u/PoppySmile78

I ask this in all seriousness, not in judgement or jest. I'm 47 years old & understand that there are times the libido doesn't always keep up with the situation at hand.

I have started to date a guy. He's sweet, kind, smart & funny. I look forward to hearing his opinions on things & chatting with him in general. Twice now we've been in the midst of foreplay (once he instigated, once I did) & he just wasn't able to get/maintain an erection.

What should I do or say in this situation? How long should I (at his request) keep trying to "help"? I don't want to make him feel ashamed or embarrassed. It's not that big of a deal. But he keeps saying that it never happens, etc. I just don't know how to make him understand that it's not something I'm freaking out about but at the same time, I am 47 & work a very physical job. Sometimes my hips & knees can't keep going like they did in my 20s. So occasionally, I have to tap out.

Please let me know your thoughts on what you would prefer your partner do or say in this situation. I truly appreciate your help & hope this question isn't too PG-13 for this sub. Mods, please delete with my apologies if this is in the wrong place. Thank you.

I was talking to a friend of mine (Fred for ease of reading) who said he found a guy on Facebook who is such an awesome gambler that he's banned from the casinos.

The gambler is apparently trying to see how much he can win by having different people across the US make his bets in their name. They get to keep a percentage of the profit if they win & apparently he will send his own money to the to place the bet & cover any losses.

Fred says that all he has to do is open a crypto account, which he will have to initially fund & if I understand correctly have to back with his personal bank account. Fred is then supposed to send his crypto account info to the gambler who will then send crypto & tell him where to bet how much on which games.

Fred didn't believe me when I said it didn't sound good & got kind of offended that I said that. I like Fred & I know he can't afford to get scammed.

I appreciate any & all advice. Thank you.

It absolutely irritates me when I spend time typing out, what I feel to be, a well thought out comment only to find out the thread or post has been locked & won't allow further content.

I'm terrible at all things tech but I can't imagine it would be that hard to disable the comment box when they lock the thread. Then asking me if I want to save the comment I was just told I can't comment adds to the irritation.

There should also be some kind of override in the instance the thread was locked right after someone made an incorrect or uneducated reply to your comment.

Just needed to say it into the void. If I posted using the wrong format or sub, please accept my apologies. Mods, please delete (or lock 😁) at your discretion.