keep in mind this is for those who are actively oppressed, if you know for a fact your parents would be fine with you being Muslim, I highly recommend just telling them and being honest.

First tip: Don't ever, EVER tell your parents

I embraced Islam in 2024 and when I told my parents they got really, REALLY angry and I had to and it is the whole reason I have to hide my faith more intensely. Your faith is between you and Allah, If you have close Muslim friends you can tell it to them if you trust they won't say anything, but don't ever, EVER tell a non-Muslim that you have converted, as a rule of thumb, always assume somehow your parents will find out, so tell little people.

Second tip: How to hide being Muslim

First and most importantly, never have anything physical that pertains to Islam such as a physical Quran copy. Keep everything digital. My biggest tip is use DuckDuckGo for finding information about Islam, DuckDuckGo has a feature that instantly wipes all your cookies and history in case they go through your device. And also use a VPN, my recommendation is ProtonVPN, it's free and reliable. If your parents know how to use technology like mine do, they can access the router logs and see the sites you visit, incognito mode does not hide this, a VPN does. If you're reading the Quran, do so online, and clear your history as soon as you're done. To hide prayer, try and have a chair and desk in your room, and if you have a tv or monitor, have it in roughly the same direction as the Qiblah, and angle your chair in that direction and keep a remote on your armrest this is for incase your parents walk in, you can make it look like you were just watching TV. If you don't have a tv, keep a book on your desk and the second you hear that door even start to open, grab that book and pretend to be reading. Unfortunately if they talk to you, you will have to start your prayer over again, but Allah will reward you. Another tip, always assume if you have something that your parents can see that will out you as a Muslim, always assume they can and will find it.

Third Tip: Coping

I'm gonna be real, it's hard being a convert, I've struggled with suicidal thoughts after being discovered before (I'm fine now). Don't ever kill yourself, it isn't worth it. You're not alone, Allah loves you. Depression and anger issues are real struggles that will come with being a convert. I have fallen into pits of depression from my situation before, and the best way to cope is let your feelings out, you can talk to Allah, Allah listens. Allah is the one who can help you. Never stop praying, life is hard, but this life is but a test from Allah. If Allah has chosen you, and you specifically out of the billions on Earth to be Muslim, is that not a sign of his love?

Hello, and peace be upon you all. I want to share a guide I have made to being a convert from experience, I am a male and have to hide it in an Atheist family, so I can only speak from experience there, but if you're in a different situation you can still learn some valuable tips from this. Please note this is primarily targeted towards teenagers and young adults who still live under their parents roof and already know how to pray, what to recite, and have said their Shahada and already know the basics and pillars of Islam. Keep in mind this is for those who are actively oppressed, if you know for a fact your parents would be fine with you being Muslim, I highly recommend just telling them and being honest.

First tip: Don't ever, EVER tell your parents

I embraced Islam in 2024 and when I told my parents they got really, REALLY angry and I had to and it is the whole reason I have to hide my faith more intensely. Your faith is between you and Allah, If you have close Muslim friends you can tell it to them if you trust they won't say anything, but don't ever, EVER tell a non-Muslim that you have converted, as a rule of thumb, always assume somehow your parents will find out, so tell little people.

Second tip: How to hide being Muslim

First and most importantly, never have anything physical that pertains to Islam such as a physical Quran copy. Keep everything digital. My biggest tip is use DuckDuckGo for finding information about Islam, DuckDuckGo has a feature that instantly wipes all your cookies and history in case they go through your device. And also use a VPN, my recommendation is ProtonVPN, it's free and reliable. If your parents know how to use technology like mine do, they can access the router logs and see the sites you visit, incognito mode does not hide this, a VPN does. If you're reading the Quran, do so online, and clear your history as soon as you're done. To hide prayer, try and have a chair and desk in your room, and if you have a tv or monitor, have it in roughly the same direction as the Qiblah, and angle your chair in that direction and keep a remote on your armrest this is for incase your parents walk in, you can make it look like you were just watching TV. If you don't have a tv, keep a book on your desk and the second you hear that door even start to open, grab that book and pretend to be reading. Unfortunately if they talk to you, you will have to start your prayer over again, but Allah will reward you. Another tip, always assume if you have something that your parents can see that will out you as a Muslim, always assume they can and will find it.

Third Tip: Coping

I'm gonna be real, it's hard being a convert, I've struggled with suicidal thoughts after being discovered before (I'm fine now). Don't ever kill yourself, it isn't worth it. You're not alone, Allah loves you. Depression and anger issues are real struggles that will come with being a convert. I have fallen into pits of depression from my situation before, and the best way to cope is let your feelings out, you can talk to Allah, Allah listens. Allah is the one who can help you. Never stop praying, life is hard, but this life is but a test from Allah. If Allah has chosen you, and you specifically out of the billions on Earth to be Muslim, is that not a sign of his love?

