u/notsohot56

I'm not sure I like this phrase but it seems to be in my head a lot. I just googled it. The obvious meaning, what do you contribute? A meaning that I did find interesting was back in the late 1800s it was related to gambling and what were you bringing to the table, basically what was your stake that other people could win off of you 😁

It seems like meeting someone and initially dating is like a job interview. I try to stay away from that scenario and hope that that's not what it comes across as.

I'd like to focus on my positives of what I feel I can offer to a prospective partner. I'm pretty flexible when it comes to what someone likes to do. Just because I don't have something listed in my profile doesn't mean I'm not willing to participate in or go to check something out. I don't camp on my own, but I love to go! I don't have a cool classic car but I love to see them. I'll go to drag races! I'm flexible!

I'm willing to modify expectations. You want to spend more time together, I can do what I can to make it happen. If you want space, no problem.

I'm not rich but I don't need your money, in fact I'm willing to share costs on travel and dining.

That's just what I can think of right offhand....

So...what do you "bring to the table"?

Of course we all have our own rules too. Some of these are just common sense.

I think the biggest stumbling block I continue to have is even getting to a first meet!

I'm not trying real hard, but I've not given up yet.

This article is a few years old but it does address what I'm pretty sure most of us are finding out.

Please comment if you would like some discussion on this or what you personally have experienced.

It's a pretty short article, I will be looking for these type of articles from time to time to post here.

The article is only 3 years old, the subject matter isn't really going to change.

Please play along! Let's have fun.

Okay I had this idea yesterday I think when there was a serious post about things you shouldn't message to someone if you've matched.

I'm sharing a short video from whose line is it anyway to give you an idea of what I'm looking for here.

Here's my contribution:

Can we go to a restaurant out of town? I don't want anyone to see me.

I'm sorry I couldn't clean up, I think my water was shut off.

Hi, and thank you to the moderators for allowing me to make this post!

Three of us have taken over this languishing sub about dating and other life situations and events that pertain to dating at this stage of life. We're starting out slow, trying to build a hopefully more tight-knit community. Link is to our sub.

If you feel like you might be interested, stop by, read our welcome statement and our rules (which are slowly being added).

Thank you for reading and thank you again moderators!

I just realized that while we have our community rules, Reddit also has their rules.

If you need to remind yourself what they are, please read to refresh yourself.

I need to do this periodically too! I want to stay here for awhile and I want other people to have a good experience too.

Feel free to share what you feel comfortable with about where you are at right now!

I am 7 months out of a committed relationship. I've been off and on FB dating. I get very little action there, and from everything I've read in the last few months I'm pretty sure I don't want to try any paid sites. I think I would just be happy with a steady boyfriend to share life's little pleasures with.

I was married for 16 years, been divorced for 25. I was briefly engaged a couple years after my divorce, that fell through. In my early fifties I met someone on POF and was with him for 6 years. At one point he offered marriage but it was for all the wrong reasons. I had verified trust issues and eventually decided to break it off. We're still civil to each other if we happen to see each other and he will text when something monumental happens.

I then dated a guy for a couple years but it was never going to be anything serious, just someone to do things with. That really wasn't working out so I slowly moved on. The last 3-4 years I was seeing someone I had dated off and on that I met soon after my divorce. It was kind of a fling and we both moved on. But we would keep in contact and in between relationships see each other. He remarried but divorced in 2020. Eventually we dated, but he was also seeing other women. That kind of bothered me. I stopped seeing him, but it was hard on me and we went back to dating after a while. We finally ended up in a committed relationship, which ended at the beginning of this year.

So! Here I am, approaching 70, with my cat for company! I'm open to a relationship, but I want my space. I'm not going to drive myself crazy looking, but it would be nice. I think I'm socially awkward. But I don't give up hope either!

I'm thinking about doing a food post on a regular basis, maybe twice a month for now.

Since probably most of us are on our own (I'm not, my grandson is here most of the time) what do you like to cook for yourself? Or are you a person that does a lot of take out?

I'm thinking we can talk anything about food on the biweekly post, even share recipes! You could post about a new restaurant you tried, a new meal you made, or just what your favorite go to food is. I made something fairly simple tonight that was pretty tasty so I'm going to share it.

I recently was out of town visiting family and my niece wanted to try the cilantro lime rice because she had it somewhere. You can mix quite a few things in with it if you like, we tried it with taco meat.

So tonight I made the cilantro rice. I tossed a little bit of cumin and garlic in it as suggested on the box. I sliced and fried up some Eckrich sausage and put a little slap yo mama seasoning on it. I put the rice, sausage, some salsa, and some fresh avocado slices in a bowl and it was quite tasty!

