r/datingoverseventy

I'm not sure I like this phrase but it seems to be in my head a lot. I just googled it. The obvious meaning, what do you contribute? A meaning that I did find interesting was back in the late 1800s it was related to gambling and what were you bringing to the table, basically what was your stake that other people could win off of you 😁

It seems like meeting someone and initially dating is like a job interview. I try to stay away from that scenario and hope that that's not what it comes across as.

I'd like to focus on my positives of what I feel I can offer to a prospective partner. I'm pretty flexible when it comes to what someone likes to do. Just because I don't have something listed in my profile doesn't mean I'm not willing to participate in or go to check something out. I don't camp on my own, but I love to go! I don't have a cool classic car but I love to see them. I'll go to drag races! I'm flexible!

I'm willing to modify expectations. You want to spend more time together, I can do what I can to make it happen. If you want space, no problem.

I'm not rich but I don't need your money, in fact I'm willing to share costs on travel and dining.

That's just what I can think of right offhand....

So...what do you "bring to the table"?

Of course we all have our own rules too. Some of these are just common sense.

I think the biggest stumbling block I continue to have is even getting to a first meet!

I'm not trying real hard, but I've not given up yet.

If you're not retired, I'm sure you'd like to be. Please pick the option that best describes you. Results might be used for a future discussion about how these things affect dating. Thanks!

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Here's my latest DM request from a 5 year account that has 1 karma, no posts, or just hiding everything:

Silver-Werewolf-96173:14 PM

Have you an age range...

https://www.reddit.com/user/Silver-Werewolf-9617/

79 yo male. Chicago
Looking for a partner Have not had a response on any site. I have decided to talk a census to find out if I am searching in an empty room. For purposes of this you only have to be a living breathing sub 70 or older. . Location, size shape or preference not important. I will publish the results here so us old wizards will know if our lizard should bother looking.
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In looking over several Posts here in DO60 over the last few months, I thought it might be cool to share some of our positive go to thoughts, affirmations and feel good phrases we use from time to time to take us to that better place in our head. Is there a favorite saying you love to use that seems to make you feel better? Mine is..." This Too Shall Pass" its something my mother always said to me when I felt down or discouraged about something. Its always seemed to instantly make me feel better. What are some of your favorite, positive mantras or phrases that lift you up?✨️

I know there are different subs for discussing books but I really just want to chat with chums, not anything heavy? 💋

I know it would make a great song title right? Infact Huey Lewis & The News and Celine Dion both used it with thier hits years back. There are so many songs in almost every genre that can transport us back (within just a few notes) to a time or moment where we totally lost ourselves in that magical period in our lives. Of course amazing authors have written about the power of love for centuries trying to uncover and recreate that secret sauce.

But what is it in you, and what does that power mean? Within just a few words, sentences or musical chords... Is it important at this stage of the game in your life? Is it that one thing you are still missing and searching for? Is it Meh,? Have you ever really had it or truly experienced it?

Ahhh, aint love grand? LOVE! In the words from a wise ole grasshopper, ( no not the grasshopper from the old TV series Kung Fu) - its actually from my inner grasshopper wisdom. 😉 "Love, can be a many splintered thing, yet it can make the world go round!"

So tell me your thoughts or share your favorite song that can always capture this inner power within your heart.

🩵💜❤️

Got it at 21. Divorced since 2001. Dating has been really, really difficult. Can anyone relate?

It's a pretty short article, I will be looking for these type of articles from time to time to post here.

The article is only 3 years old, the subject matter isn't really going to change.

Ever get the notion to put some things together just to see if it comes out the same as what's in your head? I did that yesterday morning. I remembered that I had twice purchased some instant oatmeal in a lemon creme flavor that was amazing. It was discontinued, like anything I buy more than once.

I was reaching for my steel cut oats and noticed two cans of sweetened condensed milk on a lower shelf. I'd bought them last week for a recipe, then decided to go another route, so here they sat. While the oats were cooking, I took one of the two cans to the counter and punched it with a church-key. Then I recalled that on the top shelf of the spice cabinet, there was a bag of crystalized lemon packets. Hmmm. Yup, when the oats were almost done, I poured in a couple tablespoons of the condensed milk and a packet of the crystalized lemon. It was awesome; even better than the discontinued product I was grieving the loss of!

I know this sort of thing happens to everyone else too, so share your food related epiphanies here and let the rest of us benefit!

I feel like this business of being offended has become a fashion trend with far too many people. You can't get anyone's attention in a public place, because however you refer to them will be wrong. Say, "Excuse me, miss?" and get "MY PRONOUN IS '____'!" Okay, but you weren't wearing a sign to indicate that, so how am I supposed to know? What should I have said instead; "excuse me, person?" Or just "excuse me", then get called out for being rude and short with them.

Now, women are offended by having a man open a door for them. WHY?? Do they really believe the man opens the door because he believes all women are incapable of even this simple task? They are being told that an act of common courtesy is a gender slam and they're eating it up without checking the ingredients.

Someone steps to the side so that you can go first; you're offended. Why? Did you think that through before your settings went to "Permanently Butthurt About Everything"? In a restaurant, do you request your server to be a particular gender, so that you prove some convoluted point? Or do you understand that the server is trying to make a living and that your gender preference insanity is punishing someone who has no interest in either offending you or being your target of the day?

Those who know me understand that I am rarely the voice of reason in a given conversation, but this whole thing has gone so far off the rails and the media (including/especially the social variety) keeps fueling it for a broader user base. People seem much more easily led by the nose over the last few decades, especially. Whatever you tell them is believed without question if it puts them on the side of being able to point fingers at someone other than themselves.

I am violently allergic to strawberries. WHAT?? You're fruit shaming! I don't like any kind of berries. Oh, so you're prejudiced against round shapes. I think professional sports are ridiculous and completely unnecessary in every way. Oh, so you're unpatriotic.

We can't have opinions about anything without someone crying insult based mostly on the bullshit being fed to people who lap it up like it's sustenance rather than the poison it really is.

People are led to believe that being constantly offended means that they are sophisticated and worldly, that they are forward-thinking individuals, defending...I don't know, their right to paranoia displayed as defense of human rights?? What about MY right to be offended by all of this inane crap?

The energy spent on finding new and more inventive ways to be offended could be better spent doing literally anything else. Why are we doing this to each other and ourselves? All while we decry the way people can't find common ground. We'll never find it when we are so determined to ignore it.