I have said I don't want marriage, but this girl I used to know a year ago, I would marry her 100%. She prayed, stayed out of Haram relationships, wore hijab correctly, which I know are all obligatory, but I live in the west so finding someone who's pious is more difficult. She supported me when she found out I became Muslim, we got along really well, she was everything I wanted. Thing is we go to different schools now and I haven't seen her in a while. Maybe we'll meet again someday and get married (In Sha Allah) but we might not. I just want to know how to move on.

So there's someone at my school who is Muslim but considering Christianity. I left Christianity for Islam so this really, really makes me sad. I had told him about why I left Christianity (the trinity makes no sense, the hundreds of branches that contradict eachother, etc.) and Subhanallah when I told him he said he was willing to listen to my reasonings. Please share Quran verses, Hadiths, things in science that align with Islam, anything like that.

So there's someone at my school who is Muslim but considering Christianity. I left Christianity for Islam so this really, really makes me sad. I had told him about why I left Christianity (the trinity makes no sense, the hundreds of branches that contradict eachother, etc.) and Subhanallah when I told him he said he was willing to listen to my reasonings. Please share Quran verses, Hadiths, things in science that align with Islam, anything like that.

I'm not acting like I'm perfect, but the state of the Ummah today makes me frustrated. People saying Wallahi every TWO SECONDS like it's nothing! Even in the bathroom! THE BATHROOM! Do they not fear Allah!? Vaping and even cannabis are widespread today, so is music and interacting with the opposite gender, people at my school skip Jummah like it's nothing, I don't go, but I have a valid reason to! (doing so would alert my family to me being Muslim). And what gets to me the most, when you tell them not to sin, which is AN OBLIGATION (enjoin good and forbid evil), they tell you to mind yourself, which is the MOST HATED speech to Allah by the way. And so many people only say they're Muslim because their parents are, when they don't even pray, which is what separates us from the disbelievers. And not to mention how they confuse their culture and religion, like forbidding their sons/daughters from marrying someone from a country RIGHT NEXT TO WHERE THEY'RE FROM! All for the sake of "Keeping the bloodline pure". Is there a single Quran verse or Hadith telling us to do that? No. Stop impressing the dead. Sorry this post is so negative compared to my recent, happier posts, but I just want to bring to light how widespread sins are in the Ummah today.

So today my Iman has been increasing, shortly before Maghrib I decided to do dhikr, and then I wanted to read the Quran, and I couldn't stop once I started! I've been struggling with depression, anxiety, and anger issues and I've been very distracted by the Dunya, but just reading the three Quls and a few other verses has already inspired me! The Quran is truly the word of Allah! If you are struggling with your Iman, seriously, read the Quran, even if just a little, recite it too. Remind yourself this world is but a test and Allah has sent us here to test which of us will stay righteous. If you talk to the opposite gender, cut it off. If you vape or smoke, get help with quitting. Fear Allah.

(Reposted from Muslimlounge because EVERY post I make there gets completely ignored)

So things have gotten way better now and I'm happy again! And I swear, Not even an hour of Dhikr and reading the Quran has worked more and so much quicker than MONTHS of therapy! Therapy straight up does not work for me at all, I was a miserable person my first day there, and the last time I was there over a month ago, it was for a few months, and it didn't help like at all. But today I started reading the Quran again and I kid you not within a few minutes I couldn't stop and actually felt motivated to work towards the Akhira and I genuinely want to change for the better now. Islam is the answer.

So today my Iman has been increasing, shortly before Maghrib I decided to do dhikr, and then I wanted to read the Quran, and I couldn't stop once I started! I've been struggling with depression, anxiety, and anger issues and I've been very distracted by the Dunya, but just reading the three Quls and a few other verses has already inspired me! The Quran is truly the word of Allah! If you are struggling with your Iman, seriously, read the Quran, even if just a little, recite it too. Remind yourself this world is but a test and Allah has sent us here to test which of us will stay righteous. If you talk to the opposite gender, cut it off. If you vape or smoke, get help with quitting. Fear Allah.

Asalamualaykum, as most of your probably know most of my posts have been really negative and pessimistic, but life has gotten great lately! I don't feel empty and depressed anymore, I'm happier, I talk to my friends again, I've worked on my anger issues, and yeah I still have to hide my faith from my family but that's just the norm for me :)

Anyways, I want to get my happiness from halal sources and be able to quit music, I know it's not something I can just immediately give up because you can't with any type of addiction, but I want my happiness to come from being a good Muslim, submitting to Allah, and other good deeds. If you can tell me ways to get started I'd really appreciate it!

I genuinely hate how I look. My stomach sticks out even though I'm skinny everywhere else, I don't like my face, my forehead is a bit too big, and my body is too fat (even though I'm not overweight at all), long story short I'm hideous. I was wondering if it's haram to change how I look with plastic surgery, I'm not trying to attract girls or anything, I just want to look good.

My Iman is always low, I don't want to be Kuffar, Allah has guided me yet I keep relapsing. I JUST WANT TO BE A GOOD MUSLIM yet I can't quit doing Haram things, I want to do better, I'm full of regret, It's so hard to hide being Muslim and it's taking a toll on my Iman, I feel so ashamed. I have almost no self control, I want to do better but I don't know how. I don't feel motivated to do most things. I feel almost nothing all the time, I hate myself so much, I just want to be a good Muslim yet I feel like I keep failing.

