u/PlaneEmbarrassed7677 — reddlx

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My best friend invited her husband to BFF day.

My best friend and I live about an hour and a half from each other. We usually get 1 day a year completely no kids or spouses. Just us, readi whip, ice cream, some good tunes and some gossip. We'll, we were planning our annual one for this Saturday. She hits me with oh, B wanted to come too. He says it's been too long since you've seen each other.

Now, I love B. Do not mistake this. But, this weekend was *sacred*. I arranged child care, also, told my spouse I would be MIA. Like, got everything cleared off my calendar except therapy type plan.

And I just said ok. But then she says, he only wants to come if we will be doing something besides sit around.

So, instead of blowing my top, I make some generic suggestions. Im so disappointed. Like, the whole point WAS just to sit around and be fat and spend time together. Now I gotta look at some stupid flowers and act like im not struggling to breathe. And her kids may be coming now. Idk just frustrated. Crackers bc hot gals have tummy troubles.

Edit: her huband doesn't really make this easy every year. One time she drunkenly told me if he ever found out we hooked up 20+ years ago (college) he wouldn't allow us to hang.

Edit 2: this was before she even met her husband. No relationship physically continued. She decided she was straight after the experience.

Also, not a same time if year thing. It just averages to once a year.

Im calling her on my way home. Will report back.

u/PlaneEmbarrassed7677 — 14 days ago

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Work advice for a middle aged mom

Hi, me again. I have been discussing a step away from my career due to mental health issues and the need to address them without distractions. Ive never had more than a year i have felt stable.

By trade: Im an accountant. Currently the only.one in my company and the boss is very much a tyrant. Im the 8th person in 2 years he has burned through.

Background: before 2013, I was doing psychiatric inpatient care and outpatient MA. Im thinking of what else I could possibly find fulfillment in and protect my wellbeing. Any suggestions from those more wise.

Info: I have bipolar 2 with psychosis, C-PTSD, Borderline personality disorder and DID. I also have substance use issues that are being addressed. My mom is dead and my dad is on meth, so im really flailing and need a kind word.

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u/PlaneEmbarrassed7677 — 1 month ago

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What do i do here? Feeling really lost and scared.

TW: SI and MH topics.

My employer has a toxic owner. As long as he stays out of things, all is well. Being the sole accountant, he is who I report to. We have a terse relationship at best. It is like that with every single employee there. Unless it is after hours or a social event. He's fine then.

I have alluded to this job taking a toll on my mental health in check ins. He tells me leave the feelings at the door. But the truth is I'm drowning. To the point, I am considering an inpatient stay for medication adjustment. I am having SI. I do have several pretty heavy mental health issues already. Bipolar, BPD, DID. I would most likely qualify for benefits, but have fought my whole life to not rely on them. I'm tired. I'm broken.

We are a small company. No FMLA. I have the option to ask for an unpaid leave, but I am a department of 1. And we dont even have 50 employees total.

My wife wants us to consider relocating near family, so we have support. And me to walk away from my career to address the mh issues. Ive done this before with great success. But I'm so scared. But im more scared of my mental state right now. I took an extra long weekend to really think. What say you guys?

Edit: autocorrect errors.

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u/PlaneEmbarrassed7677 — 1 month ago