I'm 69 and had right hip done posterior. I knew what to expect as I had the left hip done 12 years ago. I think there have been posts about this issue on here before I'm not sure I didn't want to go hunting for them.

I do have an appointment in 2 weeks to address these issues but I'm curious now in case they just brush it off. I was doing pretty good for a while healing but it seems like the hip healed so far and then stopped. I can walk but I have a hard time walking any distance. This leg doesn't seem to want to have a gait that matches the other leg. I started going to the Y about 6 weeks ago to do silver sneakers and just other strengthening type of exercises, I did go through 6 weeks of PT. But I constantly feel movement in that hip I know it's not the implant I'm wondering is it the muscle it feels like a rubber band, there's just constant pulling and flexing twinges, when I lift my knee up to do like a march all this pulling and movement happens in my hip it's not super painful but it kind of is a little bit. There doesn't seem to be any flexibility in this leg yet and being able to maneuver it around. I was out of town recently just walking into a building and my leg decided it wasn't going to go any farther I could put absolutely no weight on that leg, someone had to go buy me a cane. I doubled up on Tylenol that day and the next day it was okay.

I'm wondering if the exercising I'm doing is aggravating the hip. I don't remember having all these issues with my other hip replacement. I'm just concerned they're going to brush off my concerns. I waited about 8 or 9 weeks before laying on that side when I slept at night and though it's a lot better now just sitting on anything firm or laying on that side will cause it to be stiff and uncomfortable. Every time I get up from my chair at work it's like I have to loosen it up to be able to walk.

So, currently sort of on a vacation visiting family. Pictures are being taken. I look in the mirror daily, try to look fairly decent. But I'm seeing these pictures of myself this week and ugh! Who is this old hag?

So I start thinking, why are you on a dating site? Yes, I know it's about what's inside that counts. But there HAS to be some physical attraction. But how much effort is adequate? I've read people comment on how they're not going overboard on hair, makeup etc they want to be comfortable. I look at my now white hair and wonder if I should try to color it again with a rinse so it's not permanent. I wonder if I don't know how to choose flattering clothes. And sometimes I realize that the type of clothes that I should wear are almost impossible to find! I don't want to dress like an old lady! I was never good at applying makeup. I don't want to waste money trying products and makeup and have it not work out.

Just feeling frustrated on how to present myself.

Yes it's basically a senior living community trying to drum up some business, the article is kind of long you can skip over certain parts but it was kind of interesting. Can't say I agree with everything that it says, there's still challenges.... What do you think?

Who's there? Who's here? 🧐. Come out and play!

It's been 6 months. I figured I should be getting past any lingering feelings. Lately I've been having dreams about ex, a couple times a week at least! I usually can remember a lot of the dream when I first wake up but then it kind of fades out during the day. They don't make me anxious but they do leave me feeling...uneasy.

There were no harsh words that night. I really don't know exactly why, and I've accepted the fact that I'll probably never know exactly why, I've come to a lot of different conclusions. And even though we have had a lot of restarts with each other throughout the years, I've decided that there wouldn't be another one. Maybe I'm worried that the time will come when he's at loose ends that he will contact me again I don't know. His final words to me were "There's nothing better in the whole world than sex with you". Hmmpf to me that was leaving the door open in the future sorta.

But now these dreams are usually along the lines of, I run into him somewhere and he's remarried, even though he said that was never going to happen. Or we're somewhere together but like friends meeting up after a long time, and I find out he has a girlfriend. Or last night the dream was along the lines of I had a missed call from him and I was trying to decide if it was a misdial or if he had actually called for me specifically. There's been quite a few more but they're all along the lines of me seeing him or doing something with him and then finding out he's not interested in me.

My subconscious needs to shut up! And all the deep thinking I have done in the last few months reinforced my belief that I should never have been with him to begin with.

Does anyone else have dreams about past relationships or recent past relationships?

Thought some of the pictures interesting 😁 link is to social catfish

This is a two-part question. First off did anyone take Atenolol then switch to Metoprolol? Reason I'm wondering is I have been on the Atenolol since September, but I was very inactive as I was awaiting hip replacement. I recently spoke to a cousin who said she was on Atenolol and switched to the metoprolol and it made a world of difference to her body overall. Secondly I just started Eliquis 2 weeks ago, 3 weeks ago I started an exercise / class program at the Y. Now I noticed that I'm exhausted and I'm not even doing cardio classes mostly strength and resistance though there is cardio involved. I'm 69, trying to do the right thing and improve my body but seems like I'm going to be swimming upstream if I'm fighting against medication that makes me consider giving up but I don't want to. Is the combination of both medications just going to wipe me out?