I don't have a lot of friends anymore, and even to most off them I'm the secondary option and I'm not THEIR bestfriend. My whole life I've been left out of things by people for no reason. I know it is a test from Allah but how do I be patient? It's made me angry and sad and it feels like no other person actually cares about me. I get left out of just about everything and find it hard to make friends and I'm worried my anger will lead me to doing haram things (Like swearing or backbiting).

Asalamu Alaykum, I just wanna say that this post will be pretty negative, but I just want to get what I'm feeling off my chest.

It's so hard being a convert, I have to hide my faith from my family every day, and it's just so hard, you know? If they find out they'll think I'm some kind of terrorist! They claim to be liberal, but if they really were they'd tolerate my faith. I'm not asking them to convert, I'm not trying to convert them, I'm not asking them to get me money for eid or anything like that, WHY CAN'T THEY JUST ACCEPT ME BEING MUSLIM!? WHY!? YOU ARE MY PARENTS, YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO LOVE ME UNCONDITIONALLY! I have to hide my prayer, my Muslim friends never have to experience that and I'm so glad they never have had to hide it. I rarely read the Quran or Hadiths anymore because I'm worried they'll catch me, I'm worried they'll find out all the time, I'm extremely paranoid and the therapy they put me in hasn't helped one bit, I'm the same miserable angry person I was when they signed me up. I haven't seen my Muslim friends in a while, most of my friends aren't Muslim and it hurts. I see so many hypocrites who think they're Muslim just because their parents are, they say Wallah for the SMALLEST things and say LITERAL SLURS. And Non-Muslims have been even worse to me! I get called a "race traitor" for being Muslim. Like seriously? I'm an outsider to everyone, I can't make white friends because I'm Muslim, and struggle to make Muslim friends (Except the ones I already have of course) because I'm white. I genuinely hate how people are expected to act one way or another because of their culture. People look at me weird for following the correct religion over something as small as ethnicity, Even though Prophet Muhammad's (Peace be upon him) final sermon was about how there is no racial superiority. I feel I need to hide my faith from other Muslim for fear of ridicule. If that isn't a sign of how flawed people today are I don't know what is, of course a lot of born Muslims I've met have been supportive, I have been mocked a lot at the same time. If I try to correct someone they think I'm trying to be a Sheik or "Teach them Islam". My Iman always feels low, and I want to be a better Muslim but I'm just struggling so hard with my family in the way.

Please make Dua'a that I can change and be a good person, a good Muslim. I have been a mean person online and I really want to change as I've had a change of heart lately, I am very sorry to everyone I have been rude to, Please make dua'a that I can change and that Allah will forgive me.

Asalamu Alaykum. I'm really worried that Allah will not forgive me on the day of judgement, I don't know if my repentance is sincere or not, I keep relapsing on addictions that I want to break. It's completely up to Allah and I haven't been the best person so I'm really worried now, I want to change but I don't know where to start.

Asalamu Alaykum. I have pretty severe paranoia due to being a convert and having to hide my faith, and it has benefited me before (like finding ways to hide praying and not letting my guard down at all), but I start getting extremely worried while I'm praying because I'm worried if I recited too loud and if my parents heard me, if I pronounced something wrong, things like that, and it's really distracting me when I am praying and it's making finding peace difficult.

السلام عليكم

I have not done Hajj yet as I am still living under my non-Muslim parents' roof, but I want to be able to do Hajj as soon as possible. My first question is how is Hajj done and what are the steps? I know about the stoning of iblis, but that's the only step I am both aware of and know how it is done, could somebody explain it step by step?

My second question is how do I enter Mecca since they only allow Muslims? I'm a convert so I'm worried they will think I'm not Muslim because I'm white. Should I get a Shahada certificate? I didn't take my Shahada in a Mosque or Masjid, rather I told my friends I want to convert and they guided me through saying the Shahada, so I didn't get a certificate. And would I have to present that at the Airport or when I land?

I genuinely do not get why everybody wants marriage so bad. Maybe it's just me but I really do not want to get married. Ever. I don't see how it benefits me, I get married, now I have to get screamed at by a woman about EVERY SINGLE MISTAKE I make and criticizes every single breath I take wrong that I have to argue with every day over basic things. Then if I have kids now on top of that I have a little kid who just screams and cries all the time and soils himself and I have to clean up the mess, then when they get older they'll probably get even worse. And my wife could just take my money whenever and probably won't give any to me. I just don't want that.

My whole life I've been extremely angry and snap quickly, ever since I converted I've been paranoid and panic whenever I hear a single creek in the floor when I'm praying at home, and over the past couple of months I've been feeling a lot more sad too. I just can't seem to really be happy and I don't know what to do. Therapy has done literally nothing for me, It's definitely not a phase, and I just don't know what to do.