u/Poetsansamour

I know there are different subs for discussing books but I really just want to chat with chums, not anything heavy? 💋

Anyone got air fryer hacks or tips or recipes. I have almost given up cooking this summer but occasionally starvation drives me to turn raw into a meal. I discovered hard”boiled” eggs so had several days of those mainly egg mayo sandwiches as I have a big jar of homemade chilli garlic mayo. I have discovered a million defrosting hacks and how to refresh donuts and bread, toasted sandwiches etc etc.

Still can’t sleep and I have thought of a new twist on an old game. Fill in the list of items that begin with the first letter of your user name. The rules are strict and there is a forfeit if you can’t answer any AND YOU MUST NOT USE ANY WORDS ALREADY USED BY ANYONE!!
List - Name of a girl, boy, flower, food, drink, country, city, animal, sport or game, bird
My answers AND PLEASE REMEMBER YOU CANNOT DUPLICATE ANYONES ANSWERS!!
Boy - Phineas
Girl - Pricilla
Flower - Pansy
Food - pie
Drink - Pimms
Country - Portugal
City - Pretoria
Animal - Pig
Sport - Pole vaulting
Bird - Puffin

IF YOU CANNOT ANSWER ( or duplicate) YOUR FORFEIT is to tell the story of your most embarrassing moment TRUTHFULLY.

Anyone caught cheating (this is serious because it is DO60!!! 😂 ) will be spanked . You can choose who you want to be spanked by! 😂
Playground rules ie My game, My rules! Anyone arguing will be spanked as above.
Bonus points for being inventive with your answers - upvotes will count!
Come and play - being a grown up doesnt have to be a full time job!!! 💋

I am feeling playful and it’s 4 am and I can’t sleep (smutty comments - go and stand in the corner!!! 😠) Ok so here is my game if you want to play. It’s an old game but my rules are strict so beware!
You are packing a virtual suitcase but you are only allowed ONE of each item but you MUST pack one. (NO EXCEPTIONS!!!) So here is the list - a work of fiction, a non fiction book, a poem (doggerel counts), a piece of music, an actor, a film and a comedic moment.
Mine are
FICTION - Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice
NON FICTION - Bill Bryson, Notes from a Small Island
POEM - William Ernest Henley, Invictus
PIECE OF MUSIC - Drew Trethick, Time to say goodbye
ACTOR- Clint Eastwood
FILM - The Way we Were
COMEDIC MOMENT - Only Fools and Horses , when Delboy falls through the open bar flap.

Please come and play with me!!
🙄

As someone who lives outside the USA, one has perhaps a distorted idea of therapy in America. I know of very few people who have had or are having counselling outside of marriage guidance or addiction. It’s expensive, hard to find and not covered by medical insurance in any of the 3 countries I have lived. I am pretty isolated and not confortable opening up to many people about the recent trauma in my marriage. I think I need grief counselling, anger counselling and counselling for shock even after 18 months of revelations. I would really love to know if and how it has helped you and how you find a therapist you have faith in - especially as I have been an independent thinker all my life.

I am a retired woman on her own who has lived in France for the last 30 years. I have very recently discovered that as my mother was a Mauritian citizen by birth that I am entitled to claim residency - something that I am keen to investigate. However most of my information on Mauritius is very dated and although I have friends who have recently relocated I would like a less rose tinted view. I am totally French / English bilingual snd even understand some Creole, and I was reared on Mauritian food so those aspects are not daunting. I do not want to live an « ex Pat » life. I like people, gardening, cooking, painting, writing, reading, my animals and the sea. I am not wealthy, would have a small amount of money to bring with me and a small monthly income.
My worries :
What is the health care system like - both for me and my animals - and is it costly?

Accommodation - availability and cost. I cannot envisage living without a garden. Whilst I do not want to live in isolation I am used to living in a very tiny rural village. I would hate living in an expat community

Transport - I understand that it is necessary to own a car. Just as an example - at the moment I own a Peugeot 208 automatic which I like. How easy would it be to purchase tge equivalent in Mauritius and what would the cost be. I am not the most confident driver on the planet so really need a reliable car if public transport is difficult. What are the distances usually needed for normal daily life eg shopping, medical visits etc

Weather / climate - the temperature on my region in France last week was 44.7C. This winter there was a week when it was -10C. I don’t like either. When it’s hot I sit in the shade, when it’s cold I sit in the sun. Tell me about cyclones?

Anything else about life in Mauritius - I know Mauritians from birth having grown up in a community of Mauritians surrounding me. My experience is of a clean, extremely polite and courteous people, cultured, intelligent, educated, open and outgoing whi like to socialise, entertain and gamble and bring their children up very well.

Please give me your honest opinions, good and bad and from all walks of life. I don’t want to live in a rose tinted bubble.

I keep reading what seems like conflicting facts. Some people say that the proportion of males to females is MORE females, others more males. Men complain that they don’t receive as many likes whilst women are inundated? That the older the age group, is more disproportionate in favour of males - yet I see males complaining that they don’t receive attention, responses etc. I understand that the younger one is the more interest one will engender, also that there are more young males than females in Western countries. Also that widows outweigh widowers thus skewering that dynamic.
Obviously I understand that location affects the amount of interest one gets, as well as ones individual profile and pictures but what is the underlying trend - who has it easier?
Personally at my age 75F, the likes seem to come in clusters. Some days I will get a few, sometimes one or none. I have tightened my profile requirements - no point in having wide ranges in age or location etc if I am never going to right swipe on people outside my parameters. I also have rigid education and height restrictions which work against me in my current location. Possibly my standards are too high, but when they were set lower I spent too much time rejecting potential matches. I would rather have fewer more realistic matches than waste everyone’s time. I still haven’t worked out how to exclude the kids, the scammers and the bots 🤷‍♀️ . I don’t spend a lot of time on the apps - just whizz through mainly left swiping unless something really takes my eye now. Low effort messages get low effort responses and come to nothing. I have pretty much stopped first messaging.