u/PirateWeekly2832

Bing chilling so far. Still unemployed unfortunately but I’m trying to change that.

One day at a time, doing good

What I mean is, I often see people on Reddit jumping to the worst possible conclusions based on very little information.

It’s like they’re just looking for something to be upset by or to be negative about.

They also very often have weird attitudes about dating and relationships. It’s simultaneously very sex positive but also prudish? Idk

Examples:

1. Many years ago on a different account I mentioned that I personally was not interested in women that sleep around a lot. That’s all I said. I got hit with the “Oh so you think women shouldn’t enjoy sex just to be appealing to you, you pig?”.
   Like bro did I say that? I think it’s great that women have the freedom to do whatever they want in their lives, do whatever you want! But, just as they don’t owe me any sort of loyalty, I don’t owe them my attraction. I don’t have a problem with them as humans, we can be friends. Why do I have to spell this shit out? Why even accuse me of anything like that in the first place?

2. I was reading through a dating advice/ crush subreddit and someone asked if they should try and speak to someone they see often at their gym. The first reply said no because they’re probably creepy and that person probably doesn’t like them. Based on WHAT? Why is it problematic to speak to someone you like? How do you think people get together you idiot?

It’s like there’s thousands of miserable morons with no reading comprehension on here. Not everyone obviously but these kinds of people piss me off, both irl and online. Stop assuming the worst in people for no reason.

Sorry for the long rant. I hope this is the right subreddit for this kind of thing, Mods pls let me know if I misunderstood the rules, I don’t want to ruin the vibe here.

No urges today.

I do sometimes wonder about the way people talk about things on this subreddit. Obviously we’re all trying to accomplish the same goal but we all have different reasons for it.

I feel bad for the people that feel shame, not over how porn affected their lives but over the genre they watched or the fetish they had.

I feel that as long as you weren’t participating in something that endorsed hurting someone/animals/children or yourself, it’s natural to have sexual preferences. The issue was with consuming pornography, not the genre. Going after the genre is taking the easy way out I feel, the focus should just be to not overcome the pornography addiction as a whole.

Now obviously I know that some people have gone down rabbit holes and come across truly disturbing things, but I’m not referring to them here. I hope they overcome their struggle.

The other thing I was thinking about was how openly we bring up what we were into. I’ve been guilty of this too to some extent but I wonder if we should avoid doing that so we don’t end up romanticising it. (Not keeping mum about it in a prudish way but not saying “I used to be crazy about XYZ porn”)

Edited formatting slightly

Man today was a very long day. I feel like the days seem longer because I do more things with all this extra time.
I was a little depressed earlier today, had a few rejections from job applications. My usual response to adversity has been to feel small and lonely, which I would try to cope with by watching a lot of porn. I still felt small, lonely and like a bum but I realised that beating my dick for two hours was only going to give me very temporary stress relief. So I stayed clean today. It’s the first time I actually had a direct urge to watch porn.
As with all my posts on this sub, I will mention my other attempts at self improvement here too, and how they affect my journey.
I seem to have replaced scrolling through Instagram with scrolling through Reddit so I’m gonna not do that tomorrow. (No scrolling at all)
I’m gonna speak to some friends tomorrow and see if they help me with the whole job thing.
I have more I want to say but I’m nodding off at this point so I think I’ll say it tomorrow. Feel free to drop your own updates in the comments.

Aspects of this post might warrant a TMI warning.

To be completely honest I was zoned out all day today so I’m not sure if it’s day 3 or 4 but let’s just go with 3 for now lol.

As usual the urge I got today was more of a “I normally do this at this time” feeling rather than an actual urge to watch porn, which is good. I read somewhere that it takes two weeks to make a new habit so I suppose this feeling will persist until day 15.

I tried to use my hands on myself without any external stimulus this morning. Started off kind of awkward because I hadn’t done it without porn for a very long time but it was normal by the end so I’ll say that’s a success.

Somewhat related but not quite, I deleted instagram as I found myself doomscrolling again. I find that both things (ig and porn) have the kind of quality where they are addictive but not actually all that enjoyable. I still log in to Instagram once a day on my laptop to check messages from my friends and nothing else. Also helps avoid seeing thirst traps/OF reels. I don’t count those as a “relapse” if I accidentally see them because I don’t “act” on them and I do just scroll past without feeling any sort of arousal or enjoyment but they are annoying.

I hope that these measures will help me restore my attention span somewhat.

Aside from that I am also trying to sleep earlier and look for part time jobs, I hope that fixing these aspects of my life will make me more disciplined overall and make this journey easier and also improve my quality of life in general.

Feel free to share your updates or thoughts in the comments if you wish, I’d love to hear from you.

Felt odd that I didn’t do it today. Not necessarily because I had an urge to do it, I actually didn’t. It’s just that it had just been a part of my daily routine for so long to wake up, watch some videos and then get started with my day. Or sometimes I would watch it before bed. I stayed busy today so wasn’t really thinking of it during the day. Pretty chill so far. Hope it stays this way, let’s see.

Do the Look Away to your right and throw a wide left hook. Even if the opponent resists the look away, the hook still comes from out of their field of vision. Even better if they look away a bit and then resist and turn back into the hook.
Not sure if I should tag this as a discussion or a shitpost but I guess I’ll go with the latter since we’re never gonna see ts lol. Might be cool to see Taihei use some Aoki stuff tho.

M22. Decided I’d just do it, not much use in deliberating on it. I’m pretty confident that I can stop and stay that way (so I stopped today lol) but I did watch it every day for many years and often found myself thinking “Why am I still doing this? This isn’t fun”.
I did have bad days, where I could spend multiple hours watching it or do it 3-4 times a day.

Ive been thinking about how life is limited and how my life has gone downhill due to a number of factors. One big factor is the time I waste on useless things (doomscrolling etc) and watching porn. My screen time is like 12-14 hours a day and usually 1-2 hours of that are from porn. It’s worse on the bad days.

So, I’ve decided to stop this stuff and actually live my life. I’m not sure how to phrase it in a less cringy/preachy way but I really don’t want to waste my limited time on earth with stupid things like this anymore.

There is of course the psychological impact of this stuff but thankfully I’m was never quite as affected by that as most people, though, I definitely do feel it now and then.

I think some real issues I will face are my high-ish libido and the compromises my brain makes when trying to kick a bad habit (basically, I will have to avoid telling myself things like “hentai/whatever isn’t really porn so it’s ok if I watch it” or that “this time it’s ok because of x reason”)

I’m not necessarily looking for any kind of support at the moment, I might make another post if I need it. This is mostly to remind myself in case I forget and to maybe find people that feel the same way.

Apologies for the odd sentence structure in some of these paragraphs and for the huge amount of text.