u/Pitiful_Science246

Hi team. I started a fixed term contract in January with 10 days sick leave. Unfortunately in March my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer and I had to help take care of him. I was able to work remotely from his house, but sometimes I had to just take whole days off because it wasn't possible to care for him adequately and work at the same time. My boss kindly allowed me to take these days off as sick leave and before dad passed away, I had two weeks off split between sick leave, annual leave, and then bereavement. Between that situation and two bouts of RSV, I have used all of my 10 days of sick leave.

In September, I was awarded a permanent role and signed a new contract which included a payrise, and it mentioned the standard 10 days sick leave and 4 weeks of annual leave per year.

My understanding was that once I started the permanent role, my existing annual leave would be paid out to me in the final pay received from the temp role, and I'd start the permanent role with zero accrued annual leave and a fresh 10 days of sick leave - the company i work for allows sick leave in the first 6 months.

Now that I've started the permanent role and got my first payslip, it looks like my annual leave wasn't paid out to me like I thought it would be, and I've still not got any sick leave.

Does anyone know if that's correct? Or do the leave balances stay the same, because I have moved from a temp role to a permanent role at the same company?

I emailed HR to ask about this at the start of October, and never heard back.

If I don't get any sick leave til January that's fine - I'll power through or take an unpaid day if I'm perishing 🙂

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I have been having very odd dreams and experiences at night time.

For context, my dad is terminally ill, we found out in January that he had a tumor. By March he had lost his ability to speak, eat, and walk, and we were told it had spread to his brain and there wasn't much that could be done. He had radiation therapy to try and slow the growth of lesions in his brain and is on steroids to reduce swelling which has allowed him to regain his speech and some mobility but regardless, he likely only has months left.

Recently I have had a few dreams about my dad which have been quite disturbing. One of them I dont remember much of, but he was yelling at me that I wasnt doing anything to help him. He didnt look like my dad at all but in the dream, I seemed to know that he was my dad regardless. I had this dream twice.

Last night I had another, much more vivid dream. I had taken dad to a physiotherapy appointment and over the course of the appointment he went from being his normal happy self to being very difficult and argumentative and challenging the physio. When I tried to calm dad down and get him to engage he said "well what have you done to help me? What have you done to lessen my burden?". He was also calling out to Jesus, asking for help and singing "hallelujah".

This erratic behavior continued to the point that he was standing up laughing quite maniacally, flailing his arms around and launching himself at me. The physiotherapist said "sir what are you doing?" And dad said "oh nothing, I am just trying to scare my baby!" (I am his youngest child). The dream ended with him chasing me around the room, trying to put his hands around my throat while baring his teeth at me.

While my dad has been unwell he has a short temper and has been irritable but he has never acted out to that extreme and would never put his hands on me. Like the other dream, I was aware that this man didnt look like my dad but I had an awareness that it WAS my dad.

After I woke up, I felt very hot and cold and lay in bed for a while trying to calm down. After about 5 or 10 minutes I had closed my eyes to try to get back to sleep when I felt movement in the bed next to me, and when I opened my eyes I saw a flash of a shadow that looked like it was leaving the bed - like someone had been lying next to me and had gotten out of bed. I was sleeping alone so that was weird. After that I tried to close my eyes again but I kept seeing things behind my eyelids. The things I saw were in black and white but the shades were inverted like a film negative. I saw a face, a pile of entrails, and squiggles that looked like a brain.

I dont really know why I'm posting here, I guess I am wondering how much I should read into these dreams and the visions I had afterwards alongside the sense I had that someone was in bed with me. I think it was the stuff that happened after the dream that really bothered me, it felt like someone was in the room with me putting images in my head.

Does any of this mean anything? I have recently moved across the country to live with my parents and support them and I have been stressed  - missing my husband, my cat, my home, my friends, and dealing with dad's short temper and mum's grief. Maybe I just need some more sleep? A few members of my family have previously told me that they think they have some clairvoyance, maybe I should talk to them? Idk man I'm just feeling really weird about it all and like something bad is going to happen.

I have been having very odd dreams and experiences at night time.

For context, my dad is terminally ill, we found out in January that he had a tumor. By March he had lost his ability to speak, eat, and walk, and we were told it had spread to his brain and there wasn't much that could be done. He had radiation therapy to try and slow the growth of lesions in his brain and is on steroids to reduce swelling which has allowed him to regain his speech and some mobility but regardless, he likely only has months left.

Recently I have had a few dreams about my dad which have been quite disturbing. One of them I dont remember much of, but he was yelling at me that I wasnt doing anything to help him. He didnt look like my dad at all but in the dream, I seemed to know that he was my dad regardless. I had this dream twice.

Last night I had another, much more vivid dream. I had taken dad to a physiotherapy appointment and over the course of the appointment he went from being his normal happy self to being very difficult and argumentative and challenging the physio. When I tried to calm dad down and get him to engage he said "well what have you done to help me? What have you done to lessen my burden?". He was also calling out to Jesus, asking for help and singing "hallelujah".

This erratic behavior continued to the point that he was standing up laughing quite maniacally, flailing his arms around and launching himself at me. The physiotherapist said "sir what are you doing?" And dad said "oh nothing, I am just trying to scare my baby!" (I am his youngest child). The dream ended with him chasing me around the room, trying to put his hands around my throat while baring his teeth at me.

While my dad has been unwell he has a short temper and has been irritable but he has never acted out to that extreme and would never put his hands on me. Like the other dream, I was aware that this man didnt look like my dad but I had an awareness that it WAS my dad.

After I woke up, I felt very hot and cold and lay in bed for a while trying to calm down. After about 5 or 10 minutes I had closed my eyes to try to get back to sleep when I felt movement in the bed next to me, and when I opened my eyes I saw a flash of a shadow that looked like it was leaving the bed - like someone had been lying next to me and had gotten out of bed. I was sleeping alone so that was weird. After that I tried to close my eyes again but I kept seeing things behind my eyelids. The things I saw were in black and white but the shades were inverted like a film negative. I saw a face, a pile of entrails, and squiggles that looked like a brain.

I dont really know why I'm posting here, I guess I am wondering how much I should read into these dreams and the visions I had afterwards alongside the sense I had that someone was in bed with me. I think it was the stuff that happened after the dream that bothered me, it felt like someone was in the room with me putting images in my head.

Does any of this mean anything? I have recently moved across the country to live with my parents and support them and I have been stressed  - missing my husband, my cat, my home, my friends, and dealing with dad's short temper and mum's grief. Maybe I just need some more sleep or some therapy? A few members of my family have previously told me that they think they have some clairvoyance, maybe I should talk to them? Idk man I'm just feeling really weird about it all and like something bad is going to happen.

I have been having very odd dreams and experiences at night time. This is long and if you can be bothered to read it all I commend you.

For context, my dad is terminally ill, we found out in January that he had a tumor. By March he had lost his ability to speak, eat, and walk, and we were told it had spread to his brain and there wasn't much that could be done. He had radiation therapy to try and slow the growth of lesions in his brain and is on steroids to reduce swelling which has allowed him to regain his speech and some mobility but regardless, he likely only has months left.

Recently I have had a few dreams about my dad which have been quite disturbing. One of them I dont remember much of, but he was yelling at me that I wasnt doing anything to help him. He didnt look like my dad at all but in the dream, I seemed to know that he was my dad regardless. I had this dream twice.

Last night I had another, much more vivid dream. I had taken dad to a physiotherapy appointment and over the course of the appointment he went from being his normal happy self to being very difficult and argumentative and challenging the physio. When I tried to calm dad down and get him to engage he said "well what have you done to help me? What have you done to lessen my burden?". He was also calling out to Jesus, asking for help and singing "hallelujah".

This erratic behavior continued to the point that he was standing up laughing quite maniacally, flailing his arms around and launching himself at me. The physiotherapist said "sir what are you doing?" And dad said "oh nothing, I am just trying to scare my baby!" (I am his youngest child). The dream ended with him chasing me around the room, trying to put his hands around my throat while baring his teeth at me.

While my dad has been unwell he has a short temper and has been irritable but he has never acted out to that extreme and would never put his hands on me. Like the other dream, I was aware that this man didnt look like my dad but I had an awareness that it WAS my dad.

After I woke up, I felt very hot and cold and lay in bed for a while trying to calm down. After about 5 or 10 minutes I had closed my eyes to try to get back to sleep when I felt movement in the bed next to me, and when I opened my eyes I saw a flash of a shadow that looked like it was leaving the bed - like someone had been lying next to me and had gotten out of bed. I was sleeping alone so that was weird. After that I tried to close my eyes again but I kept seeing things behind my eyelids. The things I saw were in black and white but the shades were inverted like a film negative. I saw a face, a pile of entrails, and squiggles that looked like a brain.

I dont really know why I'm posting here, I guess I am wondering how much I should read into these dreams and the visions I had afterwards alongside the sense I had that someone was in bed with me. I think it was the stuff that happened after the dream that bothered me, it felt like someone was in the room with me putting images in my head.

Does any of this mean anything? I have recently moved across the country to live with my parents and support them and I have been stressed - missing my husband, my cat, my home, my friends, and dealing with dad's short temper and mum's grief. Maybe I just need some more sleep or some therapy? A few members of my family have previously told me that they think they have some clairvoyance, maybe I should talk to them? Idk man I'm just feeling really weird about it all and like something bad is going to happen.

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